I hated being a girl: Dia Mirza

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chimchimcher-ee

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Posted: 12 years ago

I hated being a girl: Dia Mirza

Actor Dia Mirza opens up about her years in school when her fair complexion won her special treatment from teachers and alienated her from peers. In the years to come, she realised what real beauty is. Read on...

Photograph by Yogen Shah

"Thanks to my German father and Bengali mother, I inherited a quaint mix of typical Indian features and an extraordinarily fair complexion. Though this may be regarded as an advantage by many people in India, while I was in school, it alienated me from my peers. I was often chosen for the lead roles in all school plays and was a favourite among many teachers; most of my classmates resented me for this. So much so that I beseeched my teachers to hand me inconsequential roles. I used to often tell my mother that I wish I had skin that wasn't so milky. In my teens, therefore, I hated being a girl and often hung out with the boys, playing cricket, football and basketball.

"Thankfully, it was my mother who instilled in me that beauty is what beauty does. That it's not about creamy skin and almond eyes, but humility, gratitude, kindness and goodness. She always made sure that the compliments I received never went to my head. In fact, she often reminded me to pay more attention to little acts of kindness, to be thankful for the small, sweet gestures that people do and that so often go unnoticed. Maybe that's why even today I am more delighted when people compliment me on my kindness or generosity rather than for my hair or skin.

"The women I regard as stunningly beautiful are the ones who are not aware of how beautiful they truly are. They may be aware of their assets but not conscious enough for that awareness to be a vanity, who never allow their looks to take precedence over everything else in their lives. I can compare this consciousness to that of a child who is not made to feel fearful of the dark, and, therefore, is unafraid of the darkroom.

"I have always been drawn to people who have an inner radiance and strength that shine through. Some of the women who dazzle me with their remarkable beauty are Shabana Azmi, Shireen Ebadi, Gayatri Devi, Arundhati Roy and Amrita Shergill. But my greatest beauty icon is my mother, an amazingly well-read, cultured, and thoughtful woman. Of course, there are a few beauty must-dos that I follow faithfully. I make sure I remove every trace of makeup before I hit the bed. I never skip the cleanse-moisturise-tone routine, and I drinks lot of water. I like the glow that my skin gets when I do a rigorous workout. When it comes to beauty products, I prefer organic, eco-friendly stuff.

"I cherish what I have, and never fret over what could have been better. I like the little imperfections that each one of us brought along when we arrived in this world. After all, that's what gives you the identity that is so unique to you. I understand the compulsions that drive people to go under the knife, but, personally, I think corrective surgery is best resorted to when you have an actual physical deformity. Recently I read an interview with Vidya Balan in a newspaper, and something she mentioned in there shall always stay with me. "In the world of individuality, there is no place for perfection.

"I am happy to see that more and more women are embracing their uniqueness. Let's accept ourselves as we are. Trust me, you are beautiful just the way you are."

Source: FeminaIndia.

Edited by eeyoretel - 12 years ago

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Posted: 12 years ago

she basically telling lies😆..nonsense

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Posted: 12 years ago

Now read this 😆 --

Dia was accompanied on this flight by her mother, who like many other 'star-moms' was protective, possessive and the sheltering kind. While Dia herself had very little or no make-up on her lovely face, the mother's face was full of many-many layers of it.

They were both seated in the middle row of the club-class and I first caught sight of them when Dia's mother was tugging at her daughter's seatbelt to check if it were fastened tightly. She then carefully placed a pillow in the small of Dia's back and only then proceeded to recline into her own seat.

A hostess holding a juice tray approached the ladies and asked "Fresh Orange or Pineapple juice ma'am?" "Don't you have fresh Pomegranate juice?" asked mom. "No ma'am, we have only these two" said the hostess. Dia intervened, "Mom! It doesn't matter, I'll have the orange juice". "No, I told you, orange is not good for your throat, have a glass of water at room temperature instead" Then turning to the air-hostess she added "I hope you have an aquaguard on this aeroplane, my daughter drinks aquaguard water only!"

The baffled hostess replied "No ma'am, we don't have an aquaguard, but we carry bottled mineral water"

Mom very contemptuously allowed her embarrassed daughter to drink the mineral water.

Around the same time, the flight purser was distributing GUCCI give-away bags, one each to every club-class pax. The thrilled mom grabbed her bag, "Can I have one more?' she asked. "MOM!" shouted Dia. Seeing the uncormfortable look on her daughter's face, mom quickly told the purser "Its okay! I don't want another one."

After the flight began, Dia walked upto the front galley and stood there chatting, quite amicably, with a handsome flight purser and a club-class hostess. When asked about her forthcoming movies, Dia said "I am presently shooting for a very realistic movie Shootout at Lokhandwala , but next year I will be doing an exciting scary movie called Hum Tum aur Ghost!" The purser, obviously smitten by Dia's delicate looks, tried to make small talk with her, but didn't seem to remember any of her movies. "I really liked you in that film, I think you were opposite Shahrukh Khan?"
Dia looked at him thoughtfully and said, 'I haven't acted with Shahrukh yet', she suddenly added with a lot of zeal, 'but I will be doing a special appearance in his new movie (Om Shanti Om)soon!'

Just as the conversation was becoming interesting, Dia's 'mom' walked into the galley and chidingly said to her, "Don't waste your time here, take some rest now, you know that you are shooting in Bombay tomorrow". Dia returned to her seat and rested a while.

When the lunch service started it was impossible to offer any food item to Dia without the express permission of her specifically caring 'mom', who kept insisting that her dear daughter stick to vegetarian food. So much so that the delicious fish chowder soup,whose rich aroma had already luredDia back in the galley, was not permitted to be served to her. Poor Dia had to make do with the Cream of Vegetable soup instead!

When the hors d'oeuvres (starters) trolley was rolled into the cabin, the hostess turned the vegetarian side towards them and told Dia "we have Broccolli, stuffed asparagus and avocado". Before Dia could even take a peek at the delicacies, 'Mom' interrupted "No, no, no non-veg! I told you earlier." The poor hostess somehow convinced mom that all the afore-mentioned food items were one hundred percent vegetarian, whereas for the non-veg pax we had the very special Prawn Cocktail .

Both mother and daughter looked cravingly at the tempting Prawn Cocktail, but let go off it very reluctantly. Two food trolleys later, when the dessert trolley came out, they had a similar longing for the Soan Halwa, but that too passed off from under their noses.

Finally, a fed-up and embarrassed Dia curled up into a blanket and fell asleep. Once 'Mom' was convinced that Dia was in fact asleep, she made her move.

'Mom' came to the galley and asked me "Excuse me Sir, if there is any of thatPrawn Cocktail left, can I have one?" I overcame my shock quickly and gave her the one that I had saved for myself.

No sooner had she finished walloping my share of the delectable prawn dish, she asked for the Soan halwa, of which she gobbled two large bowls-full.

Then before she turned to go back to her seat, Mom's eyes piercingly searched around the galley and said to me pleadingly "Do you think I can get one or two more of those lovely Gucci gift packs which you people gave at the beginning of the flight?"

I opened the gift box cabinet and gave her two Gucci gift packs. 'Thanks" Mom said, surveying the exquisite toiletries and mini perfumes in the bag. 'It's for Dia!' 'Of course', I replied with a courteous smile.

Fortunately for her, Dia Mirza slept through this all, blissfully unaware and totally unembarrassed!"

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Edited by eeyoretel - 12 years ago

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: eeyoretel
Now read this 😆 --

Dia was accompanied on this flight by her mother, who like many other 'star-moms' was protective, possessive and the sheltering kind. While Dia herself had very little or no make-up on her lovely face, the mother's face was full of many-many layers of it.

They were both seated in the middle row of the club-class and I first caught sight of them when Dia's mother was tugging at her daughter's seatbelt to check if it were fastened tightly. She then carefully placed a pillow in the small of Dia's back and only then proceeded to recline into her own seat.

A hostess holding a juice tray approached the ladies and asked "Fresh Orange or Pineapple juice ma'am?" "Don't you have fresh Pomegranate juice?" asked mom. "No ma'am, we have only these two" said the hostess. Dia intervened, "Mom! It doesn't matter, I'll have the orange juice". "No, I told you, orange is not good for your throat, have a glass of water at room temperature instead" Then turning to the air-hostess she added "I hope you have an aquaguard on this aeroplane, my daughter drinks aquaguard water only!"

The baffled hostess replied "No ma'am, we don't have an aquaguard, but we carry bottled mineral water"

Mom very contemptuously allowed her embarrassed daughter to drink the mineral water.

Around the same time, the flight purser was distributing GUCCI give-away bags, one each to every club-class pax. The thrilled mom grabbed her bag, "Can I have one more?' she asked. "MOM!" shouted Dia. Seeing the uncormfortable look on her daughter's face, mom quickly told the purser "Its okay! I don't want another one."

After the flight began, Dia walked upto the front galley and stood there chatting, quite amicably, with a handsome flight purser and a club-class hostess. When asked about her forthcoming movies, Dia said "I am presently shooting for a very realistic movie Shootout at Lokhandwala , but next year I will be doing an exciting scary movie called Hum Tum aur Ghost!" The purser, obviously smitten by Dia's delicate looks, tried to make small talk with her, but didn't seem to remember any of her movies. "I really liked you in that film, I think you were opposite Shahrukh Khan?"
Dia looked at him thoughtfully and said, 'I haven't acted with Shahrukh yet', she suddenly added with a lot of zeal, 'but I will be doing a special appearance in his new movie (Om Shanti Om)soon!'

Just as the conversation was becoming interesting, Dia's 'mom' walked into the galley and chidingly said to her, "Don't waste your time here, take some rest now, you know that you are shooting in Bombay tomorrow". Dia returned to her seat and rested a while.

When the lunch service started it was impossible to offer any food item to Dia without the express permission of her specifically caring 'mom', who kept insisting that her dear daughter stick to vegetarian food. So much so that the delicious fish chowder soup,whose rich aroma had already luredDia back in the galley, was not permitted to be served to her. Poor Dia had to make do with the Cream of Vegetable soup instead!

When the hors d'oeuvres (starters) trolley was rolled into the cabin, the hostess turned the vegetarian side towards them and told Dia "we have Broccolli, stuffed asparagus and avocado". Before Dia could even take a peek at the delicacies, 'Mom' interrupted "No, no, no non-veg! I told you earlier." The poor hostess somehow convinced mom that all the afore-mentioned food items were one hundred percent vegetarian, whereas for the non-veg pax we had the very special Prawn Cocktail .

Both mother and daughter looked cravingly at the tempting Prawn Cocktail, but let go off it very reluctantly. Two food trolleys later, when the dessert trolley came out, they had a similar longing for the Soan Halwa, but that too passed off from under their noses.

Finally, a fed-up and embarrassed Dia curled up into a blanket and fell asleep. Once 'Mom' was convinced that Dia was in fact asleep, she made her move.

'Mom' came to the galley and asked me "Excuse me Sir, if there is any of thatPrawn Cocktail left, can I have one?" I overcame my shock quickly and gave her the one that I had saved for myself.

No sooner had she finished walloping my share of the delectable prawn dish, she asked for the Soan halwa, of which she gobbled two large bowls-full.

Then before she turned to go back to her seat, Mom's eyes piercingly searched around the galley and said to me pleadingly "Do you think I can get one or two more of those lovely Gucci gift packs which you people gave at the beginning of the flight?"

I opened the gift box cabinet and gave her two Gucci gift packs. 'Thanks" Mom said, surveying the exquisite toiletries and mini perfumes in the bag. 'It's for Dia!' 'Of course', I replied with a courteous smile.

Fortunately for her, Dia Mirza slept through this all, blissfully unaware and totally unembarrassed!"