I have read the above comments and reflected on their contents. I can see their points of view. I have also thought about this from Sandhya's perspective.
So what I understand from these comments is that although Sandhya has tried she is now come to a point where she is unsure as to whether (a) she will ever be able to become a wife in the traditional way because of her background and ambitions and (b) be fit into Bhabho's expectations of a wife in the Rathi family.
I cannot disagree that a girl of Sandhya's background who has led a sheltered life and focused mainly on a career (police officer) which is more masculine than feminine is not your average Indian middle class girl. Added to that the circumstances of the marriage- loss of parents, coercion and betrayal. Further thrown into a family like the Rathis, makes it even more difficult.
The whole problem is the inconsistency of the plot and the character. On Monday she is shown as the bold, barging modern woman standing up for dulhans and devising clever plots and then on Tuesday she is shown as a simpering bahu of the 18th century. On Wednesday they show that she loves Sooraj and considers him the most worthy person and then on Thursday they show her cringing at his touch. She cannot even bear to touch his clothes.
It is most bizarre.
Why could she not have been shown standing up to Bhabho to say (a) I am not the only who may need contraceptives or even to say that I am not going to discuss the issue of contraceptives in front of my father in law. Why can they not show her now being clever as she initially was such as when she refused to swear on Suraj to prove that she was not lying about her periods.
(b) Why could they not show her standing up for her own self respect in refusing to discuss her sex life.
No self respecting woman of Sandhya's background would stand for this and it weaves into the plot as well.
And if she is angry and upset by the whole issue, why can't she just say so.
We all know the matter have come to this because she was too scared to tell the family that she was educated. She hid this. And now for her to say, oh I am a very honest person who cannot bear the thought of living a lie is a load of nonsense.
The reality, in my view, is that the makers have become lazy and could not be bothered to make any effort. They are riding on the TRPS and seems that they are making this up as they go along.
Lastly, I do not think that a career minded woman is not inclined to love or care for their husbands. They do notice what the family likes to eat,how they take their tea. Specially in this story where she has taken up the challenge to prove to Bhabho that she will succeed if only to make her parents proud.
This has nothing to do with "I am a different kind of woman". The message is more "bugger off, I do not care for you and I couldn't be bothered about making any effort for you".
Surely a character like Sandhya who worked out that Sooraj purposely hurt himself to help her and she then took care of him, would notice his likes and dislikes. For heck sake, she knew how her father in law liked his meals.
No, this new babbling about, I do not know if he likes this veggie and I do not know whether I can be bothered is only a plot to prolong the agony for the audience and delay consummation.
No my dear friends, we are trying to defend the indefensible and psychoanalyzing a mound of cow dung.
Edited by Avidfan - 13 years ago
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