Jeevika's Dilemma- Her sister and her new family- Page 3

WOW you guys have added brilliant points to this discussion! Thanks! It shows there is more to be explored and being explored with the dilemma she is in...--will reply to everyone!

Originally posted by: -Kruti.S-

great topic mari...I read the posts here and everyone pretty much said what I feel about the current track...

seeing Jeevika stuck between her sister and her sasuraal is nothing new, its ghar ghar ki kahaani to be frank...every Indian married women has to face this dilemma one day or the other...even if you dont live in a joint family like in the show...you still have to make choices and most of the time the girl ends up choosing her in-laws...coz she expects ke her blood relations will understand her dilemma and not be mad at her...I have seen my Bhabhi doing it so many times and it works...in long time if you want to lead a happy married life...it works...

OMG did I just start preaching here...sorry about that 😆

ok so back to topic...I understand both the sisters' pain...its so hard for both of them at the moment...obviously real mein itna bada drama nahi hota, they always magnify in the shows...in reality neither a girl interferes in her sister's sasuraal so much nor the girl asks her sister to leave her sasuraal in a way that jeevika did...none of them are wrong...you cant blame either...but what I am mad about is why cant they communicate 😕

I mean ok J is angry with M and M is back to rishikesh but after that they can at least talk over the phone...I really like how Viren and Virat are both handling the situation...Viren explaining to Jeevika was such a sweet scene and Virat-Jeevika scene was very subtle 😳

lets see how CVs handle this delicate track further...

I am not married yet, but I do understand Jeevika's pain and get really annoyed when other people begin bashing her. Even now people expect her to be able to just get up and leave to see her sister. In the society once a girl is married, she is responsible for that family. Let's imagine she goes against her sasural and goes to see Manvi, will it be possible for her to be accepted back into that sasural, not really? Her sasural (swaniji and dadaji) hates her sister, so if she does leave to see Manvi, then her life would become a living hell in the Vadhera's. It might seem like she only cares about herself. If Jeevika's life turns to hell, then Manvi will never be able to forgive herself. She is going to feel as if her di's situation is her fault. So, Jeevika wants to be there for Mannu, but also she is unable to do so without her elders permission. It is alot for Jeevika to take. She has no idea what is that she needs to do.

I'm a slient member on this forum, I love this show and although I don't have a sister, I am the eldest child ( i have 3 brothers) I can understand Jeevika's POV, she is newly married, it's expected of her from her in laws, society and culture that the sasural comes first but although this does happen, it does not mean she takes an oath to stop talking to her sister. In that sense I think Jeevika is more the 'extreme' its either one or the other, I was told my mother who had the a similar problem (rift between maternal house and in laws) that a successful woman is one whom can balance the relationships in life, she doesn't forsake her old relations for the new, and doesn't disregard her new relations for the old ones. Jevika still needs to grasp a way of managing both sides of her relations. At the end of the day she is suffering- I remember something I say a lot to my younger brothers, a person can bend only so much and for so long before they start feeling uncomfortable or are in pain and when they are in pain the 1st thing they do is straighten up, they don't care what's around them or who they may hurt, they want to remove that pain (i hope I'm making sense).