Jaggiyya should support ganga - Page 11

Originally posted by: rohini55

Two other points struck me. J agreed to marry to please his family. He had done badly by them and he needed to give them happiness. Let us assume his family would have been thrilled to see him married -- so delusional are they that theydon't see that he is feeling suffocated, they don't see that he is completely miserable. He in turn keeps says he is doing all this as an obligation. But what about the girl? No girl, not even saanchi, deserves to be trapped in a fake marriage because the husband is discharging an obligation.

Second point: Jagya's family tells him if he doesn't agree to the Sa proposal, Anandi will suffer. But if she did suffer because he said no, it would have been just for a while because the proposal did not even go through. On the other hand, marriage would have meant A being stuck in a situation where the ex-husband is a constant presence in the house. And given A's habit of saying J this and J that she would have been constantly pitted against Sa who would resent her bhabhi knowing so much personal stuff about her husband.Which is more awkward? J saying no to sa rishta or co-habiting with A as her nanand's husband? How did J not think about all this. But who thinks in any serial?

If people did think, they would know that no district collector will be allowed to stay in his personal house. The DC's official bungalow serves also as his after-hours office. Throngs of people come to meet him there. He will need to be accessible 24 into seven to his PA and other officers like deputy collector and Block Development Officers. Because managing a district is a nerve-wracking job requiring full attention.But cares for details?

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

@Picasso9: Sorry again for the late reply.
Lol no worries mate, I ain't mad. 😆 I was simply calling you out on what I perceived as biased behaviour. (Calling my comments "personal attack" while conceding to Jan50's comment). THAT was what I took umbrage at. For the record, I don't think there's anything wrong with being a villager, its the WAY she insinuated it that was derogatory.
"The people who are objecting to Jagya's actions are no better than the villagers who gossiped about Jagya-Ganga"--is this not intended to demean the other opinion? Your agreeing with it did amount to support a personal attack. Hence my "propriety" comment.
But anyway, no worries. As you say, life is short. 😆

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Kools: Here we're talking from JAGYA'S POV. He finds her suffocating, he should kick her butt and be brave enough to do it. Why hang between two women?

As i see it my dear its too early in the matter for him to do it .

I will tell u what i see .

An arranged marraige , where the man , twice divorced , agrees to the girl of his mother's choice . It happens in India all the time in arranged marraiges . The attitude of those who stand up for marraige for their family as they themselves r too career involved or once bitten twice shy by their own experimentation with relationships is , if this is for the family's happiness , the choice might as well be theirs .

This is not at all unusual or a shocker , marraiges in India r often done for family than for the individuals , a thing constantly harped on in BV . Its true as it happens many times .

Now this particular man is helping an abused woman personally much much before his fiancee got a crush on him and asked her family to propose to him and get him for her .

The man said ok as he would have indifferently said to any arranged marraige proposal especially as his mother was all for the alliance .

After the engagement , the fiancee and her mother r objecting to the philanthrophy he has been practising much before ...asking him to modify it or better still give it up .

From his end he is still the same . Indifferent and still helping the woman , with no idea that the intensity of dislike in the fiancee and her mother for his actions is very high . Hegot an idea of it on the phone where his fiancee asked him about having an affair .

After that , there has been till this point , no meeting .

But he has also not been shown thinking about breaking off . He has got immersed in other practical matters .

Now the fiancee is shown fretting and fuming and her mother has a face as black as thunder .

Its THEY who have the problem , clearly shown .

For me , there is no competition as to why Jagya can't break off why not she

He is fine , not making issues even of the affair accusation . He really has not given it serious thought . He promised her brother he will make it work .

It is she who is having problems . So i say , break off .

Eventually he will arrive at same conclusion .But since he is more mature , it will take time . At that time i will say he should break off .

But even when he starts feeling stifled , his mother will throw tantrums and hold his former failure at relationships as the cause of this break up , saying that he always made her fall flat on the face . She will not see that the girl is genuinely stifling him .

That is the tragedy . Let us see . At this stage since the problems r more from their side i say they should back off .

Originally posted by: Truthseeker

Hey i asked Jan how giving a saree to ganga is "helping her" ?Is this post a reply to that?

Originally posted by: Truthseeker

Hmm yeah i did forget that and there i made a mistake. When he agreed to this marriage , i was convinced then that he was at no fault in in all this because he is required to please his parents now after all what he did to them till then . I felt he should have asked for some time though.

as for Anandi speaking out with Ira - Don't think that would suit her character. She is well known to stay quiet when she is supposed to speak...and speaks a lot when she should stay put. Anandi could have done a lot more things starting off with staying away from blackmailing Jagya into this whole marriage thing. So i'll put her aside for a while and think about what J could have done as it is J who is entering into a new life and not Anandi.

J could have been a little open with his fiancee and could have told her that he accepted this proposal only because of his family. If he doesn't trust her enough on this he could have been open with Shiv atleast when Shiv asked him directly. He has a very good relation with Shiv. This staying quiet will only bring troubles and a failed 3rd marriage(If he continues to stay silent and goes ahead with the marriage). It is high time he voices his opinion..or at least shares his feelings with someone(in the family, not ganga)