Nice Post Sujatha.. for a career oriented wrkg mom.. priorities is wat matters... most of us do priortise our family and then our career does get back seated.. some do priortise career and then family gets back seated.. but wat if you are lucky enuf to get a job that will allow u to fufill ur career and ur family responsibilities?
I was married at 21 after i enrolled myself for a Masters Course. I wrote my 1st sem 4 days after my wedding... i delivered my 1st child during my masters course... my mom and my MIL were very supportive.. they used to take turns to look after my son..
I used to love teaching (thought i am not a teacher by profession nor i have done my PHD) .. after my masters .. i started taking tuitions.. my sis was in my 10th then so i had few of her frnds requesting to help them.. soon the word spread and i became a full fledged tuitoon teacher for science & maths for 10th graders.. i had 15 students .. tuition was fun as i used to start daily after 5 PM till 8 PM.. i cud tend to my son in between.. with help from my Mom / MIL (they were childhoon frnds and nieghbours)
After 3 yrs we moved to UAE.. by then my son was 3 and he cud go to play school.. i started wrkg in a bank (9 - 5 ) ... then i delivered my second son.. my parents and my inlaws keep coming every 5 months .. so i always had 1 of them sometimes both..
Then i found a job in an oil co (govt) amazing wrk timings .. 6:30 - 1:30 voila i am back home b4 my kids come back from school...
My background is Finance .. so i got a really nice job as a Finance controller.. my career is gd.. my family is gd and i am happy and content..
My priority has always been family.. i did sacrifice a lot on the salary from the change but the timings made up for it... then slowly i have climbed the ladder and now iam doing gr8.. i get enuf time for my kids and i am stress free .. as i do not have a maid to worry about, nor about kids food .. coz i do all that wrk...
So i guess sometimes if we just look around a wait we might just be able to juggle all..
Ogfcourse family does play an imp role... firstly ur hubby needs to be ur main support system.. then ur mom and ur MIL.. then watever hppns they will be with u on the damage control..
Ofcourse being a wrk mom does come with challenges.. sleepless nights, off days, stress etc.. but all my decisions have been mine from continuing my studies, to having kids, to taking tuitions, to shifting to a less paid job ... so i am always content coz i made my choices and i was never forced .. YES i wud be lying if i said that i was fine and not stressed.. there were times i thought that i wud just quit the job.. but Y just coz my kids need my attention or my kids were sick .. come on it was no reason to quit my job... over the time i learned to manage..
Best thing is to have frnds who know u and who will listen to u wen u rant and who will not tell disagree .. i have gr8 frnds.. they will listen to my rant for hrs .. and then just tell me that i am strong and that i will come out of it.. BOOM i am back to my fighting mode .. happy..
Edited by naj7 - 13 years ago
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