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Nazneen

@SiriuslySujal

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Posted: 13 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: tinoo

I dont think shiv is expecting any great love from her.

But at the same time, I dont think he was expecting so much hostility and unhappiness from her either. 😕

I didn't really get the sense that he noticed or was bothered by her facial expressions. Perhaps in the diya scene... but certainly not when they were all sitting in the living room. Actually, none of them seemed to be bothered by her lack of smiling, which I found kind of weird 😕 Like at least her own family members should have quietly asked her if she was OK or something...

I for one find it very difficult to mask my emotions... if I'm really upset or angry, I'm not very good at making myself look like I'm OK. Though people don't seem to notice a lot of the time even though I know I look upset... I guess that's how it was with Anandi and everyone else yesterday xD Anyway, I don't think complete masking is something that should be expected of people. It's not like she was throwing crying fits or tantrums. She was composed. She just wasn't smiling or expressing a joy she didn't feel.

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Ela Singh

@elasingh

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Posted: 13 years ago

#22

Shiv ke parents ko real reason pata chalna chahiye.

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Nazneen

@SiriuslySujal

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Posted: 13 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: aparnauma
Balika vadhu has been going strong for four years and the reason for that is Anandi.Both in this forum as well as the general TV viewing audience watch it because they as well as we connect with the character Anandi.Most of the regular viewers know that she is not ready for the marriage and they do sympathize with her.Nobody is expecting her to jump with joy at the acceptance from Shiv's family
But an attempt at trying to accept his family would have been nice.They are trying to put her at ease by cracking jokes telling funny stories and what not at least she could have tried to reciprocate in her way.Memories will not go away.We have to bury them deep in the darkest corner of brain.Because that is the only way to forward.We are irritated with her she is letting those memories affect her.
Sometimes we find ourselves unable to move forward in life.In those situations we have to push ourselves move forward.
That's what we are trying say.
And I dont understand how that becomes Anandi bashing.
Just because we like Anandi does that mean we have to support her even if we find her actions and behaviour questionable?
Do we have to be blind fans of Anandi who support her all the time?
Despite getting irritated with her from time to time we continue to like her.

1. I don't think the joke-cracking was their attempt to put her at ease. They were just being themselves. I wouldn't give them credit for cracking jokes. They do it almost constantly. Now if, say, Basant were to see Anandi upset and crack a joke, that would be a special effort on his part because he isn't normally much of a joker.

2. After a trying day, one generally wants to be alone rather than surrounded by people. Shiv's family were sprung upon her at the end of the day, before she'd mentally prepared herself for meeting them. She was polite to them in conversation and served them snacks after the Teej pooja was over. She put on enough of a mask to not start openly weeping in front of them during the aforementioned pooja. She did contain her emotions. But perhaps she just couldn't contain them enough to smile. I for one don't see why that is such a huge crime. A lot of people just aren't very smiley.

3. It's not the things that are said about Anandi so much as the amount of times they are said that qualifies as bashing for me. Every time Anandi looks upset about anything, multiple threads are opened to discuss it, and they run for at least 5-6 and sometimes 12-13 pages. It's becoming tiresome. And there are some members who never seem to have anything good to say about Anandi, so I can't help but wonder why they watch the serial at all if they find the protagonist so impossible to identify with 😕 Not saying everyone has to say good things about her all the time, but the sorts of things that get said can sometimes come across as kind of attacking and insensitive. E.g. consistent accusations of her supposedly not having self-respect... I think it's ridiculous and, quite frankly, insulting to equate someone displaying human weaknesses as them not having self-respect.

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 13 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: SiriuslySujal

3. It's not the things that are said about Anandi so much as the amount of times they are said that qualifies as bashing for me. Every time Anandi looks upset about anything, multiple threads are opened to discuss it, and they run for at least 5-6 and sometimes 12-13 pages. It's becoming tiresome. And there are some members who never seem to have anything good to say about Anandi, so I can't help but wonder why they watch the serial at all if they find the protagonist so impossible to identify with 😕 Not saying everyone has to say good things about her all the time, but the sorts of things that get said can sometimes come across as kind of attacking and insensitive. E.g. consistent accusations of her supposedly not having self-respect... I think it's ridiculous and, quite frankly, insulting to equate someone displaying human weaknesses as them not having self-respect.

@1 and 2 I agree we see that scene differently.

@red

I was trying to find what constitutes bashing in this forum.Thanks.I got the answer.I know there are quite a few posts about her lack of self respect etc.

But there are quite a few others who did not make any attacks on her character but just that didn't find her behaviour appropriate on the given occasion.Why are they also being clubbed as bashers?

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Nazneen

@SiriuslySujal

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: aparnauma
@red
I was trying to find what constitutes bashing in this forum.Thanks.I got the answer.I know there are quite a few posts about her lack of self respect etc.
But there are quite a few others who did not make any attacks on her character but just that didn't find her behaviour appropriate on the given occasion.Why are they also being clubbed as bashers?

You are correct - not everyone is bashing. I apologise for implying that the collective of people who disagree with Anandi's current behaviour are bashing based on the behaviour of a few. It is easy to jump to conclusions and assume that everyone is crossing the line when they aren't really, and that's the mistake I made here.

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VerboseG

@VerboseG

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Posted: 13 years ago

#26

I too agree with Sujal. The aim of my post was not to point fingers at those who disagreed with Anandi's behavior yesterday, but to put forward my views on the various points being discussed in the numerous posts yesterday. I apologize if anyone thought it was out of line.

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mayura.pandit77

@mayura.pandit77

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Posted: 13 years ago

#27

I am a new member and a silent reader of all the posts since 1 year. Today I am posting my first message. Really upset to see comments on Anandi's behavior these days.I Agree with Gina. There is no time given to heal Anandi and we can not expect that she can be happy in these circumstances.

We need to wait. It would be nice to see blossoming relationship of ANSH when it Anandi will feel from within that she like, love and admire Shiv as a human being. For this realization she needs some time.

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Minu Mishra

@mmishra1

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Posted: 13 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: SiriuslySujal
Lol, I was thinking I was the only one. Par saare AnSh AT waale offline hai... varna woh bhi saath dete 😊

Also, she hadn't eaten all day (this is a serious point... if I don't eat for even half a day I start wanting to kill people 😆 can't imagine not eating for a whole day... jo log aise vratt rakhte hai, unke liye serious props!!!). Upar se before breaking her fast, she ran off to the hospital and then fell in mud... then she got home and was super-embarrassed to see guests there... then she had to be cleaned up and saj dhaje-d... all before she had eaten. I wouldn't be too pleased if prospective in-laws tapked at my house when I was famished and exhausted either. I'd just want them to go away and leave me alone and come back once I had eaten and could function again 😆 Add to that the emotional quotient of the entire situation, and I can understand why Anandi was so unsmiley. Anyway, it's not like she was rude... she was just serious. Rude would be refusing to answer questions addressed to her, rolling her eyes at things and making really obvious long-suffering, "whatever" expressions... stuff like that. Not smiling to me doesn't really count as rude. I once went to visit a newly-wedded couple (a good friend and his new bride), and the bride did not smile at all, did not react to jokes, and only spoke when she was spoken to or asked a question. That attitude didn't endear her to me, but I would never have described her as rude... just reserved and not very conversational. In this case, Anandi's an honest girl going through a hard time, and she isn't good at cracking crocodile smiles like Gauri mata to mask her true feelings 😆

Very well said Sujal. You reminded me my time yaar.I am a very chulbhuli and bindas person when my in-laws came without notifying then i didn't know how to react bcoz it was my 1st qnd last time. Also I am the only girl in the family also non of my brothers weew m arried at that time so kinf of I was just like Anandi. My in-laws ne toh yeh bhi kaha ki hamara beta bahut kam bolta hai agar tum bhi uske jaisi hi ho toh bahut mushkil hogi. Now I make fun of that but that time I didn't know what to say. Ladke walon ke sudden aane par aisa kiuchh hota hai khas karke arrange marriage mein.I wasn't even deressed. After they left everyone was making fun of me.

I agree wid u sabhi Gauri mateshwari ki tarah muskan abhiyan nahee chalate hai jaise woh Jagiya ko crocodile muskaan abhiyan ke dwara Sumitra ki shart jeet gayee.

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Minu Mishra

@mmishra1

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Posted: 13 years ago

#29

Originally posted by: elasingh
Shiv ke parents ko real reason pata chalna chahiye.

Shaadi toh phir bhi hogi ANSH ki. Shiv ke parents shaadi ki wazah pata hone par bhi Anandi se hee shaadi karwayenge Gauri se nahee toh kya phark prta hai faltu drama ka.🥱

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AreYaar

@AreYaar

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+ 19

Posted: 13 years ago

#30

Lovely post👏...I personally think they are dealing with the track with sensitivity and Anandi's state of mind is understandable given all she's been through...I honestly would have been jarred if she was all happy and chirpy about this turn of events.

It will take her a long time to start coming around given the circumstances under which this is all happening...her will was taken away from her in a sense so she is bitter and bursts out in suffocation like she did today...it is but human...

Yes the show has a history of showing long and depressing tracks but there is light at the end of the tunnel or they wouldn't have introduced Shiv and his family...slowly but steadily they are building up all the relationships and characters...given how much Anandi has been through, it is understandable that it will take quite some time to emerge from all that too...she is overwhelmed and conflicted as a person but as she spends more time with Shiv and his family, she will mellow...she has shown traces of this from time to time previously also.

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