Are GOHEM being fair to JIGAR??

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leo4ever

@leo4ever

Rocker

Posted: 13 years ago

hello, i have been wondering this question, do you feel gohem are being fair to jigar as a person? in their mission RAJI , they have made the decsission mainly based on the sadness of rashi, the pity and sisterly love took over gopi and made her an ambassdor for RAJI union.

however my points :gohem want rashi to be happy and inadbvertantly jigar and start afresh but

rashi has shown no sign of repentence, she just wants to be back to normal, i dnt see any remorse, i dnt see any thought that it takes time to mend the broken trust, i have to gain the trust. gohem also no talk on that rather simply ways to patch them up.
rashi has not shown she wants to get back to jigar asa she feels bad at cheating him, hurting him , she points out that see no importance to me etc without even thinkng she deserves this? helping jigar see rashi in a new light aided by gohem might just cast a wrap around his eyes as it is not the real scenario
ahem has not even uttered a word about rashi to jigar, even if gopi is donig it she is dionig it keeping her issiters best interst, what is in for jigar? why arnt gohem for a min even accepting that jigar is hurt and rashi needs to really make effort
getting gifts, gonig to mandir, getting credit or playing iwth pigeon is not what makes the marriage works, what about trust , dependenablity, repsect?

i feel gohem are being a tad unfair to jigar, in their eagerness they are just making rashi look beeter and reducing the distance but it will be a window dreessing or rather a cosmetic change rather than a real one in thier marriage.

your views?

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Aish3003

@Aish3003

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

I so agree with you.

Gopi is not at all thinking about what Jigar must be going through... And Ahem ... I doubt he sees anything apart from Gopi these days. He just does as she says.

And all the reasons you listed are bang on! And that is why I think the Raji plan won't work. He won't accept her but Gohem will come very close. Rashi has done way to many mistakes and Jigar has seen the ugliest side of her that Gopi for one can't even imagine

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maddy311

@maddy311

Rocker

Posted: 13 years ago

Nice post and I agree with you😊 gohem are not giving a thought about jigar at all

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Justlikethat1

@Justlikethat1

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+ 2

Posted: 13 years ago

You are so right.. Ahem and Gopi are both being unfair to Jigar. But I think Gopi misunderstood Jigar's reaction on seeing Raashi at the hospital. She thought he was sad about Rashi.

But she has grossly overlooked the betrayal he has gone through in her blind love for her sister.

And Rashi does play her well. She acts like she has realized her error. She keeps claiming to Gopi that she has asked for forgiveness so many times that I think Gopi is of the opinion that Rashi is really trying. An idiotic view...

As for Ahem as Aish said he is following Gopi's lead. I do not think he was one minute thought about whether Rashi has changed or not. Plus I think he does want Jigar just does not know what would make him happy.

Actually if I was Jigar, I would tell them both to lay off. But being Jigar he is very respectful to make that kind of statement. I actually liked it when he told Gopi that he is unwilling to forgive Rashi on the day of the cancelled trip. Gopi just does not learn.

But one thing.. In a joint family like theirs where divorce is not an option, couples learn to forgive each other. Otherwise it would become very difficult to love. For Jigar and Rashi it is difficult unless they actually talk to each other. About all the important things. Jigar needs to make it clear that he has lost his trust and he does not consider her fake 'sorry' as repentance. He would need to tell Rashi that even if he is civil enough he will not be the old Jigar who fawned after her every need..

Rashi needs to come back to reality and so do Ahem and Gopi... And Jigar is the only person who will be able to do it.. Or may be Koki??😈

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CravingKhana

@CravingKhana

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 13 years ago

So Agree with you...

Gopi is naive but what happened to Ahem?

I hope he gets over this and actually starts speaking to his brother and GoHem start workin on themselves they have no experience in this and have a long way to go in understanding each other let alone anyone elses marriage...

Raashi and Jiger should be able to figure themselves out

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Mandy

@Mandy20

Sparkler

Posted: 13 years ago

I agree with you, goham should consider Jigars opinions and feelings before planning on how to bring Raji closer

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ANJ4

@ANJ4

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 13 years ago

I think ahem need s to mind his own business... He never like it when jigar would say something about gohem relationish... So AHem mind you own business.

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Dhabu89

@Dhabu89

Rocker

Posted: 13 years ago

I am in total agreement with you. All Rashi did was try to make Ahem hate Gopi and most of the time succeeded. Now Gopi and Ahem are on a mission to unite Jigar who from the beginning of their marriage has done nothing but lie, cheat and betray everyone in the Modi Parivar😡

At least Ahem should have enough sense to explain to Gopi Rashi need to repent before she can unite with Jigar. The CV's need to show that being good is not always mean sacrificing your own happiness. The way it is shown is that if you do kalakaries and play dirty mind games you will out in the end because good will have to give up and evil will always prevail😔💔

Rashi and Kinjal really need a dose of reality of their mistakes. Urmi can just go to hell. She is not even worth mentioning...I mean what kind of woman would treat her niece like a servant and ruin her own daughters life by doing kalakari over kalakari...She already got married because of the kalakari now leave her alone...She is really a khaudhari for money and food...