Gohem: Insecurities, Trust and Love...

Is gopi insecure? No she is not ...Why not ..?? Why is she not misunderstanding Ahem's intentions towards Anita? Was it really heartbreaking for gopi to see Anita and Ahem in that situation? Were the tears in gopi's eyes for seeing Ahem and Anita so close or for Anita's wedding being called off?? ... these are the questions i would like to address today...

Insecurities and Trust:
Rashi says gopi will know about insecurities only when something or a someone comes in her life which affects her as a person...Is gopi insecure now with Anita...I do not think so,.

Rashi will have to take back her words.. she said gopi will be insecure when a someone comes to threaten her position.. but little does rashi know about gopi, that, for gopi is above all these insecurities and jealousy...because the people who are selfish are the ones, who feel insecure..People who are emotionally strong and who are selfless, they do not have insecurities..

Insecurities creep in when the trust is on shaky grounds.,..and where there is immense love there is a absolute and implicit trust associated with it.. Gopi loves Ahemji more than her Kanaji.. Gopi's trust in Ahemji cannot be deterred even by Kanaji himself. as her trust in Ahem is absolute and implicit.

Why is Gopi not questioning Ahem about Anita...?? In a relation, where there is true love, there is immense trust, when there is immense trust there are no questions or reasonings...Gopi's trust is firm

and why is Ahem not offering any explanation to Gopi? because Ahem trusts Gopi's trust in him.. he is well aware how much gopi trusts him.. if he offers an explanation to gopi, it reflects how he does not trust her trust in him...

Heartbreaking:
I never once, could feel, that Gopi was heart broken...then i wondered why am i not seeing..what my other forum friends are seeing..why am i not coming to the terms that gopi is heartbroken with Anita's entry..why am i not seeing that gopi will leave Ahem and MM...this is what i came up with 😊

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Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

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Such a nice post and I am smiling reading it😃 Well done Munni🤗

Like you, I am trying to understand the insecurities of Gopi. Maybe because Rashi mentioned it and maybe because Gopi had tears.. But I could not see insecurity in those tears..

There was shock, there was sadness at Ahem's mood, his guilt and the way he was embarrassed and was uncomfortable.. But no insecurity.

Gopi's heartbreak as you say is when her hopes of Ahem's love is shattered. That happened on the day after Holi. Now Gopi knows or has made a vow to herself not to hope for his love. That was the heart breaking part.

When she saw Anitha, I think she felt the pain her husband would go through. Those tears were for her husband's lost love. She knows all about loving and losing that love. She had the same experience. This is Gopi and she could empathize with that.. Hence the tears.

Then the tears were for Anitha's broken marriage and dreams.. It was the girl's humiliation and her husband's humiliation.. Not because she suspected anything but because she knows that it would have been horrible for the ones involved. She was the first to notice Anitha fainting. Does that not tell us that Gopi was worried for Anitha even when the horrible situation was happening?

Questions on Ahem's silence - Well, this pair never talked a lot verbally but they knew and understood each other. Remember during the mango incident. Ahem gave his opinion but he also said that he trusted Gopi to do the right thing. He knows his wife. He trusts her.

He also is sure of his love for her.

So to him, this situation is something that has to be dealt with. He knows that his wife is there by his side. He let he handle the others as he saw her do it perfectly, he thanked her gratefully. There is an understanding between them that goes beyond petty jealousy.. Ahem knows his Gopi.

He may not realize that she is not sure of his love but he knows that she trusts him. He also has been trying to show her that she is his wife and he means it totally. Hence no explanations are needed. You give an explanation when you think the other person does not trust you. The truth is that there is no need of an explanation. 😛

As for this track, I think, or rather my wish is that Gopi show Rashi what it means to be a family. That insecurities arise when you do not love the family and not because it is something the family has done wrong.

This track will be more about the closure from the past and the foundation for the future. This track will be about a wife's trust and a husband' s pride about his wife and his growing feelings.

So I am excited.. Sorry it became pretty long. But I love the positiveness of the track till now. The foundation has been set to take it forward in a positive manner and I hope that is how it goes😊

Superbly wonderful positive post Munni! ⭐️ Love ur title immensely!

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

Is gopi insecure? No she is not ...Why not ..?? Why is she not misunderstanding Ahem's intentions towards Anita? Was it really heartbreaking for gopi to see Anita and Ahem in that situation? Were the tears in gopi's eyes for seeing Ahem and Anita so close or for Anita's wedding being called off?? ... these are the questions i would like to address today...

Insecurities and Trust:
Rashi says gopi will know about insecurities only when something or a someone comes in her life which affects her as a person...Is gopi insecure now with Anita...I do not think so,.

Rashi will have to take back her words.. she said gopi will be insecure when a someone comes to threaten her position.. but little does rashi know about gopi, that, for gopi is above all these insecurities and jealousy...because the people who are selfish are the ones, who feel insecure..People who are emotionally strong and who are selfless, they do not have insecurities..

Insecurities creep in when the trust is on shaky grounds.,..and where there is immense love there is a absolute and implicit trust associated with it.. Gopi loves Ahemji more than her Kanaji.. Gopi's trust in Ahemji cannot be deterred even by Kanaji himself. as her trust in Ahem is absolute and implicit.

Why is Gopi not questioning Ahem about Anita...?? In a relation, where there is true love, there is immense trust, when there is immense trust there are no questions or reasonings...Gopi's trust is firm

and why is Ahem not offering any explanation to Gopi? because Ahem trusts Gopi's trust in him.. he is well aware how much gopi trusts him.. if he offers an explanation to gopi, it reflects how he does not trust her trust in him...

Heartbreaking:
I never once, could feel, that Gopi was heart broken...then i wondered why am i not seeing..what my other forum friends are seeing..why am i not coming to the terms that gopi is heartbroken with Anita's entry..why am i not seeing that gopi will leave Ahem and MM...this is what i came up with 😊

Gopi's heartbreaking moments were on the night of holi, her hopes and dreams are shattered, those were the heartbreaking moments for her...did her hopes and dreams rise after...did she dream of her love or did she hope for after that night...No...
so when she has no dreams and hopes in her heart and in her eyes..how will she have a heart break once again...

Then why did gopi cry ?? gopi did not cry for seeing Ahem and Anita in such a situation..

Her tears were only for Anita., the girl , who has no support of her parents, whose wedding is called off,,she could empathize with her completely... gopi is the first person to get connected with the pain and sufferings of another person.

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Right from the moment gopi saw Anita.. she was never shown as being insecure .. ever since she saw Anita.. she started observing Ahem, his past guilt and his sadness... she was trying to contemplate his guilt and his pain.. but was least bothered with the fact that Anita was Ahem's Ex who would threaten her marriage.this is what i could get by seeing gopi...

Ahem's role in this...

read number of posts which say.. why is he not offering any explanation to her , Ahem knows gopi in and out.. to him gopi trusts him and there are always unsaid words between them flying across...just like me... even Ahem hasn't seen any doubts or insecurities in Gopi's eyes.. so there was no need for any explanation

during the picture.. gopi said no, because she knew Ahem was not comfortable, Ahem said yes, for gopi.. this is what they do for each other.. each others happiness and comfort is what matters to them...

when Anita said Thanks to gopi...Ahem said "Gopi" demanding she referred by name.. even though he is under a huge guilt of the past.. he made a point that his wife is given due respect,.. this shows how much he cares and respects her as his wife

When she offered to stay back in the hospital, this time gopi offered proactively.. she was not asked by koki or by Ahem or by hetal to stay back.. she made a decision to stay back.. support her husband, stand by his side..he was proud to have his wife by his side in such a critical situation.. she gave him the strength.. her mere presence comforts him and brings peace to him

he could see the compassionate person in gopi, when he saw her helping anita and calming her down and asking her not to stress herself...
When Ahem got Anita's phone.. she saw his concern for her well being...

Gopi and Ahem - Husband and Wife

When there is so much of love between Ahem and Gopi.. why would gopi ask explanations from Ahem and and why would Ahem explain to her..and why on earth would gopi leave MM is a question way above my head..

Ahem and Gopi are so fine tuned to each other.. they fit like perfect puzzle.. they are there for each other, come what may .. no insecurities..will ever weaken their relation..

Ahem and Gopi's relation develops from strength to strength and this track is not to weaken their relation and make gopi leave MM.. this track is for strengthening their relation and for Ahem, Gopi and Anita to have a closure and for Ahem to give beautiful words to his ever beautiful feelings...

so that is it from me😛

Originally posted by: doc4ever

Superbly wonderful positive post Munni! ⭐️ Love ur title immensely!

To be honest, I was also one of the confused people in the forum regarding the CVs idea of bringing Anita back...but was reminded of the unique way of their execution of tracks...thank u Harini for that😛

Insecurity I've always believed has never existed in Gopi's vocabulary as someone is who only thinks of others welfare and happiness before her own...how can she ever think of even being insecure? Rashi's intention of creating insecurity in Gopi's life stemmed from her jealousy. When people are consumed with jealousy and hatered, that indicates that they are not happy with their own life either due to their own laziness in making it filled with joy or because they are blind to the goodness already existing in their life and they fail to make it their own.

Seeing Gopi's expressions at the wedding, showed that both her sadness and happiness lie with Ahem. Her life is his life. She was only concerned to make sure her Ahemji was fine. When Ahem made place for her to go forward to congratulate the couple, that to me said, he is allowing her to be part of his problem, even though silently conveyed, it was a very special moment. It also reflected in the hospital, when Gopi was reassuring Anita to say everything would be okay.

Always believed that before u can love someone, trusting that person, is very important first. Ahem has shown that on numerous occasions...examples are so many. The ones that come to mind are the beginning of the education track, and as Harini mentioned the mango incident.

Ahem has again shown how much he trusts Gopi by letting her take over and be of comfort to Anita.

Gopi has always trusted Ahem from the start, she has never questioned any action of his, always was in her heart along with Kanhaji. That showed the day on the wedding. For a woman with so much courage and strength...It's extremely admirable and inspiring.

Love has already happened with both of them...Gopi even before getting married to Ahem had already started her journey of love with him. Ahem took time to love to Gopi, his respect for her grew day by day with the education track, and then his trust started developing with her actions to always keep their family happy. Now he has started feeling the changes in his body's response to her which subconsciously are feelings of love...which we are all waiting for him to impatiently confess.

As both u and Harini have said this track is about the closure of Ahem's past and I feel maybe for Gopi too, by helping and supporting Ahem, she is also putting behind her hurt that she has felt in the past, and her bond with Ahem will come out much stronger than before. Gopi existing from MB is not a solution, the Gopi that has come out of her shell, is much more confident and ready to take on the world, her staying at MB is going to prove that she does in fact have full faith in her husband and she will stand by him at whatever cost.

Munni and Harini...both ur posts are fantastic and beautiful as always...I say this again, u both are exceptional in making what's negative in this track to being positive! Thank u! 🤗

Originally posted by: Arnisha

great post munni very well explained the love between gohem will never change they love each other very much n their relation is becuming strnger day by day they trust eachother fully once again great post...

Oh wow , munni and harini great post and response . I was so ready to shed tears wud gopi on friday cos I believed she like any other woman wud be devastated but that taught me never to underestimate gopi , she is no ordinary wife or woman ,she is not touch by things of the world like jealousy ,anger , greed , possessiveness. Gopi had already formed a link with Anita when nilesh grandmother told them that anita was an orphan .
So when she entered the room she was shocked but her faith and trust in her husband didn't even waiver one bit for to even glance at him to see wot he was feeling , she knew his guilt and shame wud be reflected in his eyes but she knows he is a honourable man who wud never stoop to cheap acts like this . Her focus was on the girl who was abt to have her world come crashing down , gopi knows wot it is to be alone and scared and when she heard nilesh father say her brother wouldn't come for the wedding and he accepted her even though she was an orphan , gopis heart went out to this girl .I couldn't see gopi minded ahem carrying anita out in his arms , for her it was just that the girl was in trouble and her husband felt responsible so he had to take care of her as everybody that anita could call her own had abandoned her. Gopi can see the guilt in her husband ,she can see his worry abt anitas life being ruined , she can see his anger towards himself for being in this position and for subjecting his family to this . Therefore he doesn't want his mom and kaki there to take up the resonsibility of this situation which was unintentionally caused by him . Gopi very confidantly took charge as a wife she wud stay wud him , he always wanted to protect Gopi from his past and any hurt refused although you could see not very firmly . I thought that was incredible for he didn't want his mom but he wanted his wife to be wud him , he knows he draws his strength and courage from gopi these days . He knew his mom will create an even more tense atmosphere when he needed support , gopis presence always keeps him calm and he needed her strengths now to help him thru this situation.he watched take over by assuring anitas family its ok to leave she and her husband will take care of anita , even though he sed it to them they didn't heed his words like they did her reassurance that her husband will handle everything she was confidant in him and it was ok to trust him to do wots best for anita. The family in a situation like this could only trust a wives word , a wife of the man caught in this situation had unshakable trust in him then who r them to doubt . That compromising situation doesn't need airing cos its a non issue for gohem , there is no dirty laundery there , they will never ask questions or offer answers cos their hearts and minds don't require it , and it insults their bond of trust. In this situation Gopi is the strong one every step of the way she will encourage and strengthen her husband to do wot is right for this distraught and helpless girl . Gopi sees ahem as her husband and her love for him will drive her to resolve his guilt and regret at hurting anita so its gonna be gopi will takeup the responsibilty of setting this fisaco right .as for gopi leaving the house I don't think so , she doesn't feel humilated or that her pride is dented , in love there's no ego or pride so too gopi who never had pride or an ego y would it affect her . She doesn't feel robbed of anything she never had anything to be robbed of , so y wud she leave , her faith and trust in ahem is unshakable , now she the one that is needed by her mil , husband , anita and the modis y will she walk away , she has never sacrificed others for herself nor as she left anybody who needed help y wud she do it now.sorry for the rambling but there r very few threads at the moment I feel I can put my thoughts forward as most are angry at ahem and demanding gopi leaves but I think ahems realization of how much he loves her and how much he hurt her in their first year of marriage will hit him harder has he watches her in this situation .

@taniks.. That was a wonderful reply.. I am glad I read it before going to sleep😛

your post cleared lots of my doubts yaar but still why he picked her up in his arms and that concern on his face fro anita?i didn't like it i wish i am wrong