why hate antara so much?

why hate or blame antara entirely? what she did in the last couple of episodes was wrong but u have to admit that its not her fault entirely. she was the one who convinced everyone to let siya join them for dinner, etc.. she was always nice to her. but now she is dhruv's wife and no matter how close she is to siya, i dont think ANY girl will tolerate comparisons with another girl, especially someone who loves and was abt to marry her husband. the wadhwa family was very unfair whenever they made comparisons and that too, right to antara's face. esp the dadi and sumit's mom. besides, whats up with all the closeness between siya and dhruv. ok so they have been best friends but siya shud have maintained a certain level of friendship knowing he now has a wife. not everyone is broadminded and i personally didnt get the whole waking dhruv up, making him his fav bfast and above all, the stupid friend who had the nerve to compare antara to siya and say how siya and dhruv made the best pair. why would u say that AFTER someone is married?? i think they were all unfair to her, esp that stupid shanta mausi who ruined things for her esp wen she was new to the family and trying so hard to adjust. although most of us women wouldnt go so far as tryin to seek revenge or watever, but i know that i wont be able to tolerate so much nonsense if my inlaws put me thru it all like this, esp with the comparisons, the girl who loves my husband in the same house and being all frank, and everything else :) i dont think antara can be blamed entirely !

Originally posted by: shay9164

why hate or blame antara entirely? what she did in the last couple of episodes was wrong but u have to admit that its not her fault entirely. she was the one who convinced everyone to let siya join them for dinner, etc.. she was always nice to her. but now she is dhruv's wife and no matter how close she is to siya, i dont think ANY girl will tolerate comparisons with another girl, especially someone who loves and was abt to marry her husband. the wadhwa family was very unfair whenever they made comparisons and that too, right to antara's face. esp the dadi and sumit's mom. besides, whats up with all the closeness between siya and dhruv. ok so they have been best friends but siya shud have maintained a certain level of friendship knowing he now has a wife. not everyone is broadminded and i personally didnt get the whole waking dhruv up, making him his fav bfast and above all, the stupid friend who had the nerve to compare antara to siya and say how siya and dhruv made the best pair. why would u say that AFTER someone is married?? i think they were all unfair to her, esp that stupid shanta mausi who ruined things for her esp wen she was new to the family and trying so hard to adjust. although most of us women wouldnt go so far as tryin to seek revenge or watever, but i know that i wont be able to tolerate so much nonsense if my inlaws put me thru it all like this, esp with the comparisons, the girl who loves my husband in the same house and being all frank, and everything else :) i dont think antara can be blamed entirely !

i agree with you........u r right...........

oooooooooooohhhhhhhhhh yeh yaar u remind that's all
mausi dadi she done all that oooohhhh sorry antra
yeh but why is she thinking negitive about siya and
druve they r just friends oh what ever 😆 😆

well i would have ot diasgree with u siya and dhruv have been friends since they were lil kids yaar and antara should no better that siya would not doing something like this i mean the girl was all ready to leave the country so that these two could be happy yaar

I partly agree with you... but for most part, sorry, I disagree...

Originally posted by: shay9164

she was the one who convinced everyone to let siya join them for dinner, etc.. she was always nice to her.

Agreed...Antara was always nice to Siya. Before marriage, she convinced everyone to let Siya join them for dinner..and after marriage, she convinced Dhruv to help Siya get out of her part-depression!

Originally posted by: shay9164

but now she is dhruv's wife and no matter how close she is to siya, i dont think ANY girl will tolerate comparisons with another girl, especially someone who loves and was abt to marry her husband. the wadhwa family was very unfair whenever they made comparisons and that too, right to antara's face. esp the dadi and sumit's mom.

True.. the family has been partly responsible, especially with the comparisons and stuff.. but what has Antara done to combat those comparions..to make her own identity in the family? Nothing! I don't think Antara even tried doing anything! The energy & time she wasted on negating everything, had she begun learning tid-bits..the comparisons would eventually stop! Why give anyone a chance to say anything?

Originally posted by: shay9164

besides, whats up with all the closeness between siya and dhruv. ok so they have been best friends but siya shud have maintained a certain level of friendship knowing he now has a wife.

What closeness?? I don't see any closeness between Siya-Dhruv.. whatever is, is only in words! On the contrary, since Siya came to Wadhwa house, most of the time we've seen her with Sharman, Aashka & Meera! As for Dhruv..talking about closeness..Siya never hugged or kissed him! All she did was put her hand on Dhruv's hand, to console him.. there too she was telling Dhruv to give Antara time! Dhruv & Siya, both, have maintained the distance, and only been friends!

Originally posted by: shay9164

not everyone is broadminded and i personally didnt get the whole waking dhruv up, making him his fav bfast

In every other matter, Antara has been broadminded..talking of 'America this America that' (thats the explanation she gives to KK when Aashka went to Lonavla, na?). Fine..no woman can take another woman close to her husband..but wouldn't it help, being a 21st century girl, to talk about it to her husband first? As for the waking up bit.. Siya did it in front of Antara, and just related how Sumit & she used to wake him up when they were kids.. Its not like Siya yet does it, even after Dhruv is married! Dhruv's breakfast.. Antara is his wife.. why didn't she bother to get up and make her husband his favourite breakfast? His breakfast is just toast butter jam.. sure she knows that much?! Siya does it for the family, coz she cares.. Now I wonder, does Antara care for anyone at all?

Originally posted by: shay9164

and above all, the stupid friend who had the nerve to compare antara to siya and say how siya and dhruv made the best pair. why would u say that AFTER someone is married??

Sameer did not compare Antara to Siya on Antara's face..unlike Dadi & Veena who said things to her on the face. Sameer didn't even tell Dhruv! Sameer said what he thought..before Dhruv got married to Antara. We have to give him the benefit of the doubt!

Originally posted by: shay9164

i think they were all unfair to her, esp that stupid shanta mausi who ruined things for her esp wen she was new to the family and trying so hard to adjust.

Agreed.. at times they were unfair to her.. but that too, only Dadi & Veena.. the rest have always defended and protected Antara! Shanti Mausi came, lit the fire.. but sorry, Antara, with her reactions, fuelled the fire and ruined things for herself!!

Originally posted by: shay9164

although most of us women wouldnt go so far as tryin to seek revenge or watever, but i know that i wont be able to tolerate so much nonsense if my inlaws put me thru it all like this, esp with the comparisons, the girl who loves my husband in the same house and being all frank, and everything else :) i dont think antara can be blamed entirely !

When a girl gets married.. comparisons and expectations are inevitable. If that girl wants to be happy and make everyone around her happy..she has to learn how to handle things the right way. This is one quality I admire about KK.. Even she went through the same ordeal..when Renuka, who loved Sumit, was staying in Wadhwa house.. KK handled Renuka superbly well..coz she was secure in her relationships..she had the utmost faith in Sumit!

Learning so much is a small price for the happiness that follows..

haaai ekta what an analysis 😛 but sorry yaar i hate antara, at first i ddnt blame her 4 gettin things rong etc as i too believed she was new to the house and has her own principles etc and is a 21st cent ladki and needs her freedom

but she crossed the line when she planted passports in siyas room, after everything siya n her dad did 4 antara hw cud she? siya treats her like a sis and was very hurt when ant tried 2 pay money bak 4 wedding, she is rong!

and i also agree tht the family has not been fair on her by comparing her 2 siya, tht is their fault not ants but ant shud have learnt tht things will eventually cool down

and i dnt think dhruv n siya have ne kind of closeness, they been best friends for ages so thodi dosti tho hogi, frm wat ive seen she spent most of tym with sharman n co not with dhruv, she was onli with dhruv when she tlked bout ant or when sameer was there

And in all this where was Dhruv?? The missing link here is Dhruv. He according to me have been quite a sad husband. All he does is make worried faces...dude go talk to your wife...see what her problem is...if she is not talking, you talk...make her feel more secure...and don't ever make the mistake of comparing her to Siya...which he did!!!

if KK was secure when Renuka was there it was probably because of Sumeet...if KK is happy when the entire family is mean to her is because she knows Sumeet is always with her...but Dhruv! I am so disappointed in this guy!! If KK Sumeet are still together the credit goes to both of them.

Also a husband has to put his wife above everyone else...be it Siya or any best friend...however close you are to that person...what if Antara did the same with a guy?? It would take two seconds for everyone to term her as slut!!

Originally posted by: admail_bd

And in all this where was Dhruv?? The missing link here is Dhruv. He according to me have been quite a sad husband. All he does is make worried faces...dude go talk to your wife...see what her problem is...if she is not talking, you talk...make her feel more secure...and don't ever make the mistake of comparing her to Siya...which he did!!!

if KK was secure when Renuka was there it was probably because of Sumeet...if KK is happy when the entire family is mean to her is because she knows Sumeet is always with her...but Dhruv! I am so disappointed in this guy!! If KK Sumeet are still together the credit goes to both of them.

Also a husband has to put his wife above everyone else...be it Siya or any best friend...however close you are to that person...what if Antara did the same with a guy?? It would take two seconds for everyone to term her as slut!!

Well.. Dhruv did try talking to Antara.. tried explaining to her.. but sorry, one can only talk if the other person is ready to listen!! Antara is just not willing to listen to anyone.. not to Dhruv.. not even KK! All she says is 'No, what I did was right'.. 'I'm right in what I say, what I do'.. For Antara, its just 'me..me..me.. and no one else'! Dhruv hasn't done anything to make Antara feel insecure..

And..what did Dhruv say to Antara? Did he say, 'Siya is better in this.. Siya is better in that?' Or did he say, 'Siya can cook.. you can't..etc..etc..?! NO! All he said was, 'agar Siya yeh sab kuch handle kar sakti hai..toh tum kyun nahin?' If that is comparison..so be it. All boils down to one fact..Antara just doesn't know how to handle things the right way.. and neither does she want to learn! Moreover.. you can't support your wife or put her above everyone else, knowing very well she is wrong! If she is wrong.. she is wrong! No two ways about it! In this case too, Dhruv was neutral.. rather, quite confused! He knew Siya can't do something like that.. neither did he negate what Antara said. He was fuming only when he knew what Antara did..

KK has handled Renuka.. way before she even fell in love with Sumit. KK knew Renuka brainwashed Sumit & got him to stay with her..just for revenge.

u know what i really hate antra cuz she blame siya for the lost of passport i feel sry for siya 😭

Originally posted by: Ektaj

When a girl gets married.. comparisons and expectations are inevitable. If that girl wants to be happy and make everyone around her happy..she has to learn how to handle things the right way.

Sorry but I still dont agree. Not every household makes comparisons especially broadminded and people who care for others feelings, and EVEN if they do, they know better than to say it out loud to others' faces. What a great way to welcome the new bahu- compare her to noone but THE girl who everyone wanted dhruv to marry. It shows nothing but the pettiness of peoples' minds. And if you say its inevitable, still doesnt mean its alright to do so. Why should have antara tried to prove herself better than siya? She is a new member of the family and has a right to have everyone's love and respect. She has her own personality, her own mind, so why try to prove herself better than anyone else? Not everyone is alike, if Siya has her good qualities, Antara does too. And just because Antara is outspoken and liberal doesnt mean she didnt try to mingle with the family. She did try hard, by helping kumkum, by being so close to ashka, meera, and sharman. Its another thing if everything she tried to do in good spirit turned out to be so negative with others. Also, NO MATTER how bold or liberal or educated or "americanized" a woman is, the fact remains that she is a WOMAN. Being liberal does not changes one to be possessive about who she loves. Besides, the household practically drove her to the point. Being all modern might change one's views but not feelings.