Gauri ......Right or Wrong.....? - Page 2

Originally posted by: apux

so its quanity vs. quality of life!

ummm, dunno...love makes ya do crazy things...cuz I know I wouldn't go back if I was Gauri, but then again I've never been so much in love like Gauri is...Gauri can't see beyond Shiv...she doesn't care about her life but what about the others around her...they care about her life, her dad sister, dada, dadi, and shiv too...she'll die and escape the world of pain and grief but does she think about impact her death will have on others...I just gotta say Shivy baby is quite lucky to have a wife that would give up her life for him like that, and that too without expecting any love from him...

Boss... there is an inherent problem in Indian culture.....

Whether anybody says it or not...... the moment a girl gets married her priority is towards her Husband and her in-laws.....who become her first family.....

In all actuality.....so Gauri... ideally would be doing no wrong in wanting to stay with her husband.....

You can say it is something like..... the difference between a Mother and a Father.... both love and are responsible for the birth of a child.....But inspite of it.......in case of a seperation....a small baby would always go with the mother rather than a father......We all understnad why and know and feel it is right....... but don't ask me why.......?

Same is the case with a girl after her marraige..... her husband always comes first.....

tata,
rocky25

Hey Rocky, how are you??? haven't heard from you in a while. kahan ho tum??? aur mere ff updates okay coming back to the point.

What gauri did was right, i mean she will spend the rest of her life with the person she loves. Because if it increases shiv's life and given that shiv won't spend his life in guilt, he would spend it with the person he loves. That way everyone is happy. Death is inevitable, so why not be happy when you are dying, instead of a life away from your love?

Take care,

Shina

i think gauri is wrong...she has her whole life in front of her and she wants to ruin it its totally insane...i mean her father loves her so much but she doesnt seems to care she doesnt realise how much she is hurting him...her father has brought her up and loves her so much but she wants to sacrifice this relationship for a relationship which is fake which has no meaning...i just dont get it why she is doing all this even after seeing her father cry for her!

Well even I would do the same wat Gauri did.
I only look out for honest & loving ppl. Had Shiv never said the truth to Gauri & she got to know it from some where else I would have never supported her.
If the person cares for u then he'll surely tell u the truth & I immensely respect that. I believe when u'r in relation with any1 a frnd, bro, sis, any1, u must always lend u'r 100% to it. If u do so may u'll get the same in return.

Originally posted by: sajibabe

Hi sajibabe,

I know logically what you are saying is right....but there are so many grey areas which make Gauri's decision..... right!

i would understand her sacrifice if shiv loved her, but he doesn't he only considers her as his best friend. he has made that clear. all the respect, care, concern & protection is out of friendship not love.

Boss... here i disagree.... you don't fight your family for your friends....you are not ready to die for your friends....( i know i am genralising.. and there must be people who would say that they would happily die for their friends.... but to them i would like to point out that guys..... in that case.....open your eyes you love your friends...as most of us indians love our family and are ready to die for them.....).... You may try to help your friend in their distress but you certainly don't loose sleep over it...as Shiv is doing......You don't always offer unquestioning support to your friends......you try to reason with them....

what did she come back to, her relationship was a farce right from the start, i think it's quiet naive to do so on gauri's part.one sided love doesn't exsist,love is when two souls connect & become one, when the other heart beats with yours & in your eyes all you can see is each other.

Exactly my point.....it is not one sided love that Guari is feeling..... you know....and i guess everyone knows this.... when someone likes you you come to know without them telling you..... you can sense someones love for you..... through their eyes, voice, expression etc.... And i believe taht Gauri si feeling this love for her in Shiv..... though Shiv has not said it ... but he is sending these signals loud and clear To Gauri......

i know love is blind & once your married you go in your brides attire & only come back in your coffin, is the saying of centuries. but if the relationship is based on selfish motives, then giving your life up for it is stupidity & not love. in today's age & day, no woman in her right mind, will endure such a barbaric act of inhumanity.

Darling.... that's just it..!!!... there is no barbaric action happening.... it is only barbaric in intial intent..... Shiv is treating Gauri with so much tender loving care that Gauri can't help but feel truly loved and cherished.....and never want it to end.....it is like going to see a targedy suich as Titanic.... knowing full well that it is going to make you sad ... but you still watch it ... cause it gives you so much pleasure on the way.... it is like knowing that ice cream is bad for you... but you simply love the taste while it lasts......

but then again ekta's shows don't have logic. plus pallavi subash quoted the character of gauri becomes alot stronger, after the truth is revealed. but all i got to see in last few episodes was a weak woman. crying for her lost parental family, couldn't rise above her emotions to put a stop to this farce marriage by signing the divorce papers. instead runs back right in to the arms of death, because she loves shiv who in return doesn't feel the same. if the character was strong & has decided to come back, then she should deal with situations with guts. instead of crying all the time & running to shiv she should deal with situations her self.

Crying does not mean that you are weak.!... some people cry easily and can't help it.... but it does not say that they can't be strong when the situation demands it..... I should know... i am a cry baby myself.... crying at the drop of a hat.....!

You know... sometimes when you are too overcome by situations...... cause you are so sensitive..... it is better to let it all out have a good cry - get it over with so that you can emerge stronger......Also it simply feels much better to have a shoulder to cry on particularly in tiring situations....it helps you become rejunevated to handle the situation....

i want gauri's character to know the whole truth & stand up to nikhila & challenge her about her plans. it's about time gauri starts giving as good as she gets, as i am tired of her crying all the time. she wants to be mother india then act like one & sort all those who used & abused you for their own means & needs. agar sher ban kar maut ko gale lagaya hai, to maut ki ankhon mein ankhen daal kar uska saamna karo, yun rone dhone se himmat nahi kamzori nazar aati hai. agar marna hi hai gauri, to sar utha ke maro juka ke nahi. uss saas ko dikha ke jao ke agar woh kissi ki beti ki zindgi ka sauda kar sakti hai, to uss ke paas bhi ek beti hai kahin kismat uska sauda bhi na karde. us nikhila ko sabaq aisa sikhayo ke woh janam, janam tak usse bhool na paye, aur jab bhi soche us ki aatma kaanp jaye

Boss.. as for Nikila.... Abhi tak we don't know what her plan is.... but till now.... she has always supported Gauri..... Agreed she is to blame... and i feel the best punishment for Nikila will be if Gurri werre to refuse to stay in the same house as Nikial.. and make Shiv move into a seperate house with her......Jis betae ke liye Nikial ne yeh saab kuch kiya.. usi se use alag kar de....

But what else gauri can do to Nikila i don't know.....coz.. Nikila is not doing anything to Guari as such... her only fault was in getting Gauri married to Shiv.....

tata,
rocky25

Originally posted by: pushpa1234

I think Gauri should have not gone back against every one's wishes including her father's as she is destroying three lives... Hers, Shiv's and the person whom shiv love's

But then Gauri doesn't know that Shiv loves someone else, or rather she knows that Shiv loves the girl in the potrait, a girl that Shiv saw on the banks of the river many years back. That girl isn't real, she's not present in Shiv's life, not as far as Gauri knows, or as far as we audiences know for sure, its all just speculation at this point...

And she is happy with Shiv, though she may die, she's happy living whatever lil of her life remains with him. And Shiv doesn't seem to have any objections besides the danger to her life...

The whole scene is delicate one... I don't think Gauri is weak at all. In fact it took a lot more guts going to back to Shiv, knowing that she is going to die. But love is a strange emotion, makes you do all kinds of crazy things. I have no idea what I'd do in that position, but its difficult to fault Gauri when you're thinking with your heart...

So people think that Gauri's love for Shiv is one-sided, so why should she give up her life for him? But thats the point, the love is from her side... She tried staying away from him, but she wasn't living, she was just breathing. And the distracted way she was going about, she would have died (or carelessness) anyway. So why not spend whatever time time you have with the person you love the most? And Shiv responds to her love with caring, he's always there for her, he's ready to fight his family for her. He showed her how important her happiness is for him on more than one occassion, so she knows whatever time she has left, she will be happy...

Gauri is not sticking with Shiv because she has to, she does it because she wants to. Yes, she is hurting her family in the process, but for once she is looking at her own happiness, is that so wrong? The point of loyalties towards her family or her husband and his family doesn't arise. It all boils down to love...

Originally posted by: just4coll

The whole scene is delicate one... I don't think Gauri is weak at all. In fact it took a lot more guts going to back to Shiv, knowing that she is going to die. But love is a strange emotion, makes you do all kinds of crazy things. I have no idea what I'd do in that position, but its difficult to fault Gauri when you're thinking with your heart...

So people think that Gauri's love for Shiv is one-sided, so why should she give up her life for him? But thats the point, the love is from her side... She tried staying away from him, but she wasn't living, she was just breathing. And the distracted way she was going about, she would have died (or carelessness) anyway. So why not spend whatever time time you have with the person you love the most? And Shiv responds to her love with caring, he's always there for her, he's ready to fight his family for her. He showed her how important her happiness is for him on more than one occassion, so she knows whatever time she has left, she will be happy...

Gauri is not sticking with Shiv because she has to, she does it because she wants to. Yes, she is hurting her family in the process, but for once she is looking at her own happiness, is that so wrong? The point of loyalties towards her family or her husband and his family doesn't arise. It all boils down to love...

yeah agree with u on everything....but i don;t think the question of gauri being loyal to her baba should even arise.....she is loyal to BOTH shiv and her father....she spent the whole night crying at alok's words and went to see him first thing in the morning.....but his words pained her and she broke down.

It's not her fault that she loves her husband this much and as for alok, he should have had a talk with gauri abt her and shiv's relationship.....once he sees gauri's love for shiv and how much shiv repects and cares for gauri in return, he'd understand why gauri is doing this.....and he'll realize how guilty shiv feels and how gud a person he is....But for this to happen, all he needs to do is TALK to his daughter(which he's adamantly refusing to do!)......i can understand that he doesn't want gauri to die coz she's his daughter, but at the same time, he should understand that for a girl, it's not that easy to let go of her husband's memories and the feelings she has for him.....her dad IS her family, but now she's part of SHIV's family as well, so i don't blame gauri at all.....she just needs to force her dad to talk to her and understand why she's doing all of this.

Soha

Originally posted by: soha88

yeah agree with u on everything....but i don;t think the question of gauri being loyal to her baba should even arise.....she is loyal to BOTH shiv and her father....she spent the whole night crying at alok's words and went to see him first thing in the morning.....but his words pained her and she broke down.

It's not her fault that she loves her husband this much and as for alok, he should have had a talk with gauri abt her and shiv's relationship.....once he sees gauri's love for shiv and how much shiv repects and cares for gauri in return, he'd understand why gauri is doing this.....and he'll realize how guilty shiv feels and how gud a person he is....But for this to happen, all he needs to do is TALK to his daughter(which he's adamantly refusing to do!)......i can understand that he doesn't want gauri to die coz she's his daughter, but at the same time, he should understand that for a girl, it's not that easy to let go of her husband's memories and the feelings she has for him.....her dad IS her family, but now she's part of SHIV's family as well, so i don't blame gauri at all.....she just needs to force her dad to talk to her and understand why she's doing all of this.

Soha

Very true, and pretty much what I was trying to say... This is a situation where everyone concerned is right from their viewpoints- Gauri, her baba, Shiv, but there isn't really any solution that would satisy all parties concerned...