it baffles me that someone could think they like that about another person.. men are happy with door mats!! I dont know what the direction of the question. all i read is that one person should be doormat and its best if its the woman. when actual fact .. a house that man rules is pretty unf*king happy! you need to seriously sit down and think. ur an educated person.
the dominating / door mat concept sounds an awful lot like the man made concept that eve came from the rib of adam, therefore she is just a part of him? but ill just tell you this once: man and woman come from the same source not from eachother, you have to dismiss that thought. And contemplate on man and woman.
what makes you ...you is your attributes such as kindness, strength, logic, mercy, knowledge etc. what diffrentiates us is our levels of them. a man has some attributes and a woman the other. therefore man and woman are COMPLEMENTARY to each other, not COMPETITIVE. it just so happens men have the tougher attributes and the women have greater beauty, kindness, compassion and perception.
what seperates us from animals is our ability to carry these attributes..you have to seek knowledge and then LIVE WHAT YOU KNOW. for example you know you have to be just, and the whle universe system is based on justice, and youo hae mercy otherwise you know something but you withold your information, then you become a half hypocrite. you are not doing what you know is correct. so this excerise of this knowlede is the main reason why we are a degree higher then animals. your concept of doormat is infact animalistic.
part of the knowledge is to discover what is good and bad? how are you built? the structure of your heart? between two poles - hatred - love - jealousy - support - compassion - animosity_ dark, light , these dualities and codes control existence you have to discover them and if you are built on one line which you seem to be .., then you will never discover them. you have to see them practiceed and live within yourself, within your community.. and develop the power and ability to control them, to become a perfect HUMAN.
what you call doormat is not doormat
it is a method devised for you to learn, because you have been given opposities continuously everywhere, and you will have to understand them and to choose the best of them, and to let it control the other so you may start to became elevated as a human.
now .. these two opposites .. are actually not opposites, they are actually one thing, because darkness and light for instance... are only different degrees of the same thing .. light. because your ability to see is limited. if the light is getting dimmer and dimmer you cant see but if your a cat you can see even in the dark.. so it all depends on the measure of the attribute you have. another example is hot and cold.. we are 37 degrees another above like 40 makes us hot.. anything under 37 makes us cold.. BUT imagine if we were 80 degrees then 70 degrees would be cold!! so actually hot and cold are just varying degrees of heat.. and the same because we stand on a certain point of a ladder.. we devide them into two different opposites or poles.. but in reality these opposites or poles .. do not exist.
for instance you and i apply for the same promotion.. in the same company.. you get the job and i do not.. you are happy and i am sad.. i think its bad for me and get angry.. WHY???? because everyone of us is determining good and bad with the criterion what is benefical for me that i want, or not. soo if i want something and it happens it is good, if i want something and it didnt happen then its bad...
but in reality it is nether really good nor really bad.. so now the depth of understanding and this phenomena of man on earth, is very much needed for intelligent people like you to understand the wisdom behind man/woman!
it is an excerise for us to learn more and to become and evolve to our full potential... everyone is of us will evolve to our full potential through this excercise regardless of religion. the difference between us is that their potential is different from your.
just remember you were created with eyes.. ears ..personality.. ability to observe ..transform and most importantly to ask questions! and treat people the way u want to be treated. its basic human stuff man. door mat sh!t pft
Anupamaa
CID
