@desi - my arguement was not TA was right. It was my view why T should forgive TA.
Now the list of things TA did, rather i will say circumstances, ppl interfering in their issues(both T and T like sudha, Gw etc) all these things happened...
1) TA made her cook just bcos the loser wanted to prove that he choose a right girl, he wanted to prove that she is worth it before them. Its like before someone scold/irritates her he did it before them...he had ego there to prove that his selection T is the best...
2) Charu beautifully triggered his ego again. She said if it was her, she would forgo her education and followed him like a puppy...This made him behave like a loser again and wanted to prove that for T, he is more important than education...Luckily T won in this test...
3) It was MM who came forward to help TA with money, T informed MM and he came forward. So TA cannot be blamed that he went and got help from him. But Yes with the loan sharks, his ego again played a role here, against Padma...
4) WRT Nitish matter, T could not openly tell it was sudha who told her the information. He himself had to learn about it. But even before he knew deepa was right he agreed he was wrong right after he met Deepa's dad.
This last point proves why TA is so. He sees everyone equally, selfless, thinks by heart...he is not biased. This is his biggest problem. He has to understand that he cant be good to everyone. These characters, his good qualities were used as an advantage by losers, where as T sees only his good qualities and tries to correct his mistakes. This is the difference here.
About C helping TA, all along the time, it happend right infront of KP. For TA, KP is her would be and when he is also accompanying and completely blvs C, TA did not mind it. The dir did not give any chance here for talks wrt TA and C. KP chased C rightly stating the time to her house. They played with the scenes carefully here and did not give a chance for bad talks. All C wanted is to be good before him and hate T and get him. But T won by taking a risk, a good risk indeed, by signing the divorce paper when TA asked. This Over confidence of T, made TA enact before C and this is the place where T won and TA lost. T proved that she is more worth it for TA and did not marry him just bcos he gave her education but really for his love and affection.
T sees positiveness in a person and puts up with them, it happened with padma too. Same way, I want T to go with TA, make him understand his mistakes and correct him. Being separate will not make both of them successful. She has to be with him, be mad at him for his mistakes, ignore him and make him realise how he hurt her and correct him. He should never ever commit those mistakes again and both shd take this C issue as a lesson and prove worth it for marrying each other.
I dont want T to behave like a godess and forgive all his mistakes here. At the same time, i do not want her to completely ignore him. They have put up with each other's mistake and mutually understand each other's positive/negative qualities and prove worth it.
Even for Lav Nitish, separation shd not be a solution. As i told in the other thread, Nitish and lav shd live alone (sep hse), Nitish shd go for work handing over business to his dad and make lav understand what is life.
The irony here is, TA being selfless and not biased on a single person, wanting to be good to all, ruined his own life. He gave more importance to his blood, friendship and listened to them thinking things from C's persective he almost ruined his life
Lav being selfish, wanting for money, status, a traitor to her own blood brother, her in laws, ruined her own life. Not once but many times.
When Lav can be considered to be forgiven more than once, why not TA. This would/has to be T's attitude for sure.
There is no guarantee that TA would be good even after years, so best would be T accepting him and making him realise his mistakes. Her mental stability would make her successful when it comes to TA.
I hope dir does not ruin/exaggerate the leads again with more mess ups and be real enough that they learn their mistakes together. lets see.
Edited by shubba - 13 years ago
