Harsh Truth-Loveatics live in Fairy Tales

My post is for all us self confessed loveatics, who believe that true love transcends everything...

Which one of us doesnt want Angad and Kripa to get back together? None I am sure. Why? Cos there is true love between them...or so we believe. Because its such a rare commodity, we are ready to leap and give as many chances to one such case, if it comes to us, albeit in fictional format.

And why did we believe that? Because we saw the way Kripa has been worshipping and pining for Angad even before she came to Mumbai. Things went wrong between them, but finally they fell in love. What had actually happened?

Kripa was the only one who stood upto Angad, screamed and yelled at him, made him see counterpoints to every point he had. And Angad noticed. He got attracted to her, got obsessed with her, and fell in love with her. The bottomline, she refused to treat him as a rockstar and treated him as a normal human being. Which was a totally novel experience for him.

Kripa's dream came true when these two finally 'fell in love'. She had always been in love with him, and it couldnt have been better for her. She gave everything she could to him.

Till Angad fell for the fabricated lies his family spun around him.

Now, what is Kripa seeing? She sees an extremely volatile and impressionable guy, who promised true love for her, has slept with her, suddenly do a complete volte face, for no rhyme or reason, and has started humiliating her no end. In public that too...

Would she still believe this to be true love? She loves him still, accepted. But does she believe even now that Angad even for a minute, truly loved her?

And how many of us, in Kripa's position, would swallow this kind of humiliation? Please do not compare this to any movie, MB, or romance novel you have read or seen...tell this by personal experience/empathy. Would YOU take this indignity?

The basis for any successful relationship is not just true love, its respect and understanding. How much of it do we see in Angad, for Kripa?

All this is good to read, to see in serials, or watch in movies. Fiction always hits on our emotional nerve, it converts our fantaises to real images, hence we fall for that. But real life is different.A woman wont live without her self respect. Living wihout self respect is like living without a soul. You can do without love, but not without your own honor.

Pl comment if you feel I am totally out of sync.

Hi MD, Brilliantly written & wonderfully expressed. I agree that no woman can live without self-respect. Major reason for divorce today is self-respect & equality. You can't treat the women of 21st cen as doormats.......................

But I believe that when you forgive a person, you restore that person to his or her humanity. One should take into account the whole situation & then decide about forgiving. In real life we have COMMUNICATION. And a person like Angad will need professional help. Has to go to the psychiatrist, get a therapy done then will come forgiveness.

My 2 cents hope it makes sense!!

Mink

Originally posted by: morningdew

A woman wont live without her self respect. Living wihout self respect is like living without a soul. You can do without love, but not without your own honor.

you guys are too good with words!

i agree with you in real life today's women - many independent would live without love but not self respect. in fact true love only exists if their is not only respect but also the feeling of taking away any pain that the other person has/feels.

what we are seeing at present between A-K is not love. there is bitterness on A's part and shock which will eventually turn into anger on K's side once she loses the baby.

soul igniting love is such a rare a commodity that we try to look for it in books, serials. on screen couples.....

Maya

Great post as usual MD.............you guys make it impossible for me to leave this forum! I am trying to finish off a book, but I keep returning here! I will miss you guys so much from next week onwards😭

And Mink, you are surely one cool one..........be it a hilarious post or a philosophical one, you always manage to bring a smile on my face!😃

MD, coming back to your question, I for one will never suffer the way Kripa is suffering right now! No matter how much I love my man, no matter how tough life is without him, if he cannot show me respect, then I really don't need his love..............respect comes before love for me!

Choosing between Love and Self-respect is a matter of choice............just because a woman choses her self-esteem before love doesn't make her great, similarly if she choses to overlook everything for love including her self-worth, it doesn't make her any less of an individual.

It all depends on what we value and cherish more in life! For some its love of another person, for some its love for self!

Cheers,

Chilly

👏👏great posts n great replies.....👏👏

Originally posted by: NANNU

👏👏great posts n great replies.....👏👏

yeah true

I have nothing to say, MD.I am not going to comment at all......we have different souls.....you will never see what I can see and I will never see what you want to show me.

My idea of love doesn't come from fairytales and M&Bs(absolute trash according to me)...this is something that I was born with.

I am a dreamer and so are many people like me but I do not live in a dreamworld....I know what the world is like....a shattered glass globe....I may not find love all my life but nothing is ever going to stop me from believing in that divine soul-igniting love...just because I haven't seen it happen...I don't have it doesn't diminish my faith in it even a wee bit.When you love...love deeply, passionately ...with selfless devotion....I may get hurt in the process but that's the only way to live life completely...to the very root-essence of it.One cannot decide....or pre-plan such things...what has to come your way will come your way.Know what? Your mind folllows you but when your heart beckons...you follow it.

Humanity is my religion.....love is my faith.....God is my father...and none of them need evidences and justifications....that's how it's going to be till I die and even beyond.

Nitica said:
"Humanity is my religion.....love is my faith.....God is my father...and none of them need evidences and justifications....that's how it's going to be till I die and even beyond."

Absolutely beautiful & true. 👏 👏

"But I believe that when you forgive a person, you restore that person to his or her humanity. One should take into account the whole situation & then decide about forgiving. In real life we have COMMUNICATION. And a person like Angad will need professional help. Has to go to the psychiatrist, get a therapy done then will come forgiveness."

Mink, That was really amusing in a way... the part about therapy and help..well, its not a bad idea u know..and its not taboo anymore.. So yes, if one needs it, then why not..

"MD, coming back to your question, I for one will never suffer the way Kripa is suffering right now! No matter how much I love my man, no matter how tough life is without him, if he cannot show me respect, then I really don't need his love..............respect comes before love for me!"

Exactly Chilly, this is precisely what I wanted to know. We can fulfil our fantasies by way of fiction, but how much of it would we personally take?

"I am a dreamer and so are many people like me but I do not live in a dreamworld....I know what the world is like....a shattered glass globe....I may not find love all my life but nothing is ever going to stop me from believing in that divine soul-igniting love...just because I haven't seen it happen...I don't have it doesn't diminish my faith in it even a wee bit."

Nits, I am not saying true love doesnt happen. I was challenging the basic dictum of the forum, does Angad actually truly love Kripa? AND....are we ready to tolerate such humiliation in the name of True Love? Because I believe, if there IS true love, then there has to be respect. These are synonymous with each other. Otherwise it is not love. It is possesion and/or obsession. That is my belief.

And at this point of time I take the liberty of asking a personal question Nits, if you do believe in love, why dont you believe in marriage? Or is it that you think that true love is so rare that you dont want anything but that, hence dont want to get into marriage for the sake of it? Dont be offended, but you really puzzle me.

It's alright, MD. I puzzle everyone.

I never said that I don't believe in marriage...only a "lost sheep" cannot believe in marriage...it's just that I don't want to marry, I'll let you know the reason someday.I don't hate men either...good and evil is not gender-specific...it's just that ever since I was a kid, I have intimidated men...and am still revelling in that glory.😆

As far as Angad and Kripa are concerned........who are we to know how true Angad's love is or Kripa's love is? Love isn't categorised into types and definitions.....their love is furious...mad...jealous...passionate...intense...delicate... .everything. If we can be sure about one thing in A-K love saga .....that is.....there love is profound!

With love comes respect...true....with loss of love comes madness...blind, passionate, bleeding madness. It cannot be explained...really it cannot be explained.