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Hullooo??? Can you all hear me in the gutter down there??!!
So..episode calmed down. Emotions calmed down. Time for a bit of Sanka Devi, eh?
You know, I feel sorry for Arnav. So yeah, he was bad to Khushi, very bad, very mean - time and again. And he saw the error of his ways, and married his Sanka Devi - not once but twice. Second time round, he did everything her way - despite the fact that he had vowed to make her Khushi Kumari Gupta Singh Raizada - apne style mein. So what happened? Dadi happened, and then Shyam happened. Their marriage rituals were strewn with thorns.. every step of the way, someone or something tried to take it away, until finally even on the wedding day, it was almost a no-wedding.
To me this raises an interesting question. What is Khushi's view of this marriage? There's no question that she loves and is in love with Arnav. There's no question that she loves and in turn, is loved by his family. There's no question that Khushi would kill to keep Arnav safe. Never doubting that. BUT.. and this is a capital BUT for me.. .
Don't you sometimes get the feeling that Khushi is playing at being married? I don't count the months to his kidnapping, and the immediate aftermath of his escape. I am looking at the days after he gave her the pearl necklace. Up until that point, it was never clear that Khushi accepted him as her husband. From that point on, it became clear that she does regard him as her husband, but then the question of the pheres came up. So that brought us to the remarriage. I kept hoping that Khushi would see the pain that Arnav went through to make it happen. Yes, Dadi happened at this same point and yes, Dadi made it painful for her. But Arnav through it all, stood by her, never once questioning her decision to get married according to the rituals. He defended her to Dadi without once disrespecting his Dadi - why nobody saw this is surprising to me.
Once the wedding rituals get underway - along with all the accompanying drama, Khushi stands by him through some really hard times. Yes, she behaves like a mature woman who is ready to step up as the wife of Arnav Singh Raizada for good.
But then, you have to stop and think. What did Khushi do in return to make Arnav feel better? What special steps did she take to ensure that he got what he wanted from her as a lover? Yes, she looks after his daily needs, meds, food, clothes. But what is the one out of the way thing that she has done for him that made it special - that was really personal to him and only him? I can't recall a single instance.
If you state that she danced for him.. my response will be - he engineered it. He pulled the strings, and she danced - so no that doesn't count.
If you say, she slept with him on the night before.. then I will say - really? A woman who has given herself to her man, will never, ever NOT want to spend time alone with him, ESPECIALLY if (a) its the first time and (b) it happened only a few days ago. So either it was completely forgettable (do I hear you say really?) OR it never happened. You tell me!
If you say - she kissed his cheek...and how many times has he kissed her cheek. forehead and hands, arms and even neck?.. so I'd say there's a huge outstanding debt there.
Every single wish of hers, he fulfilled it as best as he could. The dream wedding - he tried his best and finally, did marry her. The fantasy date - he made it a reality to make her feel better. He played passing the parcel with her. He took her to his secret temple. He has taken care to make things special JUST FOR HER and Khushi herself acknowledges it. But she, on the other hand, has never stepped up as a lover.. and somehow, today's episode drew the line for me.
Once again, his wish - to go to the races or watch an English movie - is put on the back burner for Khushi's wish. Not only that, his wish to spend some time alone with his wife, is thwarted by the same wife. It's like she's playing house, and while all the other roles are fulfilled, the one role that she has still to fill is what happens behind the closed bedroom doors! When will Khushi realize that its not just about making sure his family is happy - its also about making sure HE is happy. And he obviously isn't at this turn of events. A date turned into a family outing.
To be honest, if I were in Arnav's place, I would have walked out of that cinema hall. He couldn't even sit next to his wife! Is she really that oblivious to his desires?
Now you will say - in the interest of the story - we'll get to see Khushi manaofy him. Really? I'd like to see a Khushi that understands what it means to be a WIFE! Not just for the family - but for the doggone man himself! Why is she such a child when it comes to these things? Why does she always shy away from physical interaction with him? It's not like she doesn't put her hands on him all the time. It's not like when he is making advances she doesn't like it? So what's stopped her giving him a little kiss when he says yes to the movie? That would have been special, na?
While Arnav has grown from a confirmed bachelor to a married man, Khushi doesn't seem to have evolved from the bubbly girl to a married woman. I am frustrated at her character at this point. One minute she is an incredibly mature woman who knows how abortion pills work, calms down a shattered sister-in-law, gives her husband strength to carry out whatever he needs to do to tear down Shyam. Next minute she does not know that her husband wants to spend time alone with her?!
Puh-leeze, its this kind of inconsistent character growth that is so annoying to a viewer like me. It's like the story writer/dialogue writer/script writer/director all forgot that two scenes ago, she was this really mature woman. Her whole scene with Arnav was so childish and such a glaring contrast to the other Khushi that I am at a loss whether to laugh or cry at this episode.
I'll just settle for being annoyed. Yep. I am. And no, this is not a bashing post. This is a question about an epi that makes you go HUH??!!🤔 😕
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