Confused abot Marriaged

Hi All,

Please give me your valuable Suggestions. One of my friend is facing lot of confusion regarding marriage.

She is physically challenged. She got polio attack when she was kid. She has problem with one leg. She can walk and she can do her work independently. She is Engineer and working in reputed firm.

She had struggled a lot in her life but still could able to make gud career and she a very nice person.

When it comes to marriage, parents are very specific about caste and they are looking for a normal guy who does not have any physical problems.In her caste it is very difficult to get a educated guy. She is getting some offers guy does not have job and not much educated and every one clearly knows that those guys are coming for money and property.

My friend is very confused now weather she has to marry a normal guy who comes for money or due to some circumstances or a guy who is physically challenged like her.

She is unable to decide and very much confused.

If a normal guy is ready to marry her then is it gud to trust that guy(since we donot know his intention) ?

With out marriage also she can lead her life.

what decision she as to take now ?

Please give your valuable suggestions and please give practical(frank) answers.

With Regards

bharathi

Ohh wow!! that's a seriously hard hitting question... And I really do feel for your friend.

Caste, culture and tradition is something that our parents, grandparents, society and sometimes you as an individual would want to saver... So I respect the parents wishes in that regard. But even with that - NO one should be forced into wedlock...

As you said your friend is well educated and a career minded person - she should find a partner who is compatible with her -- not someone she has to babysit... NO WAY!! There are loads of people out there with some form of disability, who are doing great career wise... so a "disability" shouldn't something that should hold her back from the most deserving happiness... Her parents should support her -- and be strength to her -- not make her feel week and break her spirit... If they make her feel "disabled" so will the guy coming into her life... It needs to start at home before she ventures out into the wedlock world...

well why does she need to get married and how come parents want to restrict her to caste if shes not getting good proposal..physical problems are not the end ...if she can have a good career 👏 shes very capable of everything else. My advice would be forget marriage and concetrate on career and marriage someone will surely come along whos right for her 😛. Educated guys? well if shes got good job that would be no problem not everyone is into caste i say...i kind of understand her situation 😕 dealt with similar though not same kind of situation so do kind of know what i am saying.

Oh wow my smypathy is with you friend. Just because she is physically unwell it does not mean she can stop living her life. To me it seems like your friend is very determined she has a career of her own. As for marriage, she does not need to get married but every parent wants to see their kids get married, but if in her caste there are no guys that are suitable for her, I think she should go out of the caste. She should talk to her parents about it. If her heart doesn't agree in marrying one of the guys that are proposing than she should not.

Sobia

Thanks for response, you people hav given valuable suggestions.