Conflicted about Anandi - Page 3

@brick-red I like your reply. It is ansh life how they deal with it. Physical intimacy is very personal btw the couple and family does not have the right to interfere btw them. If anandi will not live shiv soon, then she herself will bear the consequences of shiv unhappiness soon. Knowing anandi's character she will come around soon.

Anyway, sex or no sex I want to see some quality time spent in Hm bet A and Shiv. That will be a step in the right direction.when they are on honey moon, we will see more of Jagia and Ganga story. BV is not a romantic movie . They are full of social messages right or wrong. In my opinion a better social message would be, for a woman nothing wrong in wanting intimacy even if she was divorced or a widow. In our culture a man moves on after his wife's death very easily and he marries for sex even though they may say the kids need a mother.or if a woman is troublesome he seeks alternatives. That is also considered normal. But a woman who is deprived of affection and intimacy is still supposed to keep thinking about her first husband. The need for intimacy is considered immodest for a woman and hey want to maintain it. The CVs being men. In actual fact if some one does not get affection the tendency will be to gravitate towards a person who shows it easily. This is a simple fact. Why iare the cvs so convoluted. They are trying to do a Jodha Akbar because they think it will raise the TRP. I wouldn't be surprised if they play that " in Lambon me damen" when they will consummate.

I understand that she cannot become physically intimate so soon. My issues with her are that in all of this she has not spared a single thought for Shiv, and she keeps having flashbacks about Jagya and is unable to move on. She uses this as a way to avoid Shiv and his desires and dreams rather than understand that she is married to him and he has expectations. She has not made space for him in her life. The flashbacks about Jagya, well, he has caused her such deep pain that she should not even think about it, in fact I would have understood more if she was scared of betrayal. I do get that she keeps thinking of the good moments as wishful thinking - after being divorced these thoughts make sense. But being married to Shiv? She should make an effort to remove any thought of Jagya from her mind. Now she will find out that Jagya left the haveli and will again run after him. She herself doesn't want to move on especially since Shiv is now nothing but her doormat, something she was for Jagya. If my husband were to think of another woman while being married to me or even newly married, I would not tolerate it at all and come down on him hard.

Sorry folks, a woman in her senses (not drugged or hypnotised) goes thru 10 days or whatever of boring rasams, gets married and then says 'oh hello, do I have to give sex also?' and you viewers are writing PhD thesis on how she is opening up and will open up and how she is getting her past feelings etc? All crap. Some viewers and Anandi critics in the past have said Anandi is a hypocrite and I used to be a ghost reader and would get incensed by those comments, but now I understand the reason why they said so. Sorry, to me SR is one more rasam and if she has happily accepted 49 rasams then she will bloody well accept the 50th as well as she accepted all the others. This is such nonsense that we adults come around at 8 o'clock every evening and watch, real nonsense and waste of time.

@smart-Alec SR is not a rasam to follow. By the time SR happens both are groom and bride are tired doing all the rasas the whole day. Physical intimacy is not a duty or a job that is done without your heart into it. Cv are not saying divorcee cannot move in life. They are showing the side effects a divorcee has bcos of her past. The message they are giving that the initial days for her is difficult to give in to her husband. But they never said she will not live him ever. If you see the voice over of yesterday episode they told that with the partner help a divorcee can get rid of her past memories.