Arjun's ultimatum - Page 3

Originally posted by: sashashyam

As for the suggestion that Arjun should have gone to Manav and Archana instead of confessing his love to Purvi, you have not quite thought this through.

Originally posted by: bee5

Hi Shyamala,

My statements about giving more time to Purvi was for Arjun and not for anyone else. May be I could request you to re-read my post, with that as the basis. 😊

Purvi's normal behavior with Manav, whether Manav deserves it or not and whether Purvi is correct in her such behavior is altogether a differebt topic and we may digress from the main issue here, which is about Purvi's behavior of yday. Same goes for the other points you mentioned about Purvi supporting Arjun on her shoulder at the hospital or allowing him to hug when she was crying. Simply put the intentions behind such acts were not bad or that laced with love that some folks think. I don't want to go in-depth here in that direction since the topic isn't about that.

So, given the chwal background and Arjun's insistence, @soapwatcher has explained that in much great detail and I agree to her points. I would use all her points in this argument, but since she has already written, I will not repeat them. But what I would like to add in addition is - What they showed Arjun doing looks all-so-romantic at the surface, but I think after having put his arguments, justifications, confession, Arjun should have left the place and not camped outside her house overnight. She comes from a chwal and tongues do wag and she and her family is the one on whom people would wag their tonuges against, not him. As far her behavior she has always shown to snap out when pushed to a corner. Just recollect the number of times she has had arguments with Arjun, her Boss. Not just you, even her mother Archana and her Grandmother, Sulochana, were ashamed of her behavior. Remember when Arjun comes to her house to get her back to work after the 1st resignation? She doesn't even let him come inside the house, she drinks-up the water that Sulo brings to offer to Arjun. In addition to she being simple, selfless girl and all that, she also has this thinking that falling in love is taboo, she is a headstrong girl who can give tit-for-a-tat, and she does cares about the chwal and the mohalla's wagging tongues.

In the morning, She does ask him to leave the place ASAP giving the reasons, but he disregards all that. In her own words "he wasn't even listening to what she was saying", that is when she snaps and is defending herself more. She feels attacked and hence her behavior. I am not justifying her behvaior, but what I am saying is given the way her character has been developed in the past, what she does is just expected of her because of the reasons she is citing. If they showed her running to him and hugging and saying "oh yeah I love you too" would be also good, but CVs showing her that way does look acceptable to me since it is consistent with her characterization so far.

As an aside, What Arjun should have done is instead of confessing to Purvi, he should have gone directly to Manav and Archana, then there would not have been any issue with Purvi's yday's behavior, but that wouldn't be all that romantic :-p But that is the only way to deal with people of chwal, mohalla, purvi and the likes, which is what Vinay did. He directly got the parents involved, there would be no wagging tongues in such scenarios, not the way Purvi is using as a reason now. It was the only right thing Vinay did, but he was another useless chap and it was good she didn't go ahead with that relation.