Parents ...and me

What's the one thing people dread as they grow old ….is Old age . What do they fear? Is it the fear of eminent death or is it something else . I say, they fear is not death , but they fear dying alone ….They fear the loneliness it brings . It is very sad , that a person who has worked all his/her life to provide the best for his family is left to live a life of a destitute .

Some might say they is no need for them to live a life of a destitute, as there numerous aged homes in the country and world . I say why should they live in an aged home , when they have their home . I pity those children that let their aged parents through such trauma . I pity them for they never know what they have lost . Such people have not only lost the love of their parents , but also the respect in eyes of their children.

Those children that are their future ...How might grow up and do the same to them . Then how would they feel …Ironic right .. They just do not think .

Aamir , I request if you could take up the cause . As I believe there should not any aged homes . Learn to love and respect your parents.

Guys …I am new on this forum . But please do give this a thought . If we do not , then no one else will

Originally posted by: nirvanlove

Apologies i havent read the post cause i am in a hurry
but i want to clear one notion

why is it said that when people enter OLD AGE they stop changing or we shouldnt expect them to change.

i feel, why not, if they are wrong.

Originally posted by: Chitrashi

@nirvan

My father cleared that concept for me. I was complaining about my grandmother. And Dad was like you've had your thinking and habits for less than 15 years. But she's spent more than 80 years with that outlook and those habits. If you can't bend for her, why do you expect her to change for you?

Not saying that we should blindly follow whatever they are saying, but we can lead our lives without forcing them to change or adopt a new lifestyle when their bodies, relations, the world around them - everything is slowly slipping away from them. If we take away their beliefs also, then what is left for them?

hey pri..

Originally posted by: Chitrashi

@nimmi

Every generation progresses beyond the first. The son always leads a difficult, faster-paced, more stressful life than the father. The school curriculum of the children is always tougher than what the parents studied at that level. So in that sense, the parents are always running to cope up with the children.

But when it comes to the elderly - like in my case at the time I had that discussion with Dad - my grandmother had seen the WWII, India's Independence, Partition, deaths of the leaders on nation, 3 Wars, rise and fall of Bhindranwale, Riots of 1984 - she was living history. And she lived her life with certain set of rules and belief systems. Who am I to question her or ask her to change?

Today's generation of teenagers might be proud of their 3G phones, and laptops and what not gadgets - remember it was my generation of people who built them - using technologies that were far slower and infrastructure that was far inferior to what you have today.

Yet I am not an advocate of blindly following the elderly. Question everything and question it in detail till you understand why a person is asking you to follow something. Do it only if you are convinced. But before asking for a mid-ground understand where they are coming from.

Sometimes giving in on small things does not entail a big sacrifice.