Has Kokila done the right thing? A rant -

Originally posted by: ruchisahay

Wow, so we will have (hopefully) those 'chori chori chupke chupke' meetings between lead pairs after marriage and pregnancy 😆 - well, no place and time is wrong for rediscovering love.
well u are absolutely right no place and time to re-discover ur love😉

But then I wonder - isn't Koki doing the same as what Ahem did. He didn't ask Gopi if she wants the baby or not, instead in his anger, he declared he doesn't want it. That was selfish, hurtful and extremely insensitive of him. But what did Koki do - again on the same platform, she too didn't ask Gopi what she wants. Instead she separated Gopi from Ahem without considering Gopi's POV.

Gopi is hurt - a lot - but she loves Ahem. So, isn't this separtion a punishment for her as well.

there is a difference in what Ahem did and What Koki did -- Ahem was insensitive -- Gopi is too naive, she will immediately forgive Ahem now == then in the next trimester gopi will have few more mood swings then the guy will again say - i don't want to take the responsibility --- how long will it run ...Koki being the mother to both wants to end the problem once for all... this punishment is like a bitter medicine - but the benefits are inevitable - Ahem will never take Gopi for granted - he will never throw around words in his anger and now we will have a desperate Ahem who will be desolate with out his wife..,,,, even though the punishment is harsh for gopi,..it will give her a new Ahem Modi - renewed and reset Ahem Modi😳


Maybe, Koki has done the right thing and we viewers would enjoy a new Ahem - 'devdas type',
repentent, 'actively pursuing Gopi' 😃 - but Koki does not know all this and cannot predict the outcome. So, what's the rationale behind her thinking.

the rationale behind her thought process is that gopi should not suffer any more because of Ahem - she has seen how Ahem humiliated gopi all through the first year of marriage ...and even yesterday he was insensitive to blurt it out in front of the family and humiliate her once again though not directly - Koki is not think about the end results - koki thinks that enough of gopi vahu enduring and entertaining her son's antics each time

Just because the end result would be good does not make her right. In the end, both she and Ahem have committed similar mistake - not asking for Gopi's opinion, not respecting her wishes and desires. Gopi is just a pawn in her battle of ego with her son.


No my koki did not commit mistake - she is thinking from her gopi vahu's side - look at it like this what should she have done - when Ahem said he does not want to have the baby - gopi will be crying and sulking but still be in his room - this is not about once or twice ..it will be Ahem's routine of saying something and apologizing ...this time with Koki;s punishment he will learn not to commit the mistake ever again ...Ahem should realize how insensitive his words were.. Koki like a mom interfered and is supporting her Vahu which ended up as a punishment to Ahem

Maybe, all this rant comes from from my own style of thinking and phase of life I am in - but I strongly feel that people should be allowed to make their own mistakes, take their own decisions and live their own life. In matters like pregnancy, it is woman's life (as she knows it), her body, her career that is on the line so the power to decide when to have a kid and whom to go for support should be with her and no one else.
Gopi is too naive and innocent to even say anything in all this -- Koki knew it about Gopi not going to take any stand against Ahem even after listening to his blurt out ...Hence koki had to step in

and moreover it is a joint family where the elders have a say in every matter---had it been a nuclear family - Ahem and Gopi would have talked and sorted or whatever - but when elders are around in a joint family they do interfere and it is a baggage u take with being in Joint family

Originally posted by: ruchisahay

My question is only that is Koki sure of Ahem's love for Gopi??

If not, wouldn't this whole thing backfire and be a death sentence for Gopi's life's most important relationship?

Let's assume for a min that Ahem does not love Gopi - just that she is a nice companion and he likes her - then this separation wouldn't affect him that much and gradually the distance would grow between Gohem. Ahem being in love changes things drastically but no one knows that except for the man himself - he won't accept the separation at any cost and try to mend things repeatedly.

I would have loved it if Koki had taken Gopi out of the room, consoled her and asked her to take a decision - Gopi needs to start growing up now - and convinced Gopi that she would always support Gopi no matter what. But the decision to stay away from Ahem till he repents properly should be Gopi's.

Even now, Ahem wants Gopi back desperately but when he cornered her, he asked her to convince Mom - shouldn't he think of convincing Gopi first. I absolutely hated that 😡 as there was an inherent assumption that Gopi would anyways forgive him. How will that change if he knows that it's his Mom who's keeping Gopi apart from him.