name: naV toUR
name of the topic: LOVE AND HURT
name of the essay: tHINKIng heaRT
Love is an addiction that we'll agree to loose everything just to feel it once. Unfortunately, not all love are meant to last, nor meant to be. And when we lose that love, oh is it hurting. In a relationship that turns sour, losing the feeling is one pain that's difficult to overcome. And no matter how lover-boy or girl you are, the pain will break you. Even love gurus can't mask off that pain.
Love is so great that it's capable of doing wonders for anyone. But it also has the greatest potential in inflicting the hardest of pains and the deepest sorrows. Once (or more than once) in our lives, we all experience that pain. A break up with a longtime boyfriend or girlfriend is a perfect example. Or your husband committing adultery is another pain in the hurtest of terms. Or even being loveless is a pain brought about by lack ness of it.
In medicine, prevention is the best cure. In love, preventing a love ache before it happens is the best advice. We all wished we could have done better in a past relationship that has gone bad. Regrets. Regrets. Regrets. These things happen because we get carried away our by our love. Because of love, we become too nave that we brush off some tell-tale signs and tend to mask them by even more love. Some are in a stage of denial, believing into the partner will change and love the other in the same way. Or others just love, period.
People prescribe others to love unconditionally. No pretensions, no doubts, no expectations of reciprocations. That's a good idea. But we all live in a strange world where ideal is relative and fancy love quotes never seem to be applied. We could all say that love is blind, but would it be better if we are loving and at the same time we could see? We can't claim that we should love until it hurts, but how far can we take the pains? Forever? We can stand up to love without expecting anything in return, but don't we have a need to be loved as well?
I salute with the highest esteem anyone who wishes to be "mahan" when it comes to love. These ones are a rare breed and should be in social work, public service or should be a pope. We are human, and we have needs. We need to eat, drink, be merry, to love and be loved. Though we have to experience pain and hurt, these are not our needs.
You can blame you strict parents, your over jealous dog or your busy schedule for your batched up relationship. You can basically blame the whole world for your misery but it's you who's in a relationship and you should never forget that you should have a thinking heart.
A thinking heart is having a heart that not just loves, it thinks. Having a thinking heart may raise some eyebrows but what it simply asks is to aid the heart so it acts and loves better. Love is limitless, and abstract, and we are not. How can one live with a boyfriend that always has another girl? How can one has a wife that flirts with other men all the time? Saying that way is not a concept of love, and a thinking heart asks you to think about your present condition, even if you still love the person.
Think!
You should have a thinking heart when while you're loving, you're hurting at the same time. Have a thinking heart when it's becoming a one-sided relationship. You should have a thinking heart when your relationship is making you less of a person.
When you love too much, you stop thinking and you become irrational. It's hard to leave an unfaithful girlfriend when you still love her. It's difficult to separate with your lustful husband when you still love him and you think about your kids. But you have to make a stand, enough is enough. Having a thinking heart will make you weigh the situation, because simply love is not enough.
We are born to love and not to hurt. We owe it to GOD to protect ourselves from pain. If we care for ourselves first, then we can better care for others. Have a thinking heart.
--anju didi suggested me to post this piece here-- so here it is hehe
Shiv Shakti
