Ranjana and Sanjana are losers

Honestly, if you are gonna act like a pet dog and sit when your MIL tells you to and get up when your MIL tells you to, you deserve to be treated like a dog for the rest of your life. Umaben told Ranjana and Sanjana to go make 300 rotas or whatever and they nodded their heads like idiots and got to work right away. If these women have no spine to stand up against this BS and respect themselves, then they shall live the rest of their lives as UB's slaves. *shake my head*

I would purposely do the opposite of what she says so she never dares to order anyone again.

...and their husbands ...they don't support their wives...what kind of men are they?

They're jealous of CC because her husband loves her so much while there husband wouldn't even touch them 😆

Where it is exaggerated a bit it's also reality. And where you think it's BS and would tell your MIL that you're not going to do what she says, there are a lot of daughter in laws in all parts of the world who aren't going to talk back. My mother would never make such a demand but if she did, I would be crazy mad if my sisters in law said "Uh, no, we're not doing it." It's not acting as a pet dog as much as it is respecting your MIL, no matter how tough she might be.

The MIL-DIL is a very touchy relationship. If your mom asked you to do something you didn't want to, you could argue back, refuse, sulk ... whatever ... and it doesn't matter. A small squabble, a fight, and it will blow over with no hard feelings either side.

When a MIL asks you to do something, even if it is justified, and DIL doesn't want to do it, even if she has a good reason, like she has something else she needs to do, the situation is far more delicate. It's not that easy to just say no ... both sides harbour the issue in their heads for far longer. And the issues can build up in their heads and keep accumulating till they blow up.

The husbands have a huge role to play here ... if the husband makes it plain from day one that his wife comes first, then the MIL will back off, for fear of losing her son ... as Umaben had to do with Manav. Even now, she dares not be openly nasty to Chhanchhan ...
If the husband makes it clear that his mom is superior in the pecking order and has to be obeyed regardless, then most DILs really have very little choice ... unless they become obnoxious and vampish ... neither Ranjana or Sanjana are that.

Here both Manek and Manthan are not supportive ... Manek seems to be completely under his mother's thumb, while in Manthan's case, Sanjana herself is too simple and dumb to argue back. If she did, Manthan might be more supportive than Manek ... he has already shown himself to be more street smart and crafty than his other brothers. Probably that's why Umaben made sure to get him a dumb wife 😆

Sad but true in a lt of cases in the villages. City girls like CC can reason & talk back because they are educated & confident. Remember how CC was not shook by the punishment talk that UB gave, while the other two were behaving like toddlers who have been reprimanded.

Dumb women with dumb men..rab ne bana di jodi..🤔
i hope CC and manav together bring the change which they need..

Originally posted by: DiyaS

The MIL-DIL is a very touchy relationship. If your mom asked you to do something you didn't want to, you could argue back, refuse, sulk ... whatever ... and it doesn't matter. A small squabble, a fight, and it will blow over with no hard feelings either side.

When a MIL asks you to do something, even if it is justified, and DIL doesn't want to do it, even if she has a good reason, like she has something else she needs to do, the situation is far more delicate. It's not that easy to just say no ... both sides harbour the issue in their heads for far longer. And the issues can build up in their heads and keep accumulating till they blow up.

The husbands have a huge role to play here ... if the husband makes it plain from day one that his wife comes first, then the MIL will back off, for fear of losing her son ... as Umaben had to do with Manav. Even now, she dares not be openly nasty to Chhanchhan ...
If the husband makes it clear that his mom is superior in the pecking order and has to be obeyed regardless, then most DILs really have very little choice ... unless they become obnoxious and vampish ... neither Ranjana or Sanjana are that.

Here both Manek and Manthan are not supportive ... Manek seems to be completely under his mother's thumb, while in Manthan's case, Sanjana herself is too simple and dumb to argue back. If she did, Manthan might be more supportive than Manek ... he has already shown himself to be more street smart and crafty than his other brothers. Probably that's why Umaben made sure to get him a dumb wife 😆

I don't think they are losers, I think they're handling the situation the way they've been taught and the way they've seen all their lives.UB is also manipulating them fully by making the FIL to be the bad guy who has to be pleased and naking herself out to be the reasonable one who understands what her bahu's are going through but what can she do this is what the FIL expects. More than the women I blame the parents who teach their daughters that they go to their in-laws house in a doli and leave on an arthi.The younger one is not the brightest spark but then those people exist but the thing is even in her naivite she does state the obvious truth...like yesterday she reminded her sister that it was she who brought up the punishment topic again.Neither of these two have the support of their husbands which again is quite a coomon occurrance in the joint family arranged marriage system. Many MIL's will try to create differences with the son and his wife to maintain her position and out of worry that the new DIL will take the son away. Not realising if they just treated the DIL properly then why would she want to leave?

Originally posted by: jaya100

<font face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif">I don't think they are losers,I think they're handling the situation the way they've been taught and the way they've seen all their lives.UB is also manipulating them fully by making the FIL to be the bad guy who has to be pleased and naking herself out to be the reasonable one who understands what her bahu's are going through but what can she do this is what the FIL expects. More than the womenI blame the parents who teach their daughters that they go to their in-laws house in a doli and leave on an arthi.The younger one is not the brightest spark but then those people exist but the thing is even in her naivite she does state the obvious truth...like yesterday she reminded her sister that it was she who brought up the punishment topic again.Neither of these two have the support of their husbands which again is quite a coomon occurrance in the joint family arranged marriage system. Many MIL's will try to create differences with the son and his wife to maintain her position and out of worry that the new DIL will take the son away. Not realising if they just treated the DIL properly then why would she want to leave?</font>

<font face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif">After UB, manthan is the character that fascinates me the most. He obviously has a chip on his shoulder about Manav's relationship and being allowed to marry the girl of his choice. I wonder if he had a girlfriend and UB didn't allow the relationship. Early on we were told he had left home and UB had convinced him to come back and then probably got him married to the girl of her choice. UB was more concerned about getting bahu's for her home rather than wives for her sons so Sanjana and Ranjana are the perfect fit. It'll be interesting to see how all 3 bahus react to CC's way of thinking and to see how receptive they will be to change.</font>

Wow, great post. I agree with everything you said except for parents teaching them to be dumb and tolerate injustice. I think a person's personality plays a bigger role in how much they will tolerate rather than how they have been taught. In any strict family, there can be a rebel and in a carefree, chill family there could be a timid, bechari type, sacrificial girl. I think any normal human being should have the common sense to say enough is enough after a certain point.

It is so true that UB's plan to rule over her sons and DILs has been working up till now because she brought home girls of her choice specifically from the village. This time, CC is a confident, self-respecting girl AS WELL AS manav's jaan. So it won't work this time.