Kumud's Freudian Moment

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Today Kumud's outburst at Saras was her subconscious mind (remember Freud?) venting out the irony of her predicament. Saras reflects all that she could have had if she had not in her pride insisted on getting married to the first available person. She sees that Saras is free whereas she is trapped while living under the same roof. Saras is the only person who understands her predicament so she feels safe to vent her frustration on him.
I think it was very apt that Kumud mentioned Saraswati because right now Kumud like Saraswati is behaving and feeling trapped in a loveless marriage; abused by a selfish husband who favors his mistress while belittling her; bound by old world thinking that she has to grin and bear it until death separates her from her husband; and too proudly weak to admit her entrapment!
She harps on relationships because relationships are strangling her neck as if held in a vice ... On one hand she does not want to shatter her parents happiness and on the other she does not want to admit to her in-laws that she cannot handle-n-reform Pramad.
Is it not an irony that a teacher in modern day India is unaware that addicts need a detoxification program?
Is it not an irony that a forward thinking political leader is unaware that addiction is a mental health problem and needs medical intervention?
The book was written before detoxification programs were common knowledge. On one hand the CVs are aware of Skype but on the other they are unaware of common medical advances!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Brilliant post...SP should propagate their 'Nayi Soch'...domestic abuse, alcoholism is prevelant world wide...but media should take the opportunity to spread proper message to the masses..be it through daily soaps...which is a popular form of entertainment..
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: arpitag12

Brilliant post...SP should propagate their 'Nayi Soch'...domestic abuse, alcoholism is prevelant world wide...but media should take the opportunity to spread proper message to the masses..be it through daily soaps...which is a popular form of entertainment..

Thank you 😊
Totally agree media should spread proper message to masses!!
For the sake of TRP they are propagating the message that the treatment for alcoholism is to get the person married and make it the responsibility of the spouse, in this case the wife (Kumud) to cure and reform her husband!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: anonee

Today Kumud's outburst at Saras was her subconscious mind (remember Freud?) venting out the irony of her predicament. Saras reflects all that she could have had if she had not in her pride insisted on getting married to the first available person. She sees that Saras is free whereas she is trapped while living under the same roof. Saras is the only person who understands her predicament so she feels safe to vent her frustration on him.
I think it was very apt that Kumud mentioned Saraswati because right now Kumud like Saraswati is behaving and feeling trapped in a loveless marriage; abused by a selfish husband who favors his mistress while belittling her; bound by old world thinking that she has to grin and bear it until death separates her from her husband; and too proudly weak to admit her entrapment!
She harps on relationships because relationships are strangling her neck as if held in a vice ... On one hand she does not want to shatter her parents happiness and on the other she does not want to admit to her in-laws that she cannot handle-n-reform Pramad.
Is it not an irony that a teacher in modern day India is unaware that addicts need a detoxification program?
Is it not an irony that a forward thinking political leader is unaware that addiction is a mental health problem and needs medical intervention?
The book was written before detoxification programs were common knowledge. On one hand the CVs are aware of Skype but on the other they are unaware of common medical advances!


Loved your post and especially your explanation for Kumud's venting out frustration and using Saraswati's example. IT is apt for her situation as she is just in the same place. Another member mentioned somewhere how Saras is also trying to mend this for Kusum as not only does he love her, but he wants to save her, especially because he could not save his mom. This is his redemption for both. So so well said! :)

Your questions are valid too. However, to be honest, they show the Dharmadhikari's to be political leaders, hence their son to be an addict undergoing a detox program cannot be pubic news. They will strap him to the house simply ut of fear of their image. Also, even now in India, in rural areas, the idea of detox programs or mental health care is not taken seriously as there is still a taboo attached to taking help for such matters. PEople still believe in handling matters inside the house as much as they can.

I am irritated that they are showing a Kumud who was independent and educated to be this sit at home crying wife to an abusive husband. They are showing that marriage to the right girl can cure addicts or that is the solution that parents should find for wayward sons. It is a little regressive. Although, it has only been a few days since the wedding so Kumud needs time to forget her trauma and stand up for herself. Now that SAras is there to lend her support and be the voice of reason in her life, she is going to rise like a phoenix once again.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Anonee,
Valid points, but in the story they are slowly unravelling how Samud overcome this abuse.

Any abuse, first step is realizing and accepting that it is an abuse. They are in that phase.

Any detoxification programme , the addict has to step forward to reform. There is no way others can try to push.

Pramad's side of the story will not be told to us, lest evincing sympathy for him. But it is beyond me to fathom, why basic human values are lacking in him. The values are gained by examples: atleast human empathy is.

All abusing partners have an abusive background family/personal story. It is the statistics and study. Makers are not attempting to fit this bit in the story.


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Posted: 12 years ago
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All the posts here are so mature and intelligent. I feel the cvs are confused in which period is Saraswatichandra being depicted. At one point they show all the latest technology, and then the next point they use archaic reasons for marrying off Pramad to Kumud. In the past, the tendency has always been to marry off a rogue with the hope that the responsibility and the wife will do the job.
The cvs should decide once and for all in which period they are.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I agree with your post. On one end we get iPhones and FaceTime and on the other side we have alcoholics and wh**emongers being married off to for wives to "reform" them? What is this the 18th century?

I don't think showing a self respecting girl like Kumud putting up with domestic abuse as her "fate" is the right way to go. One of the main reasons I liked Kumud was her no nonsense approach and never say die attitude. She has an ego, and she had a lot of self worth. Not your typical "crying Bahu", or a typical goody two shoes "martyr" type!

I understand that she is trying to hide the truth from her family and her in laws for her worry of what they will think and also for her pride! But how long can she hide abuse? She needs to tell the Dharamadikari's what Pramad is doing, so they can intervene! After all, it is THEIR responsibility! They got Kumud married to their son...knowing full well what a wastrel he is? Therefore it is only right that they intervene and resolve the issue! They put an unsuspecting girls life into misery! They should take some of the blame!

As for Kumud and Saras...she resents Saras as the reason that she ended up married to Pramad! She thinks she got this life courtesy of Saras betrayal of her! She has yet to think that she also agreed to this marriage on the rebound! But I DO empathise with why she did it! It will take her time to stop the blame game and move on in life!
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