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It's a debatable issue.
Didn't Shiv also take the entire family by surprise (rather shock!) when he told them he'd already chosen his life partner in Anandi? Shekhars were thinking of Ashima. But Shiv surprised them with his own choice, of Anandi, a divorced girl from a village! They did agree and accept it wholeheartedly and no one really doubted or created a fuss except Sanchi (and a tad bit from Ira).
Singhs have never really accepted or adjusted to their kids' choices. That's why the Gauri-Anandi-Jagya drama happened. Shyam and Shiv, though ideal men, were also imposed by Singhs on Sugna and Anandi respectively. Both girls started falling in love with the men post marriage. Even now DS wasn't trusting Jagya when he wanted to go to Mumbai. And they'll create a total drama when Jagya expresses wish to marry Ganga (DS in particular, others are manageable and now more malleable). They had ruined Anandi's study also and shifted her school for adults to the haveli too (because DS wanted to keep an eye, wanted Anandi to be around for housework also, and later developed an interest in studying herself). Bhairon had been understanding in Anandi's case. But was a failure in handling Jagya. Too harsh on him.
Shekhars are comparatively better. I think if they adjusted to, and accepted such a major choice/decision of Shiv, then what's wrong if they take a decision on Shiv's transfer? Fair deal if Shiv also accepts it.
I am in two minds over this. From my POV as an individual, I would like to live my life my own way and my parents to support anything I do (as long as I am not doing anything wrong). But if I put myself in parents' shoes then I wonder why can't I take decision for my kid who I gave birth to and brought up and who initially led his life based on my decisions (school, food/nutrion, upbringing)? And parents bear so much pain, toil to give birth to and bring up a kid, they sacrifice their own careers, desires and whatnot...don't they have ownership or any right over the kid? Can't they expect their child to be around them? Or accept their decision also, in case they have accepted a major decision of their child's life, as in Shiv's case? As a child grows up, is the role of a parent only reduced to giving blessings, endorsing all decisions and giving a shoulder to child to lean on in case he's stressed and making kids' favourite food or taking care of grandkids?
I don't know...I am quite confused in my judgement on this issue.
Didn't Shiv also take the entire family by surprise (rather shock!) when he told them he'd already chosen his life partner in Anandi? Shekhars were thinking of Ashima. But Shiv surprised them with his own choice, of Anandi, a divorced girl from a village! They did agree and accept it wholeheartedly and no one really doubted or created a fuss except Sanchi (and a tad bit from Ira).
Singhs have never really accepted or adjusted to their kids' choices. That's why the Gauri-Anandi-Jagya drama happened. Shyam and Shiv, though ideal men, were also imposed by Singhs on Sugna and Anandi respectively. Both girls started falling in love with the men post marriage. Even now DS wasn't trusting Jagya when he wanted to go to Mumbai. And they'll create a total drama when Jagya expresses wish to marry Ganga (DS in particular, others are manageable and now more malleable). They had ruined Anandi's study also and shifted her school for adults to the haveli too (because DS wanted to keep an eye, wanted Anandi to be around for housework also, and later developed an interest in studying herself). Bhairon had been understanding in Anandi's case. But was a failure in handling Jagya. Too harsh on him.
Shekhars are comparatively better. I think if they adjusted to, and accepted such a major choice/decision of Shiv, then what's wrong if they take a decision on Shiv's transfer? Fair deal if Shiv also accepts it.
I am in two minds over this. From my POV as an individual, I would like to live my life my own way and my parents to support anything I do (as long as I am not doing anything wrong). But if I put myself in parents' shoes then I wonder why can't I take decision for my kid who I gave birth to and brought up and who initially led his life based on my decisions (school, food/nutrion, upbringing)? And parents bear so much pain, toil to give birth to and bring up a kid, they sacrifice their own careers, desires and whatnot...don't they have ownership or any right over the kid? Can't they expect their child to be around them? Or accept their decision also, in case they have accepted a major decision of their child's life, as in Shiv's case? As a child grows up, is the role of a parent only reduced to giving blessings, endorsing all decisions and giving a shoulder to child to lean on in case he's stressed and making kids' favourite food or taking care of grandkids?
I don't know...I am quite confused in my judgement on this issue.
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