Can love happen twice???

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Posted: 12 years ago
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I have been thinking about this for many days. I have been wanting to make a post on this topic since the day I came across some people saying against this...

Well, I am talking about falling in love AGAIN in your life. I read this on a forum where people were saying if you fall in love again in your life then your earlier love wasnt REAL at all and that it must be nothing more than mere strong attraction.

Well, this shook me to the core, because I have always believed if you can love your parents equally, then certainly you can love more than one person in your life... And PV just strengthened my this belief.

Coming back on this topic, I want to start a HEALTHY discussion if one could really fall in love twice or am I wrong in believing this.

Is it really so that if you fallen in love twice in your life then your earlier love affair (even though its serious and due to some reason you just couldnt unite with that person) was not that strong????

Before we start a conversation, let me remind you of our PV where Yash and Aarti fell in love with each other even though they were being in love earlier... Can we say Yash's love for Arpita was not that strong??? Or Aarti's love for Prashant was fake??? Though Arpita was dead and Prashant's betrayal were the main reasons why they both came closer to each other but we cannot forget that they were in love before. And even when Aarti started respecting Yash she was still in love with Prashant. Een though she had started feeling something something for Yash, her heart still felt for Prashant, and it was only after Prashant came back and spoke those mean words about her and questioned her if Ansh was his son or not??? It was only then that she actually started hating him... But that was not the reason why she fell in love with Yash.

I believe that how strongly you fall in love with a person, giving your life a ssecond chance, the place of the first love can never be placed. It is possible that you still feel for a person, yet you are in love with someone else...

It is the matter of being together that your love increases exponentially and thus, you dont have to look for love in your life but if any way you are forced to leave the person you love, isn't it possible to fall in love someone else and still having true feelings for your first love.
(Ok, dunno if I made any sense here)

But, I would like to know your views if you think that love can happen only once in a lifetime or you believe otherwise.

And I hope we could have some healthy discusssions without offending anyone and without hurting anyone's feeling and I know our forum is capable of having such a discussion...

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anonee thumbnail
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Priyasi - you have raised a very good quesiton.
Love between two is essential but so is a sustainable emotional and behavioral compatability between the two individuals.
Prashant's and Aarti sustainability/compatability factor was low and it was eventually followed by Prashant walking away.
We never got to see Arpita and Yash's compatability/sustainability factor as Arpita died young. All the flashbacks were romantic in nature so we never got to see them in routine day-to-day interactions. I suspect there was some issue over there because there were no pictures of Arpita and Arpita-Yash with the kids.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I strongly believe that love can happen twice. It happen to me, I experienced love twice, you don't forget your first love, but you can love equally strong second time.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Priya tumne jo kuch bhi kaha hai totally agree wid you n after watching PVZMD no doubt ki love dobara bhi ho sakta hai😃
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Posted: 12 years ago
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You can fall in love again but first love will never be forgotten!!! In Yash 's case, he was lucky Arpita was a wonderful human being...falling in love with Aarti doesn't mean he has forgotten Arpita, he has just moved on.

Aarti will never forget Prashant as he was her first love and he gave her Ansh...however the ugliness between them will make her want to move on with Yash and can you blame her!!!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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hopefully i will unreserve it soon 😊
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Hi Priya, very nice post/thought!

This is why i am still haunted by the show's abrupt ending.. so many things to delve upon regarding the different characters. I believe that Yash loved Arpita in that 'young love, sweet love' line, same is through with Aarti's feeling for Prashant. That carefree

Philosophers say we get to experience three stages of love in our life, puppy love, first love and true love. I might fit Yash and Aarti's earlier experiences to the category of first love, that most basic dictation of the mind saying 'I want you and i want you to want me too'. And rightly so, they played it as it is. Unfortunately, fate have other plans for them in the form of different disasters.

Their second venture i'd say is true love, where sense and sensibility came first before the push of wanting and needing someone. It was gradual but full-knowing. Of course, there's the possibility of that first love becoming true love, only we were shown different in the show. In real life, yeah, i believe it is possible for love to happen twice without marring the first love.

In the second PV, that of SP-Radha, i remember feeling frustrated that they were being married off and we the audience did not get to know what they were thinking or feeling. I wanted to know the elders take on it so much... *sigh*
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Posted: 12 years ago
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very sensitive topic

but i think it can
as I have seen many people settled in their life again after not successful first time
and of course yash and aarti example we have too
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Posted: 12 years ago
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For me, I totally believed that love can happen twice...

I don't know what to say..

But I always believe in this sentence (strongly)..

If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never meant to be.


If you observe this sentence properly, I think you'll get your answer..

But if it never meant to be for you, then believe me, a second one is waiting for you ! 😊

You can try relate it with Yash-Aarti story too ! I won't tell you much as I'm still very young and for me, Love is very complicated.. 😆

I hope you'll find some good answers from our other experienced friends.. 😳 But think about the quotes I have posted, that particular quote had helped me and many others to get over our first failed love and move on till we'll meet another love ! 😉

Anyway, Punar Vivah-Zindagi Milegi Dobara serial itself has given us an answer through Yash-Aarti relation! 😃
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Priyasi,


This was the crux of our show. That you can fall in love twice and that when you fall in love again that doesn't mean you have to completely forget or erase the memories of your first love. They can coexist. Love has so many facets and so many different meanings. I think Yash loved different things about Arpita and Aarti because both the women were very different in the way they dealt with life. He probably admired and respected different things about Arpita and Aarti. Falling in love does not mean there is only one set defined way to fall in love. Similarly the reasons for which Aarti fell in love with Prashant and why she fell in love with Yash were entirely different based on circumstances as well as her maturity and what she wanted from life at that point.


Prashant did wrong by Aarti but I can never say Aarti's love for him was fake. I completely disagree with this argument that Yash and Aarti's love was the true love and not their first loves. I do believe Yash and Aarti were soul mates (that is if you believe in the existence of soul mates) but their first love with Arpita and Prashant respectively was just as much real and true as their love for each other was. One of my favorite Yash-Aarti interactions of the show was during the Diwali episodes. Prashant instigates Yash by saying that Aarti will never be happy that he still loves Arpita. Yash then confronts Aarti about it and asks her if it is necessary that he will have to erase Arpita's memories to make place for new memories. And Aarti retorts angrily saying that she has never ever asked that of him and no outsider should dictate how their relationship should be. That to me defined Yash and Aarti's relationship that they loved each other immensely, they were soul mates but they didn't have to trivialize their first relationships to prove that their relationship was the true one. I think the creatives showed this message beautifully with Arpita-Yash-Aarti triangle. But alas, before they could do it for Prashant-Aarti-Yash triangle, the channel interfered and that story was cut short.


I thought the BMT track was very important. I know a lot of viewers were pissed at Aarti for interacting with Prashant during the BMT track. But I loved it because I thought Aarti was going through two monumental realizations with regards to her relationship with Prashant as well as Yash.


Realization 1: She for the longest time was holding herself responsible for hers and Prashant's break up and she was finally seeing that she was not the only one at fault. I especially remember the scene where she takes Ansh for a transfusion and Prashant then drives her home and their car gets stuck and she has this conversation with Prashant about love and Nida and such. During that time she tells Prashant how he never valued relationships. It was so beautiful because I could see an evolution in Aarti's thought process. She always thought that Prashant did his parents a disservice as well as Ansh but for their relationship breaking up I think she took most of the blame. But I think during the BMT track was when she came to the full realization that she needn't put all the blame on herself for her disastrous relationship with Prashant. Because by then she had come to realize how beautiful a person Yash was and how he valued relationships like she did and if her relationship with Prashant broke up, she wasn't solely responsible for it and Prashant was equally or in my opinion more so to be blamed than her.


Realization 2: I think she also felt that she had to hate Prashant to completely fall in love with Yash and I think she would have eventually figured out that her feelings for Prashant who is the biological father of her son and her feelings for Yash who is the man she has given herself to physically and emotionally as well as the man who is the real father of her son in every way that matters, can coexist. She didn't have to deny Prashant his child to prove the fact that Yash was Ansh's father now or that it was Yash who she loved now. I think that was where the track was eventually leading to.



But so sad that the audience could only see Aarti lying to Yash during the BMT track. Yes, on a superficial level that is what was happening but on a deeper level there was so much more happening. The audience couldn't pick up on the subtler emotions and realizations that the CVs were making their female protagonist go through. No, I am not blaming the general TRP audience at all but just the realization that this show was certainly ahead of its times and maybe one of the reasons why the TRP audience- who seems to like everything explicitly spelled out to them- couldn't accept that track. 😭


Fantastic post, Priyasi. 👏

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