let purvi decide about her life

i see many topic about sulochna and archana some one tell that archna is right and some one tell that sulochna is right.i think both of them are wrong not archna should to interfere and not even sulochna it is purvi's life she should to decide if the person that she love him is good for her or not if she really love him and her heart tell her that he is good person then it is her life if somthing happen after her marriage then purvi will handle this if her heart tell that he is not good for her then it it her life.and i think that parents not should to interfair in their children's life i know that parents care for their children but let children decide what they want what will happen after marriage they will handle herself.

that is middle class family serial where every parents decide wt will happen their chilldreans life .i think it...so purvi has no chance to choose ...if she choose then everybody will blame her and may be arcana will tell that purvi is nt my child...and purvi care it...bcz arjun and arcana both r important in purvis life...she cant leave anyone...arjun should be fix arcana...he prove himself in front of arcana then can be possible...

Every parent is protective abt their children n want evrythn gud in their lyf parents doesnt thnk ne bad abt their
n children does make mistake(m nt talkin abt purvi) in sch situatn whr parents tk steps protect dm
n india ppl always blame gal n talk bad abt them so parents r meant 2 protect dm dats wat archana is doin bt ya i hv full faith on arjun bt he is payin 4 hs earlier mistake

Well, Archana has a valid reason to distrust Arjun. He was engaged with Ovi and was in love in Purvi. During the engagement he went on with the engagement when he knew exactly that he was going to call it off, but because he doesn't want to embarrass Ovi he went on with the engagement. At this he was just a coward who keep a secret just because he was too afraid to admit the truth. After he went on with the engagement knowing full well that he was going to call off the engagement, he kept quiet and didn't tell anybody that he was actually in love with Purvi instead of Ovi and at the same time breaking up Purvi's heart. He broke Ovi's heart and I guess when your child's heart was broken you would be heartbroken as well.

Indeed Purvi has every rights to be in control of her own lives. As far as I am concern everybody has a choice. Most often we say that we have no choice and that we were forced to do something but in reality we always have a choice even if all the choices are unpleasant. Even when that choice was between evil and lesser evil. And some times more oft than not, both of the choices are difficult choice to make. We only say that we don't have a choice to soothe our feelings for the choices that we make and to feel less guilty.

Archana has given the choice to choose between her or Arjun. If she wants to be with Arjun without her mother blessings she can do it. If she really want to go to Arjun she really can and I bet even when Archana is trying to stop it she won't be able to. The reason why Purvi hasn't eloped with Arjun was just because she has deep love and respect for her mother and wants to be married to Arjun only with the blessings of her mother. I believe it is not due to the lack of love on Purvi's part at all, but no child not matter how great they are, no matter how rich they are want to enter a marriage without the happiness and blessings from their parents. I also believe greatly that she thinks that if she is to be married to Arjun without her blessings her marriage won't be happy anyways. So, it is in her best interest only for her to wait until he mother calm down and has a change of heart and accept Arjun as her damaad and let them be married to one another.

All the things and stuffs and actions that Purvi did was her choice and her own actions. It was never Archana or Sulochana. It is just that she always seeks the approval and blessings from her mother and grandmother everytime she takes a decision and that she was always taking the blessings of the elders because she loves and respects them too much. We can hardly blame Archana not Sulochana for the choices that Purvi made in her life. We can only blame that Archana was the one who is extremely difficult for Purvi as she made him choose between two of the most important persons in her life. On one hand it is her beloved mother the other her significant other.

feels like i'm riding a train when reading your post.

yes it's purvi life..but that doesn't mean her mom can't interfere at all.
it's her responsibility.
what if purvi fall in love with a drug addict and want to marry him..? do you expect her mom will say 'ok go ahead, it's your life'.

Yes?

@Sipokobusak: Yes, I know that parents have the abilities to influence their child in ways that others won't be able to. And I am fully sure that Archana has the abilities to influence Purvi in ways that others won't. After all she is her mother and Purvi feels like she is totally indebted to her. But what I was trying to say was that Purvi has the abilities and rights to choose. And by the end of the day, the choices all come down to Purvo herself. Archana may interfere with here life, she may forbid her to do a lot of things and stuffs, she may disapprove and dislike her decisions in life but it all came down to Purvi's hand in the choices that she makes in her life. If she wants to be with Arjun given how Arjun really want to be with her she can do it. She just chooses to only be with Arjun with the blessings of her mother and won't be with him without her blessings. I didn't say that her chooses wisely or not, nor did I say that she chooses correctly or not moreover I did not say that there are no consequences to her what she chooses nor how easy or difficult her choices are, I'm just saying that she has the choices and that she can chose freely no matter how difficult it is and at the end of the day it was her decisions and her decisions alone.