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So I just watched yesterday's episode (super-late, I know). I know a lot of people on here are riled up about Saanchi, but what personally really bugged me was those villagers who came to congratulate Jagya. I don't know if anyone else on here feels the same, but that scene annoyed me on so many levels that I just have to rant about it. So here goes.
1) I get that they were happy about the trade union (was it a trade union Jagya was working on setting up? I don't remember because I was semi-avoiding BV at that particular juncture due to the excessive Jizardness and general AnShless misery), but in my humble opinion, it's not really very polite to visit people after dinner, especially when they have guests over. I'm sure Makhan must have mentioned that they had company as soon as the farmers came over - like it would only be the natural thing for him to say, "They have guests, you can come back later". Which means the farmers must have been like, "Nooo, please can we see her now, humse raha nahin jaayega!". Like seriously... they could have just come back later when the Singhs were more free. It's not like it was an emergency and they HAD to see Maajisa NOW NOW NOW. 🤔
2) Even forgiving their lack of decorum in 1), one would think that when they saw Shiv and his family present, they would think better of going on and on and on about Jagya... given that the two in-laws-to-be were obviously having a family gathering and Jagya is Shiv's fiancee's ex-husband. Seriously, a little bit of tact never killed anyone.
3) I'm annoyed that their leader called Anandi "Beendhni Sa"... but OK, slips of tongue happen... I'll let him off on that one (with much reluctance 😡).
4) The clincher for me was giving the mithais to Anandi. Dude. Not cool. I know she's always been the gaon's 'beendhni sa', but she and Jagya are now DIVORCED. Yes, I'm aware divorces aren't exactly commonplace in villages, but surely they know that she's now ENGAGED to someone else now? Who happened to be PRESENT IN THE SAME ROOM ALONG WITH HIS FAMILY!? Jagya's whole family was there - couldn't they have given the mithais to one of his immediate relatives, i.e. Maajisa or Bhairon, instead of going for Anandi out of habit without bothering to consider the delicacy of the situation?
I know that whole situation was probably just the CVs' way of bringing "the Jagya issue" to Saanchi's attention. But it just really annoys me that the Jaitserians don't seem to understand the need for tact in this matter. Like even when Jagya was around in Jaitsar, just 'cause he was doing good work in the community (curing everybody of swine flu, setting up trade unions etc), they all just expected Shiv and Anandi to be fine and dandy with it. And AnSh are both extremely tolerant and patient people and are both dedicated to Jaitsar's welfare, so they bore with it all for the sake of the village. But not once was there a single scene that showed that ANY the villagers had so much as considered how awkward things had to be for Shiv and Anandi. I mean, the farmers carried Jagya to Shiv's office that time... and of course Shiv was pleased to hear about them getting a good price for their produce, but they could have informed him of that in a way that didn't involve hero-worshipping Jagya. Feelings of jealousy and awkwardness are pretty universal... so I don't think it's unreasonable to have expected it to occur to the villagers that it wasn't a very nice thing to do to carry Shiv's fiancee's ex into his office. Surely they wouldn't like that to happen to them if they were in Shiv's position!?
I guess one could argue that all this is probably a realistic way of showing how people in traditional rural communities are often not used to the idea of divorce and have trouble mentally separating the two people in a divorced couple from each other... but even then it makes no sense, really. I mean, on the one hand the panchayat were complaining about how the sarpanch and collector were spending too much time together... then they were informed by Dadisa that said sarpanch and collector were engaged and were happy about it... but then they didn't seem to be morally perturbed by Jagya and Anandi staying in the same house after Jagya's return. Presumably this "ladka ladki shaadi se pehle nahin mil sakte" rasm is common in Jaitsar if Dadisa's upholding it and everybody in the village looks up to Dadisa (THOUGH APPARENTLY NOT ENOUGH TO NOT BARGE INTO HER HOUSE WHEN SHE HAS GUESTS OVER 😡), so I don't see how the same lot of people can morally reconcile insisting upon that with somehow being totally OK with giving a to-be dulhan gifts for her ex-husband. It just seems very morally contradictory and arbitrary, and I don't know if that's a realistic depiction of rural attitudes or just the CVs not thinking things through properly.
Anyway, I think this has gotten long enough... just needed to get it off my chest, as it's been vaguely bugging me for weeks and just came to a head last episode. I'd really like to know if any of y'all share my opinions on this or if I am just being my usual overreacting and overthinking self. xD 😛
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