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First of all, I want to salute you and bow to u. After reading your post, I have cringed with guilt for thinking like that in case of Madhuri. You are so right ' When you shared happiness with him, you should also share sorrows with him. This is really true.
But what if you just get to see only sorrows with him? I think I should be more clear- - - sorrows just BECAUSE of him? U shared your story now it is my turn. My father is mentally disordered. He does not do any work and stays at home presently. But he is very well educated and even got very good job offers. But due to his illness which was not identified by anyone at that time was mistook to be ill attitude and lost all of them. His parents( that is my now grand parents) have hid the truth from girl's family and married to her(that is my mom). After marriage, my mom got to know the truth she has been cheated. But my mom did not do anything. She just did not do anything.My grand parents told that he has been cured and is now a normal person. But alas! Mental illness can never be cured, I feel that. Months passed by, my father again lost his job and he was put in jail because he has been caught beating up his officer in his illness. My mom and family brought him home and told him not to work anymore. My mom, even though she was not educated at that time, she managed to do the degree after marriage to get a job and run the family. Even after all this, my father still gets attacks( doura) and at times beats my mom. One time he even tried killing her. But she just joined him in a hospital and took care of him. She continued to run the family of her and 2 children with her earned money. 27 years passed of their marriage and she is still leading the same life as if she is happy and contended with. The only difference is that now living has become a little better because now her son is well educated is doing a good job in one of the MNCs. Her daughter(that is me) recently got a job in campus placements. My mom felt so happy as if her life has been so successful.
I came to know this truth, when I am 15 years old, now I am 20. I have asked my mother to leave him, my mom answered just like u. She said she is married to him and now she is not going to leave him. But I still feel the pain. I feel the pain when I think about my mother. Just think about a girl who is young and got married recently. She will have so many dreams and wishes. All her dreams shattered just because of one person. All her happiness is gone. But she is still supporting him. Don't u think she deserves happiness like any other girl in her life? I FEEL my mom deserves all the happiness of the world and I vowed to myself that I would give her that. The thing is that you are thinking from the POV of a responsible wife and I am thinking from the POV of a daughter who just want her mother's happiness. Please don't ask what about your father? He cheated my mom and tried to kill her. Even though he did that because he was not in his right state of mind. I hate him. I am sorry for saying this but I hate my father because he tried to harm the only person who is truly dear to me, my mom.
Till now I used to think, only my mother is like this. But I think all the mothers are like this. Just bear the pain for your family. But I should say this, I used to get inspiration from my mother and be strong. Now I've got even you. U truly inspired me a lot. Thanks for that and Sorry for the long post!
Edited by Swetha27 - 13 years ago
