Does Kushi love ASR as a wife loves her hubby?

Now folks don't jump down my throat. I know Kushi risked her life to save his life, kept mum bt the contract marriage, waited at the mandap having full confidence in him etc etc but what i mean is does Kushi really love ASR as a wife, as a lover. When i use the word LOVE i mean the love a woman has for a man.

Don't get me wrong. LOVE is an all embracing word whose meaning differs based on the context & the individuals involved. This is coz there r different kinds of love. The all-giving love that u ve for ur family like Kushi towards the GUPTAs, the obsessive love that some moms ve over their kids or in a strange role reversal here in the case of ASR & weepy willow, the warm love like Kushi's towards the Raizadas etc etc.

But there is 1 very unique kind of love. The love, desire, passion, lust, sense of belonging that a man has for a woman & vice versa. Some how i feel that Kushi has still not reached that level. In her case she 1st fell in love with the family of the guy, then slowly started warming towards him & just when the girl was on the throes of morphing from a chirpy girl to a sensuous woman the contract marriage happened & bang we were back to square 1. But now after the kidnapping, her valiant effort to rescue him, their confession of love, SHYAMLI drama etc where are we when it comes to the all important ARHI equation. Unfortunately again back to square 1.

I ve seen her warm compassion towards him, her tears for him, her anxiety for him but her desire for him. NEVER. Please don't get me wrong but DESIRE is the main part of LOVE. That thirst to be with each other, possess each other, steal moments together, make love to each other, the silly fights & the passionate making up post fight. Is this not what makes a man-woman relationship unique, interesting, spicy & delicious.

So while we see all this from ASR why r the CVs still not showing this kind of thoughts from KKG. I mean this was the girl who almost succumbed to his kiss on Diwali even when he was at that time in a live-in with LA.

Makes me wonder if they indeed had sex in the farmhouse. This is not how a woman reacts after having experienced physical intimacy with a man. That coy look, blush, naughty smile, excuse to be with each other, touch each other in other words all the normal things which a couple in love would do is missing here.

While i can feel the desire & love of ASR from Kushi all i get r cold vibes. Her love seems too platonic to me. Every time she hugs & manaofies Arnav be it post shyam slap gate or in the hosp after the miscarriage all looks more what a best friend & sister would do. Not what a lover would do. come on v r talking bt the girl who even saved that loser shyam frm a speeding truck & who was willing 2 give him a 2ns chance. so by nature she is soft, kind, helping, forgiving & loving. But that extra zing that is required to differentiate a woman's love for her man frm the rest of the kind of love that she may shower on other ppl in her life is currently missing in Kushi.

I still cant see that special look in her eyes for Arnav. Is it coz in indian serials its considered a sin to show the woman desiring a man & ve sexual urges? Is it just poor screenplay?

Some1 had pointed out that even v neglect our spouse when v r drooling over Barun. Valid point but i am 33 now having been married for 9 yrs. I wouldn't ve pushed my hubby just 1 week aft marriage. At that time couples ll ve eyes only for each other.

Another argument is ASR loves the way Kushi is with her ajeeb sanak & hence she continues to be a child. I disagree! Childish pranks & antics ll always come down over a period of time & also no matter how much v may justify every person has to mature as age progresses. For a girl thats y its said that the maturity comes automatically after physical intimacy with a man & after child birth. No matter how innocent & childish u may ve been after these 2 milestones in ur life a girl is no longer a girl but a full fledged woman. Her awareness of her man, his proximity, his advances all increases & the couple ve a heightened sense of awareness. For eg if u take married couples each 1 ll automatically know when the other person is aroused or turned on. You may or may not want it but u ll definitely b aware of their feeling & arousal. So i find it strange that KKG still doesn't ve that heightened sense of awareness.

Hence i feel that she loves him as a friend, companion but as a lover not really.

Pl do pour in thoughts without bashing or fighting!

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Have rephrased the title since a few ppl found it negative 😕

Originally posted by: mayukatta

well... valid point.. but cant speak much on this...

but in the farm house.. the way she kissed arnav shows some thing...

i dont know😳

But if u c its always initiated by Arnav not Kushi. I never find her look at him in THAT way. its always Arnav who makes an advance & she either shies away or reciprocates. i ve never seen her touch Arnav without any reason. yeah she touches him to reassure him or calm him but never lovingly the way Arnav touches her.

And reg that kiss in the farmhouse, thats exactly wat i am trying 2 point out. Why is there no change in her demeanor post farmhouse. Initially i thought its coz the cvs wanted 2 keep us guessing on the consummation. But y this non-reaction even now?

Again 2 clarify i am not claiming that Kushi doesn't love ASR. All i am saying that this love is different from the man-woman LOVE.

your question is does khushi love asr & yes she loves him more than herself ...& question

about the physical intemacy ,during t diwali almost kiss , t hut scene etc she did shy away but she never said no to him ...she may not be romantic but she loves him to the core...during t almost suhag raat she said no to him bcouse for her rituals were more imp than love .. ...but what we saw in the farm house was apt with t line " love s blind " she did share physical intimacy with him forgetting her strong belief 4 rituals ...she did submit herself to him ... after marriage thecircumstances were such that they were not able to make love with each otr ...

now khushi is on the top of the world bcouse of how arnav is treating her ,caressing her & all these is making sankadevi more sanki..

During the mu phase also what we saw was khushi was not crying over her faith or acting as a mature woman she was doing her child antics khushi was always presented as a child woman only ...t yes khushi is not at all behaving as a mature woman ..i think we will see that side of khushi in near future

Arnav's life is Khushi's #1 priority, over her own life...she has proved that multiple times. Her intentions are always to do anything to make him and his family happy, even at the cost of her own happiness. Just because she may not respond to his romantic advances all the time doesn't make me question her love. It just tells me she is clueless when it comes to romance.

Res

A very good question. A similar (healthy) discussion happened on the following thread a few days back:

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/iss-pyaar-ko-kya-naam-doon/3237210/khushi-some-thoughts

On hindsight and sightly diverting from the story, I think the main reason for such a confusing portrayal is the way society views sex. Even in the 21st century India, sex is viewed something akin to committing a sin, loosing to your desires, tampering with your pure soul.

Pure and lively soul is the USP of Khushi. Many girls and woman resonate with her character and admire her.

If we go by the society expectations, then after having sex, she will lose all the qualities that make her "pure" and "angelic". What we see now, is a sad attempt at letting Khushi retain the child-like innocence, be the ideal bahu, the regular stand up comedian and a caring, loving but non-sexual wife. Because, what will the world come to , if girls really WANT to have sex with their husbands! God forbid!