Is Jai being Selfish? Your Views please! - Page 5

I do not think Jai is being selfish, and I am one of those viewers whose is not to fond of the type of person he is.

Has Jai's primary concern become his Child that Bani is carrying rather than Bani herself?

I think Jai is at an impass. He is already worrying about Bani and his relationship because of the Park Road incident and now this has been further complicated with a child. I think he would have let Bani have her space if she was not pregnant. For those of who are in relationships, it is sometimes best to let your partner cool down before you reason with them.

Would Jai have stopped Bani from leaving his house if Bani wasn't Pregnant?

I think he would have let her leave, because he wants her happiness. I think he would have tried to reconcile with her regardless of the pregnancy. But since she is pregnant, he probably does not want her to be alone. I think the pregnancy has increased his urgency to reconcile. But I think he would want to reconcile either way.


If Bani insists on leaving Jai and the House, do you think that Jai will go to any extent to make her stay or will he let her go?

I think he will go along with whatever she wants. But he will reason with.


What do you think Bani's next course of action would be? Will she try to forget her past and accept her fate and future as Jai and their child or will she fight it out with Jai and leave him?

It's Ekta Kapoor serial she will fight it out and try to leave him.


What do you think you would have done, if you were in Bani's position today?

I don't blame Bani for being upset. Her reaction was justified I think. Because Jai really has behaved badly with her and she did bear it for her sister. Now she knows that he has wronged her accidently, she goes back and think who the heck do you think you are.


Do you think that Jai really & truly loves Bani or is the thought of their child which will lead him to take desperate measures to work out their relationship?

I think he really loves her he says Nishant's curse has come true. I think he feels the same way helpless. I don't think he will be desperate and evil.

I never post but MT your questions prompted me to write. I just want these two to work as I probably have never wanted anybody else to.

I don't think Jai is being Selfish, I think he is only (and rightly so) being a protective father as Anu said. To him Jigyasa seemed to be attacking his child. I think his use of the word "Mera Bacha" is so that Jigyasa knows this fact and is under NO misconception that He is the father.

Has Jai's primary concern become his Child that Bani is carrying rather than Bani herself?

Both mother and child are his concerns. when Jai Walia loves he loves completely whichever relationship. I think you cannot compare Bani and child with respect to Jai's love for them or his concern.

Would Jai have stopped Bani from leaving his house if Bani wasn't Pregnant?

I think he would let her leave for for her benefit. However after a few days without her in the house (where everyone would have found him really awful to be around as he would be so miserable. Remember how he felt where he was under a lot of "Chinta" about Bani when she had gone to sleep with Rano.) and after a inner struggle with himself, he would have gone looking for her and tried all nakhra's to bring her back.
The reason I think this is that THE Jai Walia has never really experienced "REAL LOVE" where you feel that you have lost a part of you when someone you love is not around you. If he had let Bani go, this is how he would have felt all the time. He would have no choice but be compellled to go get her back to find himself. True Love makes you do things you probably would never ever do even if it is The JAI WALIA. I think deep within he even know that Bani cares for him and I think that he would reason with himself that he would give Bani 10 fold more love and happiness to wash away all the unhappiness that has come her way- at times indirectly because of him (accident) and at times directly becuse of him (Using her as a emotional punch bag to direct his anger for Pia)

If Bani insists on leaving Jai and the House, do you think that Jai will go to any extent to make her stay or will he let her go?

Yes he will make her stay but all Jai Walia style. I think he might suggest that she stay in outhouse as long as she stays at Walia house (so that she does not have to have much contact with him as thats what she wants). he will probably use the baby as "emotional" leverage as in its her responsibility also and she should think about the advserse affects on the baby i.e. if she goes away how would she look after herself let alone the baby as she has no job right now. Maybe he will say that she can come back to work (Very selfish reasons here - he can keep an eye on her) and when she is financialy capable and after the baby is born than she can go with the baby (allowing him to see baby every now and then of course). This gives him enough time so that THE JAI WALIA ka jaadu chal jaye. That would give him 9 right to work on Bani at home and work 😉

What do you think Bani's next course of action would be? Will she try to forget her past and accept her fate and future as Jai and their child or will she fight it out with Jai and leave him?

She will try to leave but if Jai uses the welfare of the child to make her stay she will stay. She understands the need for a stable home evironment (esepcailly lack of money she has had to fight for most of her life. She would not want that for her child). I thinks she would stay back if she feels that her swabhiman is not being hurt - i.e she is working to support herself and baby and she is being faithful to her mum's memory i.e she stays in the outhouse and hates Mr Walia

What do you think you would have done, if you were in Bani's position today?

If I was Bani I would have found it very hard to forgive Mr Walia for my mum and dad BUT I would put my child first and stay with the above conditions. Over time I am sure "Jai Walia Magic" 😛 would work wonders


Do you think that Jai really & truly loves Bani or is the thought of their child which will lead him to take desperate measures to work out their relationship?

Jai Feels TRUE loves for his wife,(The TRUE LOVE that only some lucky souls feel) and it would have hurt him to let her go, with or without child. I think somewhere the way that they got married also makes it hard for him to believe Love can happen in that situation. He is unable to recognize love and doesn't understand his feelings but I think he is starting to and Now as Bani ignores him he will feel THAT pinch and understand the meaning of this ehsaas even more.

Really sorry for this babble but I had to get it out.

Has Jai's primary concern become his Child that Bani is carrying rather than Bani herself?


I don't thik that Jai is any less concerned about Bani than he is about his child and his primary concern is definitely Bani. I have no doubts about that.He has realised that his life is not complete without her and he is going to try his darndest to keep her in his life but I don't think he is going manipulate her into staying with him.


Would Jai have stopped Bani from leaving his house if Bani wasn't Pregnant?

Yes, he would have.

If Bani insists on leaving Jai and the House, do you think that Jai will go to any extent to make her stay or will he let her go?

Being the person that he is, he will let Bani go but will try to do whatever he can to win her trust back and rightfully so.


What do you think Bani's next course of action would be? Will she try to forget her past and accept her fate and future as Jai and their child or will she fight it out with Jai and leave him?


I don't think Bani is going to leave the house. She will not do that because it would very unfair to the child.She knows what life is without a parent and i am sure she would not wish that on her worst enemy.

What do you think you would have done, if you were in Bani's position today?

I would have stayed and tried to work it out, because Jai is basically a decent human being and for god's sake everybody makes mistakes and the biggest mistake of Jai's life is he let his ego get the better of him and he has to pay his penance for that.

Do you think that Jai really & truly loves Bani or is the thought of their child which will lead him to take desperate measures to work out their relationship?

MT's questions
Baby or Bani? I don't know, he didn't seem a very baby loving character b4. it is somebody to love he wanted- a very lonely man. It is that alonenes that bani filled up by just being there. Hospital, he said i never hoped for a family, now the news comes on my saddest day
What wl bani do?
She is going to reject all Jai's overtures strongly, hurt,shocked, confused as she is.Where was she going anyway? Maybe Masi or Aditya will persuad her to stay for the sake of her child. After all poetic justice demands that all jai's cruelties should be reversed in a small way.
What shd she do?
hey, what hapened to being the mother for her sisters? She wasn't there to see Rano off. Left her to Jigy's mercies? Didn't even ask? Rano is all alone. Someone shd bring her out of her shock by reminding her of duty to welcome Rano. And listen to the man you were going to die for. Give him a chance, bhai.
Forgot the last q
Lyani

Ooh MT it's been so long since you've posted any questions! I must admit I missed answering them 😳 Here I go!

Has Jai's primary concern become his Child that Bani is carrying rather than Bani herself?
I actually don't think his PRIMARY concern is their child. I think even now that the focus of his attention is Bani herself. To him their child just adds another reason for her not to leave him. I think he might've been concerned about their child at that point but that doesn't undermine his love and concern for his wife!

Would Jai have stopped Bani from leaving his house if Bani wasn't Pregnant?
Now that's the million dollar question and before reading your little prelude to the questions I prolly would've sided Jai and said that he would've but now I think that maybe he might not have! Like you said he did mention that once the raaz was out he would never see Bani again and now that it was he would've kept up his word on that but Bani being pregnant added layers to their relationship and changed the equation. Jai now feels the need to fulfil his familial responsibility more so than his promise to Bani and so he felt the need to keep Bani back in his house so as to legitimise their relationship and the proof of it now.

If Bani insists on leaving Jai and the House, do you think that Jai will go to any extent to make her stay or will he let her go?
If Bani really does insist on leaving I don't think Jai will insist on it. He might try to talk her into staying but if Bani continues to insist he would not force her to stay. I think Jai expected Bani's reaction and understands her feelings towards the situation....more so than other men in his situaiton would. For that very reason he wouldn't want to be in her way. But he will go to any extent to make sure that she isn't inconvenienced in any way if and when she does leave the house. He knows and understands that Bani's a strong woman and that's why he will let her go but his love for her can never make him let her go forever!

What do you think Bani's next course of action would be? Will she try to forget her past and accept her fate and future as Jai and their child or will she fight it out with Jai and leave him?
I think Bani's immediate course of action would be to fight it out with Jai and leave him. Right now even in her dazed situation she didn't let Jai touch her. She doesn't accept his support when she needs it the most indicating that she has harboured negative feelings against him now. But from the words of your trusted khabari if she does stay back she will eventually (i.e. in Kekta mai's world....few months to few years 😛) accept her fate and their child.

What do you think you would have done, if you were in Bani's position today?
Wow...now that's a thinking question! Hmm....I guess if I really were to put myself in Bani's shoes I prolly would've done exactly what I mentioned in the above answer i.e. I would prolly have left the house to think about life and the position of the individuals in my life. I think a little distance would make a world of difference especially in a situation such as this where there is a need for some soul searching and revamping of priorities! I don't think I can forsee the conclusion that I would come to coz I can't entirely put myself in her position but the immediate course of action would def be to distance myself and just think about the situation.

Do you think that Jai really & truly loves Bani or is the thought of their child which will lead him to take desperate measures to work out their relationship?
I really honestly, truly think that Jai loves Bani. He hasn't admitted it to himself or Bani in entirety but he does know that he cares deeply for her. Even the thought of Bani leaving made him cringe earlier (before the issue of their child came up) so I think his concern for Bani stems from a deeper feeling he has for her than just their child. Their child is the proof of their relationship moving to the next level if it took the natural course. If you're asking me what will be Jai's main argument for keeping Bani back in the house it will be their child BUT that's not the only thing that would be going on in his mind. His desperate measures to work out their relationship would def be his love for her in his mind but what he would be shown to the world would be his concern for their child that would form the basis of his argument for keeping her back.
Hope I did well 😛 Never having had the experience of being a mother I can't really think for Bani or Jai for taht matter but I tried! 😃

AS I MENTIONED IN ONE OF MY EARLIER POSTS, BANI MIGHT INITIALLY STAY B'COZ OF THE CHILD...BUT JAI LOVES HER, HE JUST HAS NOT HAD THE COURAGE TO OPENLY REVEAL HIS INTIMATE FEELINGS FOR BANI A SHE FEELS THAT SHE HATES HIM, HE HAS ACCEPTED HER IN ALL ASPECTS AS HIS WIFE, YET HE FEELS THAT SHE DOES NOT WANT TO BE IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND SHE FEELS FORCED TO DO SO....AT THIS PT., I WANT TO ASK....WHAT WAS ALL THAT HUGGING FROM BANI ABT IF IT DID NOT MEAN LOVE, MR. WALIA (AROUND THE BOMB TIME....)

I STILL FEEL JAI IS NOT OPENLY GOING TO ADMIT HIS FEELIMGS AS YET, UNTIL A VERY DESPERATE AND EMOTIONAL MOMENT, WHERE IS IS TOTALLY BROKEN DOWN
HE LOVES BANI, BUT THE CHILD....THEIR CHILD, ALSO MEANS THE WORLD TO HIM, AND HE WILL BE VERY PROTECTIVE OF THE CHILD, YET HE MIGHT LEAVE THE CHOICE TO BANI



BAAAAAAAAAANNNNNNNNNNNNNNNIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII, PLZ COME OFF IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT HURTS ME TO SEE JAI SO SAAAADDDD!!