What does Manav think?he really expects that? - Page 5

Originally posted by: stg1

yeah, this is common and acceptable to a lot of people, i dont like it but it happens unfortunately and not just in india! example, i'm in the uk, born and brought up, and my cousin here married a boy of her choice who told her that they would be living with his parents after which she accepted.

after marriage she was told by her in-laws that she had to always be properly dressed in the house, as in not in night clothes/pyjamas/dressing gown and western clothes (that we practically live in) were ok for work, but at home it had to be traditional indian wear!

so, 21st century female, degree educated, great job, liberal upbringing - and the fundamentals at her in-laws r the same as they were 20 or 30 years ago for our parents generation! we find it hard sometimes to accept that she's ok with this as she was totally different at her parents house, but i guess if u're happy within ur marriage u adapt and these things matter less 😊

but yeah, i agree with u, i get angry at anyone encroaching on my personal freedom, my parents have brought me up with my own value system and a certain set of beliefs, i am who i am so i dont know why i should change myself for ANYBODY. but i think they have to show this because more than cc adapting they have to show the change in maanav too, if he was perfect right now there would be no story 😛

why are we making it a big issue? after marriage it takes time for husband and wife to understand each other time will teach them, immideatly after marriage manav cant ask chhanchhan to ware western clothes and nites to rome in the joint family with so many elders . my cousin before marriage used to ware western outfits and got married in a big orthodox family of trediations it was very difficult to work with sari but it took time of six months [wives teach them ] and today she weares dresses which are comfortable for her and every one in the family got used to see her in it , today she is the one who drives the car among other ladeys in that joint family.

Originally posted by: lazylad8-FauZi

Women used to change in the olden times, now its a different world!!!!!!!!!!

Hang on ... who said only the girl has to change? BOTH the girl and the guy change after marriage ... they both have to get used to living with each other ... and BOTH have to make adjustments. Usually the girl makes more adjustments if she's living in a joint family, that's true ... but that's not to say that the guy doesn't change at all ... in fact, in a nuclear family I find more things are done the girl's way, because she runs the house ... guys usually don't bother about the details ...

It's also not right to say that neither girl or guy will change at all, they will both stay exactly the same as they were before marriage ... that's not happening!!! They BOTH have to change after marriage, they BOTH have to adjust with living with each other and with the other's families. You can't say that a girl should not change at all and the guy should make all the adjustments ... that's equally lop-sided. They don't erase their lives before marriage ... they have to add each others' habits to their lives and move ahead together.

just finished watching the episode with english sub, and
i feel bad that manav reproached chhanchhan in front of rb.


no doubt, he has seen chhanchhan wore sarees before, but manav needs to understand that she
DOES NOT wear them to do housework...

I totally agree with u! I was soo angry with Manav...😡

CC's Manav is just a 'manav' after all so he makes mistakes like all of us 'Manavs' do. 😃' 😆 did that make any sense?😆

I got more angry when he said...how do my bhahies work wearing saris whole day...HE should have worried if CC was hurt when she fell...typical desi man...😡

In reality to be honest someone like Chhan Chhan will question why Jaagaran & no Suhag raat. Why reet rivaz & no honey moon. Even Manav should have questioned that.

I was too pissed of with Manav when he said you could not even manage to walk in saree. I expected him to say that don't worry, we will find some solution to this but guess Manav is still immature and he still is new for the responsibilities of a husband.