All rituals before the wedding

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Can someone please share the rituals that are done in Islamic before the wedding. Is there a mehndi, haldi, sangeet etc.. rasams that they do??? Im very curious, I really want to know. I really don't know anything about weddings in Muslim family. I'm actually very excited, I think for the first time audience will witness a Muslim wedding in Indian television. It will be so unique and fresh. I'm already pumped up.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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I tried googling and i came up with mehndi ceremony, something called meher which is before the mehndi ceremony which is like a declaration of a wedding i think not sure, haldi they have i think, and they also have kanya-dan i think.. and i saw walimah the thing that the khans went to.. , and the nikaah..

idkk im prob missing a lot but those are some terms i came by..

i think the rasm-e-saughat is just a gift giving ceremony.. because rasm means ceremony and i think saughat means a gift .. so i think its just a fancy term for a gift exchange kind of like shagun.
Edited by LoveRosh - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Well Islamically there are no rasams before the wedding 😃 there's just a nikkah and then a valima afterwards. However (I don't know Muslims in India do it) but in Pakistan there's typically just a mehndi and maiyon before the wedding. I don't know how they will show it in QH though because they haven't been really sticking very well to Islamic rasams.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I believe that 'meher' is the endowment to the bride (cash, property, jewelry, etc.) (from the groom's side ?) that is HER'S to do with as she pleases... especially meant as a safeguard if her husband leaves/divorces her, or dies, then it must come to her.

It is usually bequeathed to her and read out loud by the imam/kaazi performing the nikaah.
If you recall, at her wedding with Ukrum, the imam/kaazi read out that she was being given 30 lacs as 'meher'.

Jayne

P.S. In today's culture, whether it actually does come to her is another matter entirely.😕

Edited by Jayne - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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actualy there is just a two main rituals. First nikaah and after that walima where boy's father invite friends family neighboura for dinner. Ya but in most of the part in india there is haldi, sangeet, (women sing a folk marriege song),. But these rituals r not necessary. Only nikaah is necessary.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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ok when to peoples decide to get married and the family agress..groom's family goes to bride's house with many gifts and a saree for her to wear it, on this sme day engagement happens and they fix the Mendhi and Wedding dates Walima comes after wedding.
Mendhi ( many muslims do naach gaana just like indians ) and Walima happens next day of wedding where bride's peoples comes wiv sweets and gifts.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Okay let me explain since I'm Muslim and have been to mant Muslim wedding ceremonies...

Religiously, there is no rituals before the wedding itself but only the Nikaah and Waleema in Islam... But.. But... But... Traditionally, one can add what they please to their wedding rituals before the wedding ceremony as they wish according to the culture or tradition they belong to (ex... Indian Muslim, Sumalian Muslim, Arabic Muslim, etc..)

Usually in South Asian Muslim weddings( which is Indian, Bengali, Pakistani,etc,,) the rituals start with Sagai (engagement) ceremony which is the ring ceremony... Many on the forum were confused about why Asad only put on a ring on Zoya but in Islam in general, wearing jewellry for men is not permitted... Wedding rings are okay I guess but some choose not to wear it if they are very traditional and religious.

Next comes the Rasm-e-Saughat.. This is where both the grooms and the brides current family feast together getting to know each other and distributing gifts... Also, this is the ceremony where the groom presents his to-be bride with his first gift for her of his choice indicating that he accepts her as is to-be bride and will always keep her with all the goods and luxuries that she requires...

Next, nowadays, many do rituals like Haldi and Mehendi which is very common in any south Asian wedding...

Some choose to do Sangeet but it is not common in Islam... But, Mostly Indians tend to do Sangeet programs but still it's not common amongst the Muslim masses...

Then their is the Nikaah which is the wedding

Then the Waleema which is kind of like a wedding reception where the bride and groom are blessed by family and friends and it's just a formal function after the wedding for the purpose of seeing the newly weds and bless them by the name of Allah and the Quran...

Hope it makes a little sense now...
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Tanvi_124

Okay let me explain since I'm Muslim and have been to mant Muslim wedding ceremonies...


Religiously, there is no rituals before the wedding itself but only the Nikaah and Waleema in Islam... But.. But... But... Traditionally, one can add what they please to their wedding rituals before the wedding ceremony as they wish according to the culture or tradition they belong to (ex... Indian Muslim, Sumalian Muslim, Arabic Muslim, etc..)

Usually in South Asian Muslim weddings( which is Indian, Bengali, Pakistani,etc,,) the rituals start with Sagai (engagement) ceremony which is the ring ceremony... Many on the forum were confused about why Asad only put on a ring on Zoya but in Islam in general, wearing jewellry for men is not permitted... Wedding rings are okay I guess but some choose not to wear it if they are very traditional and religious.

Next comes the Rasm-e-Saughat.. This is where both the grooms and the brides current family feast together getting to know each other and distributing gifts... Also, this is the ceremony where the groom presents his to-be bride with his first gift for her of his choice indicating that he accepts her as is to-be bride and will always keep her with all the goods and luxuries that she requires...

Next, nowadays, many do rituals like Haldi and Mehendi which is very common in any south Asian wedding...

Some choose to do Sangeet but it is not common in Islam... But, Mostly Indians tend to do Sangeet programs but still it's not common amongst the Muslim masses...

Then their is the Nikaah which is the wedding

Then the Waleema which is kind of like a wedding reception where the bride and groom are blessed by family and friends and it's just a formal function after the wedding for the purpose of seeing the newly weds and bless them by the name of Allah and the Quran...

Hope it makes a little sense now...

thank u so much dear...
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Marriages in Islam are very simple. There is a nikkah (ceremony) and then Walima (usually done to officially announce and celebrate the wedding, ie, like a feast.) Oh and well the 'mahr' is a compulsory gift (chosen by the bride) that the groom must give to her , something that she alone has a right over.😊 Anything extra done, is up to the families, if they wish to.
Edited by FazidaK18 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Well there are 4 main occasions that happen in a Muslim weddings.

1. Mayon: basically the haldi...everyone applies the yellow stuff on the groom and bride in their respective homes. Also the bride is suppose to stay in the same clothes with the applied turmeric till the day of her nikkah or mehndi depending on the family traditions. And she is not allowed to step out of the house either.

2. Mehndi: the dhulan wale are suppose to bring the mehdni for the groom and the groom wale are suppose to bring it for the bride. its suppose to be 2 separate mehdni but now a days to save time and money everyone does it combined. But the rasam is where 7 married women are suppose to apply mehndi on the palm of the bride and groom where a leaf has been placed. And they do the money thing around the couple's heads. And also for fun..people dance and and do a dholki and sing songs.

3. Nikkah...basically the maulvi saab will ask the bride first in a separate room if she agrees to the marriage. only after she says yes will he proceed to the groom for his yes. also the Meher is from the groom's side in which he has to give the bride if the marriage fails or something else happens..it is basically the Right of the bride in the amount of money or whatever else ...where its her support and can ask for any time ...and the groom has to obey and give it to her no matter what...its a legal matter under both the Islamic and traditional laws. Without it a Nikkah can't happen.. Because its a protection for a women in Islam.

4. Valima: This is basically the reception but before this can happen the married couple must consummate their marriage otherwise the Valima is invalid. Also the Valima must have certain people attending the function such as aunts, uncles etc if there are any in the family in order to fulfil the customs of the valima.

This is a basic line up of what happens in most traditional Muslim weddings. Now it also depends on your own family what traditions and customs they do so it can vary but in most weddings this is what normally happens..

Hope that helps 😊

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