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Will Purvi ever be debt-free? She started out being in Archana's debt (her belief despite Archana's many declarations to the contrary). To lessen the burden of that debt, she wronged Arjun. She then gave up her baby, if at least partly, to ameliorate her debt to Arjun. In doing so, she has wronged her baby and is now in Onir's debt. Is Purvi's undoing a result of series of bad & hasty decisions, that, arguably, could eventually be gotten past and/or is there an underlying pathology that will manifest itself at all stages of her life and destroy the lives of her loved ones? While I think that there is a real, clinically diagnosable pathology at play here, I decided to put myself in Purvi's shoes (hard as it was :)).
Re: Archana, does she not owe her for a decent, respectable middle-class life where she could have very easily ended up in the streets, perhaps dead, or trafficked? I get that she gave Archana a lot of happiness as well but on balance, didn't Purvi gain more from the adoption than Archana? That is not to say that this debt (to the degree that children as in their parent's debt) should be repayed in the manner she did. But I am curious about to what you guys/gals think about the role gratitude plays in adoption, particularly in a place like India where the alternative to adoption is starkly visible on a daily basis.
Re: Arjun, she clearly wronged him and I think she eventually realized that.
Re: her baby, it is clearly a real loss for the baby in the short term for obvious physiological and emotional reasons. In the long term however, I wonder (provocatively) whether the little girl might not be better off with her biological father and a mother who, while not likely to be in the running for the 'mother of the year/decade' award, might end up being a better mother because she won't propagate Purvi's pathology? In my experience (as a Board member for a domestic violence agency), the biggest challenge for victims in moving past their abuse is low self-worth and feeling of "I deserve the abuse because I owe him XYZ OR...". Also, such pathology is typically rewarded by society, especially in women. (For what it's worth, I personally think the answer is 'pay it forward'.)
Going back to Purvi, what I lament the most is that she showed a real independent streak during the last year that could have made her very successful and helped her overcome her pathology. Instead, the CVs chose to assassinate both her's and Arjun's characters and relegate them to caricatures, apparently, better suited to a daily soap.
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