"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
-Anais Nin
Seeing Nanhi facing the greatest dilemma of her life ---whether to leave her job and subject her mother and herself to the painful barbs by Renu or to grovel and plead for her job back , not only for herself but for the opportunity to be a part of "Operation Talash" and take a shot at finding her brother Addu was heart wrenching . Mohan Bhatnagar's entry from her personal hate-story into her professional and real life nightmare is so unbearable that Nanhi seems to be doubling up in imperceptible pain. Seeing the intensity of her feelings and her pain, I just want to wake her up from the nightmare she's experiencing and give her back her life ---the same as it was before things changed.
Being a strong woman and her mother's daughter, I'm hopeful that Navika will turn her grief into a challenge, motivating her to take the right decision to make a major change in her life as well as Megha's, bearing in mind that "Sometimes we can wake up from the nightmare if we simply compromise our decision or settle into a life that gives us little or no joy. But, a painless life is a joyless life." Reminding us that "An inspirational life of change and growth comes with a package of pain and joy."
Here are a few tips for Navika and us for remaining strong while facing painful change.
• "Allow yourself to cry. Fighting off tears can be stressful and can distort our view of the world. Tears have a cleansing power. They help us see things more clearly. Crying moves us through the grief process and lessens the pain in the end." Nanhi really needs to let it all out and not try and hide Monu and her predicament from Megha.
• "Spend time with supportive people. Spending time with someone who supports our decision, whether they agree with it or not, helps keep us strong. Sharing grief and tears with someone we trust makes the pain much more bearable." I think Nanhi needs to spend time with Jiji bua , as she's the one positive and wise person in that house.
• "Pray and meditate. Through prayer and meditation we are sharing our grief with God and gaining clarity and direction which, in turn, helps us know we are making the right decision." Another trip to the Mandir will do Navika some good –minus Beera the hero please.
"Trust your decision. No one knows the life you want for yourself better than you do. No one can discover God's will for you but you. Friends and loved ones can offer ideas and opinions which may help and guide you, but in the end, your opinion is what matters most." So my advice to Navika is to trust her instincts and do the right thing by putting Addu's case on top priority above her anger and ego and Go For It !