Leave your career for a guy?

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Harpreet.M

@Harpreet.M

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

After watching the precap, looks like Paridi has to quit her dream job =/

My question is...Would you guys leave your career for a guy you love? Would love to hear your views...

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Inkpen4877

@Inkpen4877

Inactive

Posted: 13 years ago

You know its funny my sister and I were just having this conversation after we watched the episode,

Its a tough call, I would like to think if a job made me happy whoever loved me wouldn't want me to quit.

If he is telling me to quit though then there is probably something wrong with our relationship from the get go. But that is just my opinion

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Mamita

@mamita

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

Very good topic. 👍🏼 It is tough to say...🤔
I think different situations are applicable to different people. For some, leaving their job for a guy they love might not be a huge issue and it may be for some... It only depends on the priority that you give to the two. A career-oriented girl might not want to leave her job, but someone else who was doing a job only for, say, work experience or a bit of money, may. If one feels feel that the guy is more important than the job cuz he is actually a very good person, she might choose to leave it, cuz you want this relationship to work. After all, compromises and adjustments need to be done, whether a guy or a girl (not saying that girls need to make all the adjustments). But if one feels that the guy is trying to dominate over you and trying to keep your dreams suppressed, then one should firmly make her stand clear. It depends on the intentions of the guy too.

So my view is that, I am not going to leave the job, cuz my independence and my career holds a lot of importance for me, more than any guy. 😳

This was my view, didn't mean to offend anyone. 😳

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Janaki

@RamKiSeeta

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Posted: 13 years ago

For just any guy? No I wouldn't.

But for a husband? Yes, I would, depending on circumstance.

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Janaki

@RamKiSeeta

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Posted: 13 years ago

Well, my views are generally a bit conservative when it comes to career. Belonging to a culture where emphasis is put on women being the homemakers, I would give more importance to family than career and if circumstances caused problems with my career, I'd give it up to preserve familial relations. I just don't think a career is worth losing the respect of one's family, and as an Indian woman, I can never completely attach myself to the western view of feminism and independence. It just doesn't hold with me for some of our traditional Indian values.

HOWEVER...if a man doesn't want his wife to work after marriage, he has the responsiblity of telling her before marriage. It is highly unfair of a woman to go into a marriage thinking she will be allowed to have a career and then being cheated of it. If she knew beforehand that the family she was married into would not want her to have a career, and she went into it anyway, then it's her responsibility to respect their wishes.

But in Paridhi's case, I feel that Prateek is being highly unfair with her. Paridhi made a lot of compromises already. She adhered to Gayatri's method of clothing, she's starting to learn how to work in the kitchen, and she's adjusting with the orthodox beliefs of the family. Prateek clearly promised her that she could work after marriage, and she's only asking him to make that come true. Prateek KNEW his parents would be opposed to the idea, and if he did not have the guts to oppose them, he should have told Paridhi the truth, then she'd have thought about marrying him before the marriage was done.

I think it's about time Prateek stood up to his parents and defended Paridhi's case, because in a marriage, compromises should be made by both sides. Paridhi's made enough of them already, and though she might be a bit dense and stupid sometimes when it comes to tradition, she has a good heart and she's made maximum efforts with her marriage so far. Prateek is starting to annoy me by the way he's been avoiding his parents.

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gshow2011

@gshow2011

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

I think parents shouldn't raise this ? whether or not she will work. Ater all they agreed to marry their son to working women , How can she leave her job that was not under consideration.

In olden days women doctors worked so did engineers politicians they didn't leave job because they got married. Nowdays the job options are more so whats the big deal. In Hindu society since vedic time women have been working equally with men so why ? now.

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KhatamKahani

@KhatamKahani

Stunner

Posted: 13 years ago

sorry the topic was whether I would leave the career.😆

Well I don't see it happening, but if it were the case, it would be because I wanted to. Not because his family won't "allow" it.

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It's her damn choice. If the show makers have any guts, any guts at all, they will show Paridhi standing up. And Prateek standing up.

If the Scindias don't want her to work, too damn bad. Prateek support your wife. If they're going to throw you out, then let them.

It's not like they will be out on the streets. She has supportive parents, and she has a job. He can try for some other job. Yeah, it won't be a cake walk. But it's better than living in such a suffocating environment.

Papa Scindia may bluff and say Prateek would be thrown out, but the truth is he would lose far more control with the family broken up than with Pardihi working while living in the house.

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Nisha

@nisha1984

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Posted: 13 years ago

well in my opinion nobody should be forced to quit their career based on some stupid old family head's orthodox belief.

and i don't think pratik or paridhi should leave house either. just stay there and do whatever you believe in and that would be real slap to papa scindia's controlling & insensitive behavior...

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