surdhakai?

Basically the Sardhakai ritual is when a Thakur chooses a girl to be his official mistress. It is somewhat like a wedding ritual but there are no pheras taken. The girl gets to wear sindoor and a mangalsutra but that is it. Once girls start to do Raai, they can only get Sardhakai done and can never marry as per the traditions." 'Rai and Sar Dhakai are actually prostitution' But what sets this community apart is that the men of this community don't do any work. The community has certain old customs, associated with the dance form that the girls have to abide by.

Their life is one of dancing and prostitution and they go with any Thakur who can pay the price for the night. Otherwise how will she support her family through the years?

Sexual Service : in the name of Sardakhai, prostitution is legalised in the community. That legalization happens through application of Sindoor and all paraphernalia.

The men in the Bedni tribe can marry only outside their community. A child born from this marriage is considered chaste and they are desirable than the children born from the Bedni-Thakur union. The Bednis cannot marry.

Once sardhakai is done, officially, the women cannot engage in sexual services to other men until relieved by her patron.

Until she is the mistress, she can live with the Thakur in his own premises where he resides or where he decides to put her up. She can continue to do Raai dance and earn income from it.
1. Once relieved, she can go back to her community.

4. If there are any children born to this young woman they do not get to have their father's name.