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Posted: 18 years ago

hello yaaro-- i just wrote an essay--
while writing this-- 2 jodis came to my mind-- JAI-BANi and SID-MASUMA
i wanted to share this with u all for DISCUSSION purposes--

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Posted: 18 years ago

Love is an addiction that we'll agree to loose everything just to feel it once. Unfortunately, not all love are meant to last, nor meant to be. And when we lose that love, oh is it hurting. In a relationship that turns sour, losing the feeling is one pain that's difficult to overcome. And no matter how lover-boy or girl you are, the pain will break you. Even love gurus can't mask off that pain.

Love is so great that it's capable of doing wonders for anyone. But it also has the greatest potential in inflicting the hardest of pains and the deepest sorrows. Once (or more than once) in our lives, we all experience that pain. A break up with a longtime boyfriend or girlfriend is a perfect example. Or your husband committing adultery is another pain in the hurtest of terms. Or even being loveless is a pain brought about by lack ness of it.

In medicine, prevention is the best cure. In love, preventing a love ache before it happens is the best advice. We all wished we could have done better in a past relationship that has gone bad. Regrets. Regrets. Regrets. These things happen because we get carried away our by our love. Because of love, we become too nave that we brush off some tell-tale signs and tend to mask them by even more love. Some are in a stage of denial, believing into the partner will change and love the other in the same way. Or others just love, period.

People prescribe others to love unconditionally. No pretensions, no doubts, no expectations of reciprocations. That's a good idea. But we all live in a strange world where ideal is relative and fancy love quotes never seem to be applied. We could all say that love is blind, but would it be better if we are loving and at the same time we could see? We can't claim that we should love until it hurts, but how far can we take the pains? Forever? We can stand up to love without expecting anything in return, but don't we have a need to be loved as well?

I salute with the highest esteem anyone who wishes to be "mahan" when it comes to love. These ones are a rare breed and should be in social work, public service or should be a pope. We are human, and we have needs. We need to eat, drink, be merry, to love and be loved. Though we have to experience pain and hurt, these are not our needs.

You can blame you strict parents, your over jealous dog or your busy schedule for your batched up relationship. You can basically blame the whole world for your misery but it's you who's in a relationship and you should never forget that you should have a thinking heart.

A thinking heart is having a heart that not just loves, it thinks. Having a thinking heart may raise some eyebrows but what it simply asks is to aid the heart so it acts and loves better. Love is limitless, and abstract, and we are not. How can one live with a boyfriend that always has another girl? How can one has a wife that flirts with other men all the time? Saying that way is not a concept of love, and a thinking heart asks you to think about your present condition, even if you still love the person.
Think!

You should have a thinking heart when while you're loving, you're hurting at the same time. Have a thinking heart when it's becoming a one-sided relationship. You should have a thinking heart when your relationship is making you less of a person.

When you love too much, you stop thinking and you become irrational. It's hard to leave an unfaithful girlfriend when you still love her. It's difficult to separate with your lustful husband when you still love him and you think about your kids. But you have to make a stand, enough is enough. Having a thinking heart will make you weigh the situation, because simply love is not enough.

We are born to love and not to hurt. We owe it to GOD to protect ourselves from pain. If we care for ourselves first, then we can better care for others. Have a thinking heart.

even though i dont like MASUMA for SID-- i still symphatise with her--

the only mistake she had done is to love truly--
and with this-- ill say that she doesnt deserve a loser like SID! 😡

cheers!
feel free to post ur reactions--

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Divya

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Posted: 18 years ago

Wow!! You've definitely put a lot of thought and work into that essay of yours!! It made very good reading...👏 A++++

Aaaah... Love!!

Well, I do, to a certain extent agree that certain types of love will give pain, heart ache and of course immense sorrow. But love is not that way all the time. Realistically, love does give lots of pleasure- even if it is ill-fated, in the beginning, or even at the end, just the sight of your loved one gives you joy... just hearing their voice makes your world tilt on its axis and a meeting of the eyes makes your worst fears seem totally irrelevant.

I 100% believe that love is food for the soul, and without heart-ache, how would you truly accept and understand infinite joy?

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. Love, whether in fiction or in life itself, can prove an emotional roller-coaster. There may be times of total depression and then, unrealistic ectasy.It is never easy saying The thought of being turned down is too painful...

At the same time, giving someone love, is giving them power over you, but a healthy love is not allowing that person to abuse that power. Love gives confidence with vulnerability, strength with the pain and ectsay with the sorrow...

Just my view! 😳

DiVyA

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Divya

@DivyaD

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Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: navtour

even though i dont like MASUMA for SID-- i still symphatise with her--

the only mistake she had done is to love truly--
and with this-- ill say that she doesnt deserve a loser like SID! 😡

cheers!
feel free to post ur reactions--

Did Masuma really love truly? Or was it blindly? She never took the time to get to know Sid, she never got to know about his past, what he wanted for his future. She assumed that she would get him because she was infatuated with him, then when he didn't like her, she became a petulant child, now that she is getting her way, she is devastated to realise that he had a life beyond her, before she met him.

Masuma wants to hate Mamta because Sid loves her, not Masuma, she can't come to grips with the fact that someone that she has fallen blindly and stupidly hook line and sinker for is mature enough to tell her no... for a very valid reason!! He does not love her!

I feel sorry for Masuma in the sense that she doesn't deserve what she is going throughg and Tanisha is exploiing those feelings of sorrow and devastation, but she wreaked havoc upon herself.

Did she at anytime speak to Sid about her feelings like a mature adult? Did she ask him what is holding you back? She expected him to fall for her once she fell for hi: Her first mistake!!! In love, there can be expectations, of course, there have to be, but you have to keep you head about you. It was obvious to everyone that sid had reservations about his relationship with Masuma, but Masuma goaded him into agreeing to the match, then ran to Mamta when Sid was against it.

Anyone with 2 eyes and a brain could see what was up, and the innocence of the situation of it as well, but if you wanna be blind, you're gonan get hurt... Masuma walked into this one all on her own... maybe the experience will make her grow up and realise not everything will be her way in life... finally!!! Let's hope though that she is not hurt enough by it to want to wreck Mamta's and Akshay's relationship out of spite!

The worst part is that Akshay is still crying about his BABY sister... she was about to get married for God's sake!!! How baby can that be? 😡

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Leena

@jigglypuff726

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Posted: 18 years ago

wow! this is such a deep topic. i shall post my full views soon! btw, i don't sympathise with masuma, don't expect me to.😊

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Posted: 18 years ago

wow.. Nav n DIvya.. Awesom job.. just brilliant... 👏

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Hiral

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Posted: 18 years ago

hey navtour
why dont u put this in the wrting conest.. this stuff is really really good...

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Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: DivyaD

I 100% believe that love is food for the soul, and without heart-ache, how would you truly accept and understand infinite joy?-- wow i lik ethi sline hehe

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. Love, whether in fiction or in life itself, can prove an emotional roller-coaster. There may be times of total depression and then, unrealistic ectasy.It is never easy saying The thought of being turned down is too painful...

At the same time, giving someone love, is giving them power over you, but a healthy love is not allowing that person to abuse that power. Love gives confidence with vulnerability, strength with the pain and ectsay with the sorrow...

haha ur views are very nuetral yaar👏

but i just had an observation--
i have so many friends and everytime that i listen to their so called love stories-- there's always two common things in it-- LOVE and PAIN--

and the surprising thing is: people unknowingly compete for the award MOST PAINFUL LOVE STORY--

i mean how ironic is the fact that the more painful ur love is-- the more GREAT it is--

even the romatic stories like 1947 a love story-- TERE NAAM-- A WALK TO REMEMBER-- or THE NOTEBOOK-- tragedy is part of it--

uff i sometimes wonder y do we all like to LOVE if so many occurences can rip ur soul apart😭

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Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: DivyaD

Did Masuma really love truly? Or was it blindly? She never took the time to get to know Sid, she never got to know about his past, what he wanted for his future. She assumed that she would get him because she was infatuated with him, then when he didn't like her, she became a petulant child, now that she is getting her way, she is devastated to realise that he had a life beyond her, before she met him.

Masuma wants to hate Mamta because Sid loves her, not Masuma, she can't come to grips with the fact that someone that she has fallen blindly and stupidly hook line and sinker for is mature enough to tell her no... for a very valid reason!! He does not love her!

I feel sorry for Masuma in the sense that she doesn't deserve what she is going throughg and Tanisha is exploiing those feelings of sorrow and devastation, but she wreaked havoc upon herself.

Did she at anytime speak to Sid about her feelings like a mature adult? Did she ask him what is holding you back? She expected him to fall for her once she fell for hi: Her first mistake!!! In love, there can be expectations, of course, there have to be, but you have to keep you head about you. It was obvious to everyone that sid had reservations about his relationship with Masuma, but Masuma goaded him into agreeing to the match, then ran to Mamta when Sid was against it.

Anyone with 2 eyes and a brain could see what was up, and the innocence of the situation of it as well, but if you wanna be blind, you're gonan get hurt... Masuma walked into this one all on her own... maybe the experience will make her grow up and realise not everything will be her way in life... finally!!! Let's hope though that she is not hurt enough by it to want to wreck Mamta's and Akshay's relationship out of spite!

The worst part is that Akshay is still crying about his BABY sister... she was about to get married for God's sake!!! How baby can that be? 😡

ill speak for mASUMA right now--

as for being inlove with SID-- there is a thing calle "LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT"-- yes one very old quote or saying been used by everyone to give name for an emotion felt for a stranegr at first meeting--

yes she acted childishly with SID but is it her fault that the sentiment she was feeling for SID made her act like that--

well MASUMA was relly so stupid to fall for SID at the first place, but is it in our hands to control or sentiments or emotions--

and about SID-- tsk ab kya kahu-- he is so INSENSITIVE--
i like him so much but now he's too much yaar--
i never expected teh DESTRUCTUVES will make him so DEEWANA for MAMTA--
as if for SID-- MAMTA is the only person that is right, the only person he can love, the only person he can care for, the only person he can UNDERSTAND--

MAMTA dont love him-- and the REJECTION he got from her is needed-- bcoz she cant love him back bcoz she's married--

now bcoz of that REJECTION-- he is doing the same thing with MASUma--
how rude is that--

well it will really be wrong if AKSHAY will get angry at SID for MASUMA's condition-- but i would love to see AKSHAY giving 2 to 3 punches to SID just to wake his INNER SOUL!!!

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Leena

@jigglypuff726

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Posted: 18 years ago

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love at first sight. an emotion that made masuma an emotional wreck. but we are humans not animals. we can control that emotion. masuma should have understood or at least tried to understand why sid was avoiding her. but no, she acted all desperate for him. masuma needs to get her facts right.

this world is selfish. letting your heart rule is sheer stupidity. ur just asking to get hurt. use your brain. how many love at first sight stories have soured? in this world, u want to love, use your brain. if you don't want to, don't love at all. i can say that i have got some experience & i can clearly say that love at first sight is just crap. masuma didn't experience love with sid. it was just crazy obessesion. plain & simple. if that emotional wreck doesn't get her act together, she is going to find life tough. why can't women be stronger?

u guys want to know why i hate masuma so much? i hate her character. it's so needy, weepy & whiny. yeah, she set bua in her place but that doesn't make up for her desperation to get sid. sliting your wrist for a guy whom you barely know? wow. that is the most disgusting thing i have ever seen. pia from 'kasamh se' is a step ahead but since we are discussing abt mamta & masuma. yeah, these are my views. masuma is an emotional wreck who is needy & in the least to say stupid enough to believe tanisha.

lord. i wish her character can be cleverer & more practical & LESS desperate.

and akshay is wrong if he blames sid entirely for mausma's condition. hello? masuma is not a year old baby who needs spoon feeding. if she had been stronger & more practical, all these won't have happened. she is a grown woman. don't tell she lets her heart think SO much for her that her brain just switches OFF??

u want to dish out the blame? masuma - 70%, sid - 29%, akshay and his family - 1% (for not taking their emotionally disturbed daughter/sister in hand.)

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