Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao
Interesting analysis, Aarthi...
Anjie has been able to give a bit of herself to every relationship she has. She has played the roles of a daughter, wife and daughter-in-law with admirable ease. She has not sacrificed one relationship for the other. we saw that in the case of Solanki's illness. when Nidhi tried talking to her about Ranga's self-respect, she pointed out that she was a daughter too. I was truly impressed. She did not allow one relationship to replace another. She has instead created space for them all in her heart and life. And she has worked at maintaining a balance between them all.
Yes, Anji definitely has an advantage over Nidhi in managing her relationships but from what I have seen recently Nidhi is fast bridging that gap. Nidhi is very quickly learning to maintain that balance and carry all her relationships along.
Why do we forget that Anji comes from a more stable family with a traditional set-up that is more close knit and complete. For all practical purposes Nidhi is the product of a broken family, broken not by choice but by circumstances. Wonder how many times she has been uprooted in life. First losing her mother even before she learnt to say Ma, then family is DB and CV, then Cv leaves, so its DB, and Solankis, then its DB, CV, CS and Solankis next door, so the only constant in her life has been change. And with each change don;t you feel she would have had to adapt and change herself to suit the situation. Wonder if she even had an opportunity to be her true self or even figure out who she really is.
And if Anji is being the ideal daughter, she is only reciprocating the love and affection Solanki showers on her. I know, we sometimes feel irritated to watch Solanki being over protective, nosy and interfering in Anji's life, especially after her marriage but have you seen CV showing even 10% of that concern/ affection for Nidhi after her marriage. I do not. DB shows more concern and even then many times CV has advised her against it. As her only surviving parent, CV has always had a long distance relationship with his only child. They have confessed this in the earlier episodes where it was revealed that throughout her childhood Nidhi came to know her father through letters and vice versa. In spite of all this I find it remarkable that Nidhi is as emotionally stable as she is and this is mainly due to her positive attitude of making the best out of any bad situation.
Nidhi, on the other hand, suffers from OCD as much as Ashu does. Neither is good at making space for relationships in their life. They are not good at the art of juggling. Hence, Ashu always had a problem when it came to balancing Mallika and Nidh's roles in his life. Armaan even pointed out this flaw to him. Th difference between Nidhi and Ashu is that Nidhi is terribly possessive while Ashu is not.
After Mallika I would not blame Nidhi. From the beginning she has been fighting Ashu's obsessive friend and now finally she is out of their hair. And if Nidhi has Ashu all to herself at last and wants to enjoy some quality time with him, get to know him I would not call that possessive.
But again she is learning to share. CAse in point, at the start of the Khushi track when Khushi wanted to sleep with Ashni, Nidhi objected, she did not like it. And Ashu had to pacify her. But when she brought her back from the orphanage and Khushi once again requested the same, this time Nidhi gracefully accepted. To me this shows Nidhi has come a long way in a few days and has understood that by sharing AShu on some occasion, she was not going to loose him or that his love for her would reduce. Again, this time even Ashu had learnt his lesson, because he left the decision to Nidhi and did not impose his choice on her.
When Nidhi fell in love with Ashu, it was all about him. Then, when it came to family, she gave him up for them.. She was unable to sit down and rationalise and balance and instead ran away. Thankfully for her, her father relented and then, post marriage, it was again only about Ashu. Her parental family ceased to exist practically. Now, it is all about her career, that has become her obsession. She is finding it a challenge to spread herself out across relationships and responsibilities. Given that it is one obsession at a time with her, she will not be ready for another emotional sharing until and unless she is through with this one. In my opinion, if and when she has a child, she is going to have a problem sharing herself with Ashutosh and the child, sharing Ashutosh with the child and the child with Ashutosh. That is her nature. She likes to give all and get all. The balancing act is something that she is yet to master.
Even after writing all this you feel that Nidhi does not deserve her 2 years so she can improve as a person? BTW, isn't all this what Nidhi herself admitted to Ashu when they had their big baby argument on the night of Ranji's wedding. So, we should give her credit for being aware of her short comings and understand that she has to mature emotionally before she can become a mother. So, why should we begrudge her this time that she needs?
What you call Nidhi's obsession with her career I would call her driven. Even if its obsession I would say its not a blind obsession. Her last lines on Thursday clearly indicate that she understands the price Ashu is paying, the sacrifices he is forced to make for her career, and she is appreciative of all this, his support, encouragement and undying confidence in her. Fortunately or unfortunately for her Ashu is not only her husband, he is also her idol and mentor and she wants to become worthy of him in every way. She wants to raise herself in his eyes and win his unconditional trust along with the unconditional love that she already has and make herself worthy enough to become the mother of his child.
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