Does color matter?

Ever since the baby switcheroo track was initiated a question has been coming to my mind...

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Misunderstood your question completely, so I voted yes 😳 I mean no.. I think. I don't understand your question 😒

Excellent post Fatima. I do think in the subcontinent color matters. No matter how many slogans may be taken out and books written on the subject of black is beautiful, everyone in India aspires to have a fair child, bride or bridegroom. The proof of that lies in the innumerable matrimonial ads you see in the newpaper. It always starts with the line 'Wanted a fair, tall slim... During pregnancy milk with saffron is invariably given to expectant mothers to give them a fair baby. The market is flooded with fairness creams in the Asian continent be it India, Singapore, Philippines, Indonesia or Malaysia.The general belief is fair is beautiful, black is ugly. No doubt color should not be given this much importance and the overall personality should be taken into consideration, in the real world such pronouncements are considered idealistic and are brushed aside. It is a fair baby, a fair daughter, a fair wife all the way.which is the general motto. There may be exceptions but this is the general sentiment. The fascination of everyone with Daisa's granddaughter is the reflection of the same sentiment.Regarding your question whether sex of the child is more important than skin color than in that definitely to my mind sex of the child is more important in the Indian context. A son good looking or ugly is considered more precious as a daughter good looking or not will always mean more expenditure in the future.A son if not good looking but well educated or otherwise doing well is a prized possession as he will get the parents a fat dowry and be an insurance for old age but a daughter even if good looking will still mean a lot of kharcha for marriage. I think that sentiment exists in most of the subcontinent.

Originally posted by: fresco.

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Misunderstood your question completely, so I voted yes 😳 I mean no.. I think. I don't understand your question 😒

Originally posted by: UMDU

Excellent post Fatima. I do think in the subcontinent color matters. No matter how many slogans may be taken out and books written on the subject of black is beautiful, everyone in India aspires to have a fair child, bride or bridegroom. The proof of that lies in the innumerable matrimonial ads you see in the newpaper. It always starts with the line 'Wanted a fair, tall slim... During pregnancy milk with saffron is invariably given to expectant mothers to give them a fair baby. The market is flooded with fairness creams in the Asian continent be it India, Singapore, Philippines, Indonesia or Malaysia.The general belief is fair is beautiful, black is ugly. No doubt color should not be given this much importance and the overall personality should be taken into consideration, in the real world such pronouncements are considered idealistic and are brushed aside. It is a fair baby, a fair daughter, a fair wife all the way.which is the general motto. There may be exceptions but this is the general sentiment. The fascination of everyone with Daisa's granddaughter is the reflection of the same sentiment.Regarding your question whether sex of the child is more important than skin color than in that definitely to my mind sex of the child is more important in the Indian context. A son good looking or ugly is considered more precious as a daughter good looking or not will always mean more expenditure in the future.A son if not good looking but well educated or otherwise doing well is a prized possession as he will get the parents a fat dowry but a daughter even if good looking will still mean a lot of kharcha for marriage. I think that sentiment exists in most of the subcontinent.

No I don't think so it should really matter!

But I've seen many of my female friends suffering due to wheatish or dark skin colors esp when they search for a groom!

It's sad but bitter reality as well. Every girl in IND wants fair skin so they waste lots of money behind cosmetic products and spend time in saloon in a hope to gain fair skin color!

Whatever Uma aunty pointed is harsh reality of every region of IND.

I've also wheatish complexion and relatives always compared me and my sister who is fair! But it never put me off as I'm sharing really healthy bonding with her since childhood!

About gender difference:- The best answer I got while discussion among my friend circle is that instead of thinking to compete with each-other, we should focus on to appreciate each-other strengths! Both genders have their own limitations.

Also, my skin color never became a 'barrier' for me when i started to search for a groom! My husband never bothered about it as well. He and his family accepted me the way I'm.

When I'll become a preggy and someone comes and advise me to eat fruits or drink kesar milk so that my baby get a fair skin color - my straight answer to them will be big NO!

It's all bullshit! Skin of the color depend upon the genes of parents and in extreme cases grandparents!

Fatima, I have been uncomfortable about this skin color issue since Kanha's birth. I don't like how Meena bathes him in baby powder and how Vikram kind of looks down upon his own child😔 What they are depicting is still probably the reality in parts of India. Southern states have a darker population overall and skin color does not matter as much as it does up in central and northern India. Uma has said it all. I also believe that a male child is still preferred over a fair baby girl. But is is advantageous for a girl to be fair skinned overall. Having said that, there has been a welcoming trend in the recent times with darker skinned actors and actresses making it really big in bollywood, fashion world and on tv. The concept of beauty is slowly evolving. Propective grooms themselves do not care as much about skin color if the girl is attractive and has other desirable qualities. Among the educated middle class, girls with higher education and better career prospects are more sought after than the ones with just the fair skin.

Oh han in humans, melanin is substance who gives colors to skin and hair!

Generally, those with darker skin tones and more melanin are able to tolerate exposure to the sun for hours without getting sunburn. By contrast, a person with lighter skin may get sunburn after spending only minutes in the midday sun.🤓.

Originally posted by: -Amlu-

About gender difference:- The best answer I got while discussion among my friend circle is that instead of thinking to compete with each-other, we should focus on to appreciate each-other strengths! Both genders have their own limitations.