Dowry System= Killing Girl Child

Mr Aamir Khan

One of the main reason for killing girl child is also "Dowry System" in India. This was not discussed in the episode.
This is growing day by day. I know in my known people where they r still taking dowry.

Its growing drastically now in South India especially AndraPradesh due to the IT & US factor. Grooms working in Wipro, Infosys, Dell are taking a lot from the Brides family. Even after taking good education and working in reputed companies, peoples mindset have not changed. In fact they are taking this opportunity to sell them at higher rates. It doesn't even matter if the bride is also working and earning well.

I know through my friends that its also very high in North India like Delhi, UP.

I am very proud to say that my Husband didn't demand any dowry and Gold. He was happy to have a simple wedding.

I would request the producer to also have a separate episode on Dowry System.I have also posted this on their website.

Please post reply here about your own experience and whether you are also a victim of this . For example1. How much you paid as dowry and are you still torchered. 2. What is the profession of the husband and education.

Thank You

Dowry system is still very much prevelent In Most families.
Grooms are rated based on their profession.
IAS,IPS,IFS hav the highest price...they demand more than 50 lakhs of cash plus jewellery,Cars etc and a lavish wedding
Next in line is IIT, IIM grads one of my friend's prospective groom was IIT/IIM guy his fatther was demading 30 lakhs cash !!!
Then comes Doctors and IT professional.Their price varies from 10 to 40 lakhs depending on their Job and if they r foreign settled
In some cases the groom's parents wont demand outright but will expect a lavish wedding...gold gifts for all their relative etc etc...I dont know abt rest of India but in my community working girls r demanded less dowry In some cases if the girl is high paying professional there's no demand for dowry
Some people prefer simple homely girls who'll bring lots of Dowry rather than a working girl.
I am working IT professional and so is my husband...I had specifically told my parents tht I wont get married in any family who'll demand dowry.My parents are simple middle class people They couldnt afford 50-60 lakhs dowry also.
There was no dowry demand from my in laws...infcat its their family culture not to demand dowry.
My parents did bore the wedding expense though but tht was their choice it was not forced upon them.
Fortunately My in laws r not greedy and they have never demanded or tortured me for dowry.
To fight this dowry menace young people should take the initiative and refuse to get married with dowry.Not just girls even boys should refuse to get married if their parents r taking dowry.
One of my friend did tht...he refused to get married till his parents dropped their dowry demand.His parents were furious but finally they agreed to his POV.
I have a baby boy and I am not going to take any dowry for his marriage tht would be like selling my son...I wonder how can people be so cheap even in this modern age.

A very good point indeed, more than half of the people still follow the Dowry System and though there are laws about it, it doesn't make much difference. I do hope that this subject is shown

Good point, Priya👏
I know from visiting India, that a lot of ppl still feel that as soon as a daughter is born, she's like a burden on them, they think: we'll have to marry her off, we have to pay for the wedding, we have to give a huge dowry, and continue giving 'gifts' to the inlaws.
This is where a firm stand should be taken - sometimes with the bride's family its a matter of pride that they pay for the wedding, but this dowry business has got out of hand when the groom's family demands gold, money, cars, motorbikes, where does it end?
If ppl's mentality towards what society thinks changed, things could change, as in, the groom's family bragging about what the bride's family has given, and similarly the richer girls' families who like to brag about what they gave their daughter's inlaws. Looking good in front of society is leading a lot of ppl down the wrong path.
As for laws against dowry, a lot of girls' families sneak the dowry to the groom's side even a couple of weeks after the wedding - it'll take a lot of banging heads together to change how ppl think.
I hope AK will address the dowry issue during one of his shows, its a really disturbing aspect of our culture.

I feel like a lot of people have stopped giving and accepting dowry; however, I do believe it still exists.

Sadly dowry system still exists in India... Even literate states like Kerala have strong dowry system. Its different that these days people dont directly ask for "DOWRY"...but it comes in many other forms like "Gift" for your daughter... or give away what is the right of your daughter and so on... If demands are not met it leads to in some cases harsh steps and in most cases treating the daughter in law in a not so good manner by the in laws. This needs to be addressed. - Another point- Because of the above reason - girl child parents are bound to make huge investments if a girl is born - in terms of gold, cash and other property - and because of which they prefer boys.! So totally ban and address the dowry system and the gender preference will slowly vanish. Make girls also have equal right to property .