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I don't understand mothers like Saraswati.
Earlier she was okay to have Swati married through sacrificing Krishna's happiness. She was heartless to ignore Krishna's gateway into happiness..she could have the head to ask Krishna to forget her preparations for the BDO's competitive examination and get married to a widower who was the elder brother of Swati's match. She did not care to think how the two sisters equations will change if such kind of marriage did happen.
What did Saraswati care about at this point: Swati''s marriage or two girls getting married in one shot ?
Later, writers wrote an episode's worth of dialogues asking us to see what kind of loving mother she is even as she is a "Majboor" mother.
As she passes the mains exam, Saraswati is now okay to give Krishna the Khati doodh (undiluted milk), the symbolic break in discriminating girls against boys.
Now, a match from a DC has come for Krishna. Saraswati does not give it any thought, not even for two seconds and is ready to say yes to the match. She does not care to think even now if her daughter can have any say in this. According to her Krishna is her daughter first and then an officer. And a daughter is still her responsibilty and she has to get married sooner or later!
Then today, what was that? Why was Saraswati explaining to Chanchal and Ravi that they will have to wait for Krishna's salary in order to pay for the cable bill. And not only that, Saraswati actually is talking to Krishna and explaining what all the things they need for the house, like arranging for a different furniture for their living room.
Doesn't Saraswati realize that if Krishna will get married, she won't be able to depend on her salary. So when she was ready to get her married, then why get into habit of living over her means ?😕
I do not have any problem, a mom depending on her daughter for improvement of house and quality of life around it. Not at all. Infact I welcome that.
However, I have a problem with the ways writers are changing Saraswati's character in matter of 2 - 3 episodes that it doesn't fit the bill at all. A mother who says, She is my daughter first and officer later, a mother who dragged her daughter into the house in literal physical sense is actually a mother with plenty of parental ego. And this ego pride would never allow her to ask anything of Krishna for her house at least in the immediate turn of events. She would be a proud mother who will not let her position be compromised by asking Krishna to help her financially.
I am now really confused at the turn of her character. Why writers are doing this to her character. I am unable to call her short-sighted woman, heartless mother, or a hypocritic mother. I am just confused.
While Saraswati and Vidyapati's husband-wife relationship is excellently portrayed, Saraswati's relationship with her kids (son and daughters) is really questionable. Does she really love them enough to inspire them, guide them, instill principles on how to get on with life ? Or this is an intentional flaw within Saraswati's character from the writers ? That she is so wrapped in her house-wife (Gruh-Lakshmi) duties that she never really bothers to know what her children in their individual capacity want for themselves ? Is she really playing an honest mother from lower middle class strata who can never be an intellectual ?
The way Ravi has turned out, is an apt example of the mother who just follows traditions and not question them in a person's betterment. Will Saraswati ever realize this? Will there be any growth? Or these things are better exposed and not addressed over that same person depicting the issue, but addressed as a social commentary for the audience ? If indeed this is a social commentary on a lower middle class woman's perception on a girl daughter, then are we happy that it is being portrayed correctly and that all viewers are getting the message,
I am not sure...but I am really going through that characterstic Pinto realization...moving his hand over the back of his head when confused...that it might be true. I am not liking how this mother does not think of the future of her kids and is totally wrapped in the rigmarole of mundane house-keeping that she has to get on with no matter what. Piteous indeed at this lack of quality in life.
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