God makes up losses??

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Like gauri, I used to spend a lot of time trying to collect debts (emotional and psychological) from people whom i believed had ripped me off in some way. And even if I wasn't collecting something from them... I would always try to make their life miserable ...😆😆 ... because I didnt want them to think that they could do something to me and enjoy their lives while I was suffering because of the real or perceived injustice that they had inflicted on me.
Anyway, the whole thing got to epic proportions and It began to ruin my life, and I went to a lot of christian counseling, where the message I got was to forgive and let go, and let God make it up to me -- the losses. I dont know whether it really drove home to me... not in practice atleast, but I did have a 'theoretical framework' of letting go so that God could do His work in my life.
The thing seems to have gained more credence in the last two days -- anandi never tried to collect any debts from jagya or gauri -- and she never tried to inflict any pain on to them so that they wouldnt enjoy their lives in mumbai -- and see how the universe delivered -- she received an award and a nicer beendh than jagya (according to the blurbs we see)...
Does anyone have any thoughts on vindictiveness vs. just letting the whole thing go?

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Posted: 13 years ago
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whatever you do u get a reaction for that...this is Karma cycle

If someone has done bad deeds he'll eventually get punishment if not in this birth then in another birth.similarly a good person will get rewarded.
But there's a catch also it does not mean tht we should keep on tolerating adharm thinking God will eventually punish tht person.
Dont inflict pain on other but do not tolerate pain either.Be defensive not offensive 😊
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I agree with you. forgive and let go. Let god do his work. But sometimes when you depressed and are in your darkest thoughts you tend to go back to your bad phase and all those things come back to you in the form of memories. But that gives me more strength to go on in my life. Continue doing my hard-work, my duties. more work and more i am busy, more these thoughts don't affect me. but if I'm sitting idle then they keep coming back..

So for me the most effective medicine to depression is keep urself busy in something productive, good. 😊
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Good post Tinoo :)

Yes,i believe God makes up losses.We tend to lose more in life when we choose to seek revenge. It takes away our most precious possessions --- time and peace of mind making us restless ... eventually leading to imbalance in life.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I don't know if there is a god or if Karma really eventually balances out... but, I too used to believe in Revenge or at least Vengeance.

Life, however, has made me realize its pretty pointless. Why obsess about people and things we have no control over? Paint me SELFISH... but, I would rather focus on myself and the things that I can control or change to make my life better. That said I do also believe in "treat others as you yourself would want to be treated." This extends far enough for me to help others without expectation of help back provided I am not harming myself by helping. My sense of responsibility is my own and so is my sense of ethics and character. People may think I am a pushover/softie or my standards are higher/lower then theirs... all I know is that I can face myself always without guilt, regret or recrimination.




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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

I don't know if there is a god or if Karma really eventually balances out... but, I too used to believe in Revenge or at least Vengeance.


Life, however, has made me realize its pretty pointless. Why obsess about people and things we have no control over? Paint me SELFISH... but, I would rather focus on myself and the things that I can control or change to make my life better. That said I do also believe in "treat others as you yourself would want to be treated." This extends far enough for me to help others without expectation of help back provided I am not harming myself by helping. My sense of responsibility is my own and so is my sense of ethics and character. People may think I am a pushover/softie or my standards are higher/lower then theirs... all I know is that I can face myself always without guilt, regret or recrimination.




Well I agree that one should focus on one's life, thats not called being selfish. But sometimes if your actions affect someone elses life in a negative way or mayb spooils someone else's life then it is selfish. As in the actions of gauri when she tries anything and everythign to win sumitra's challenge is affecting anandi, jagat and the singh family and spoiling their peace and life. Thats truely cruel and selfish.

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