Aarti's Lie

Much is being said about Aarti's lie concerning the divorce. I had a few (quite a few😆 ) thoughts I wanted to share.

Weirdly enough, the divorce lie seems really minimal to me. I know that its a jarring truth, and that it will impact ArYA in a huge ways. But I believe all those impacts will be positive.

There's the argument that, "had Yash known about the truth, he would have more respect for Aarti's inability to trust." I don't really agree with that.

Yash isn't unaware of Aarti's unwillingness to trust. The first time, when he brought up trust, she didn't respond and just took off. That was answer enough. Yash might not know the reason why Aarti is hesitant, but would that knowledge really make things different for him? By habit, Yash sees a problem and seeks a solution. I love Yash, really I do. But he's not exactly the most sensitive man in the world. Nor does he understand the complexities of a complicated relationship.

He and Arpita seemed so picture perfect. Their relationship reminds me of Prem and Poonam in the film "Vivah". There was this one line: I've always wondered what love would be like. I never dreamt that it could be given to me as a gift. Arpita and Yash did love each other, but.. oh how to do I put this without seeming to belittle them? It seemed to me that their relationship wasn't as deep. In Vivah, Poonam's accident brought her and Prem closer, and added a new dimension to their relationship. But I don't think Arpita and Yash were ever faced with anything to give their relationship that added depth. So that has left Yash with a very limited (idealistic and at most 2-dimensional) view of romantic love. I think anyway.

As a result, I don't think he could understand Aarti's pain any other way than being shown. Which is what is happening now. Aarti told Yash dozens of times that Ansh is her life. He heard her, but he's just now understanding what that means to her. As Aarti becomes increasingly frantic and fearful to the point of hysteria, you can see a growing realization in Yash's eyes. Would the Yash of that morning have hesitated to tell her the truth, instead of trying to take her home? (The "hand grabbing and trying to take her to the car" scene made me 😭 . First time where Aarti was concerned he went with pure emotion. He knew he had to tell her. There was no way to hide the truth. His actions were completely irrational. I hadn't seen him that unsettled since ArYa wedding night⭐️)

Hearing the reason for Aarti's distrust would at this point be strictly intellectual. He wouldn't register it on any level that would effect his behaviour. That acceptance is something that can only come through further interaction.

"Aarti is not right in helping to keep the secret" I don't completely agree with this either.

There are many positives from Aarti keeping the lie:
(1) she did everything possible to confide in Yash. He will remember that, and for that reason alone, he will not blame her. She kept the secret, but it was basically one forced on her.
(2) The lie wasn't just any lie, it was one her parents asked her to keep. Despite Aarti's outspoken, and at times what is perceived to be "disrespectful" ways, she does ultimately accept what elders tell her. She has been portrayed as some flighty inconsiderate thing, when she is far from that in reality.
Maybe SP (G3 I've lost all hope for), will see that although Aarti is opinionated, her opinions are grounded, and there is logic involved. If she believes that a person has best interests at heart, she will listen.
Basically, unlike G3 and Bua she doesn't just disagree because she's bored and feels she has free reign because the men aren't around. She disagrees using her own judgement. SP resents her smart mind now (or doesn't really see it as a smart mind), but there will come a time when he will consider his son lucky to have a wife who is his equal and who shares in obstacles life throws their way.

(3) Yash Needs to Earn Her Trust
I think, in order to fully and without hesitation trust Yash, to trust in a way Aarti does even believe exists, he has to stand by her side at a time when she would not expect it. She has to do something wrong. She has to give him a reason to want to leave her. And it would be made all the more impactfull if he made something of a sacrifice to be at her side (i.e.: his family).
This kidnap debacle, is to a large extent, Yash's duty as a father and husband. She might be a little taken aback (and relieved/happy) by his zeal and willingness to shut his mother up, and rescue Ansh. But in these circumstances, I don't think those are actions that will build trust. Rather, in the face of G3's bull, Aarti might feel even more alienated, and she might take it upon herself to not inconvenience Yash or his family further.
This event was made to bring Yash closer to A&A, but I don't think it'll change things as far as A&A's perspectives are concerned. Ansh will love his papa for saving him, but the problems that lead to the kidnap still remain. The divorce lie will give Yash a reason to leave, but he won't. And that is when Aarti will begin to realize just who this man is, and what it means for her and Ansh to have him in their lives. She won't be grateful, she'll be happy.

PS: After that long essay, I just got to say: I do hope ArYa develop a relationship before the truth comes out. Just me jumping the gun again, but there you have it. 😆

@ Charisma,

@jikky: Yeah I agree. Yash is doing it because he needs to (at a gut level), but Aarti probably won't interpret it that way. I'm thinking this whole thing is going to just open the door to the mess that is Aarti's trust issues.

Originally posted by: Charishma

@jikky: Yeah I agree. Yash is doing it because he needs to (at a gut level), but Aarti probably won't interpret it that way. I'm thinking this whole thing is going to just open the door to the mess that is Aarti's trust issues.

I think aarti will start trusting him once he brings ansh back. By that i don't mean she will start trusting him blindly or she will fall for him, but it will be a start nevertheless, and it should be that way. If aarti still remains her overprotective self, and unable to have faith in yash in anything related to Ansh, I really think there will be no meaning in that relationship. Yes, yash has to earn her trust, but some effort should also cm from aarti's side.

I'm not saying that Aarti will be the same old Aarti after this. ArYa have come a long way during this. Its just that there is still a long way to go. And I think trust will be a long-standing issue between them. Lots of levels. So she might trust Yash with Ansh, because Yash has proven himself. But not with her heart or not enough to expect him to stand by her. Especially after she betrays his trust.

I agree with you to some extent..

But when Aarti finally trusts Yash to tell him that she's been divorced it might be too late.. Once she tells him won't his trust in her get broken?
Her parents didn't want her to tell him because they thought the wedding might not happen because of it, but I really think once she was married to Yash at least, she should've told him. It is a huge thing to hide from someone you're entering into a relationship with. It shouldn't be a huge deal that she was divorced but the fact that she hid it from Yash for such a long time will be huge deal. I would be hurt if my partner said their wife was dead, when actually he just divorced her, of course if he was in a situation like Aarti's I could understand why he didn't say the truth, but it might create a doubt that he might be hiding other things from me, and that would hinder the trust factor in a relationship.

But I really hope that once the truth is out Yash stands by Aarti. Most of the family will probably be against her, but I think he will support her.. I'm being optimistic..

yes, I strongly believe that Yash will stand with Arati when the divorce truth will come because he is more on a calm and understanding person. He will also remember the times when she tried to tell him something before marriage.