judes thumbnail
Explorer Thumbnail
Posted: 13 years ago
#1
Why can't these men find jobs to support themselves and their families?

Created

Last reply

Replies

8

Views

1.7k

Users

8

Likes

14

Frequent Posters

second_chances thumbnail
18th Anniversary Thumbnail Sparkler Thumbnail + 3
Posted: 13 years ago
#2
cause its not the cultural norm. why do you think one of the uncle wants a baby girl SO BAD? because she will be the money maker of the house, the men dont work for the most part.

and its not to say these uncles are evil , its just not how things are done over there. yes they are selfish to send their sister to dance when shes so sick and to get predictions for babys gender instead of medicine, but they are selfish.

remember vikran offering sugnis friend a job as a driver? how he was shocked? and then vikram told him off by saying you want others (as in woman) to bring home the money, you dont have the will to earn for your own?

vikram is apart of the culture and not apart of it at the same time. he actually has the village pegged out. he doesnt judge nor does he indulge. he knows certain people have been a certain way for centuries and one person or one city dweller cannot change that. he also knows that there are women who want a better life for themselves than what thier mothers had. and he respects that, unlike others who dont understand or look down upon it.
ruchi2435 thumbnail
Posted: 13 years ago
#3
in there way of life the women are a source of income and they do that by doing rai and offering themselves to the thakurs. The men in bedni society do the housework and live off of the women income.

in a way its reverse role of gender in bedni society but in backward way. the men do have some land and they can do farming but they chose not to because of the fact that women earn the income. so it's kind of sad irony that women go through such a fate to support their family.
Parm. thumbnail
13th Anniversary Thumbnail Dazzler Thumbnail Commentator Level 1 Thumbnail
Posted: 13 years ago
#4

Originally posted by: judes

Why can't these men find jobs to support themselves and their families?



Because in the bedia tribe they are not raised to do so. It is the women that support the family financially.
gorgeousmounika thumbnail
13th Anniversary Thumbnail Explorer Thumbnail
Posted: 13 years ago
#5
if all the women get together and refuse to do rai.but women must get strong and try to keep their selfrespect first than their family.why dont they all fight against this tradition.if they are forced why dont they leave that village
Edited by gorgeousmounika - 13 years ago
judes thumbnail
Explorer Thumbnail
Posted: 13 years ago
#6

All I can say is that it is unfortunate that grown men have to send their women folks to prostitute themselves in order to provide alchol and chicken for the men. It is just distusting even if it is their custom.

KhatamKahani thumbnail
15th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail Networker 1 Thumbnail
Posted: 13 years ago
#7

Originally posted by: julle1234567890

cause its not the cultural norm. why do you think one of the uncle wants a baby girl SO BAD? because she will be the money maker of the house, the men dont work for the most part.


and its not to say these uncles are evil , its just not how things are done over there. yes they are selfish to send their sister to dance when shes so sick and to get predictions for babys gender instead of medicine, but they are selfish.

remember vikran offering sugnis friend a job as a driver? how he was shocked? and then vikram told him off by saying you want others (as in woman) to bring home the money, you dont have the will to earn for your own?

vikram is apart of the culture and not apart of it at the same time. he actually has the village pegged out. he doesnt judge nor does he indulge. he knows certain people have been a certain way for centuries and one person or one city dweller cannot change that. he also knows that there are women who want a better life for themselves than what thier mothers had. and he respects that, unlike others who dont understand or look down upon it.

Agreed with your whole post, but I just wanted to say...
@bold... perfectly put. 👏
orianthi thumbnail
13th Anniversary Thumbnail Voyager Thumbnail
Posted: 13 years ago
#8
Why can't they at least open up a little parlour or small shop like other men in the village? I think these 2 are a bit lazy despite their culture of letting the women work.
cyrine thumbnail
16th Anniversary Thumbnail Navigator Thumbnail
Posted: 13 years ago
#9

Originally posted by: orianthi

<font face="Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif" size="5" color="#cc0066">Why can't they at least open up a little parlour or small shop like other men in the village? I think these 2 are a bit lazy despite their culture of letting the women work.
</font>



Word! They are too lazy! But I like her younger uncle, whose wife is pregnant. The both of them are more understanding and sensible Than the hukum Mama and his wife. I think that hukum Mama and his wife Will create problems for sugni laters. Wheras her Other chaacha and chaachi will be more understanding and supportive.

Related Topics

Top

Stay Connected with IndiaForums!

Be the first to know about the latest news, updates, and exclusive content.

Add to Home Screen!

Install this web app on your iPhone for the best experience. It's easy, just tap and then "Add to Home Screen".