how I want Arya to head..

why i bring this up? because this couple also had a marriage of convenience like arya. but they didn't have kids.. however the hero was shown to also have been married previously, but his wife died, and he was crazily in love with his wife still, but married due to some legal requirements (he was an heir to the throne and had to marry in order to inherit the throne).. anywho.

Why i LOVED this story was because they portrayed marriage as what marriage is supposed to be. really, i don't have words for it. If you are someone who doesn't like spoilers, and are interested in reading the book, don't continue reading my post after this, becuz i am going to be giving away spoilers after this point, because i wanna relate it all to arya.

So anywayz... what they showed was that this couple, though were not in love.. but they did realize that with marriage also comes duties and rights over and towards your spouse.. and one of that duty is intimacy.. and it is also a fact that two ppl, who are married and living together, also have needs..desires.. especially a man who has already been married once- he would have need for intimacy.. and later on what they show is that these two CHOOSE to fall in love with each other.. it doesn't happen overnight.. but they spend time with each other, to try and fall in love... but most importantly, even though they aren't in love, they decide to still become intimate with each other halfway through the book. basically, in a VERY MATURE manner, the hubby discusses with his wife how he does want them to have an intimate relationship, and later on have kids, but he isn't in love with her yet... but he is attratcted to her. andd the wife is also attracted to the hubby, but not in love.

So the book really brings out this realistic thing about marriage of convenience: that even though you may not be totally in love with your spouse, but that physical attraction would most definitely arise if a man and wife live with each other. and if that does arise, it's not wrong to have intimacy. infact it's almost a need, and a part of marriage. And in the book they basically start having intimate relationship, and then gradually they fall in love.

Bringing it to arya, i am SO glad first of all, to see something realistic FINALLY.. in that a couple who has had marriage of convenience isn't all intent on keeping a complete "touch me not" type relationship, with sleeping in diff corners of the room, no bed sharing, starting at any touch... no... they actually (hopefully!) are gonna be sharing the same bed, just like any hubby wife should do... ok, they don't need to get intimate if they aren't ready for it yet.. but no need to act like little kids either, who don't understand the meaning of marriage..

And next, the story i talked about above, the princess.. i would LOVE to see a similar story for arya..really.. i would like to see them move this way..where they realise that as spouses they do have the right to have desires, and it is OK for them to be attracted to each other, and if they are attracted, it is OK for them to be intimate. if they aren't in love, that is OK too.. but that does not mean they have to have live separately, and have no intimacy.. like i had brought up in a discussion topic a couple of weeks back, it is OK for a married couple to have a physical relationship even if they aren't in love.. intimacy is an important part of marriage.. yes it is made even more special if two ppl are in love, but just the bond of marriage itself can also make it special.

I want arya to be attracted to each other, as as any SANE man and woman who are living together as a married couple WOULD BE. 😛 and then i want them to accept that as a part of their marriage. and that's how i want them to fall in love, gradually, choosing to fall in love, rather than just falling.

i know love is not a choice. but it can be sometimes. 😊

read the book - it's beautiful!😉

loved reading ur post..

n would love to read d book too...

can i get it OL?

Try looking it up in your library, they might have it. Another thing is there's a sample of it on google books. Read the firsst few chapters on google books, and then see if you're liking it. if yes, then buy it. i don't regret buying it ;) it's a good book for collection !