OMGSH..you literally put words to my feelings! I really don't like her attitude...I mean not like she's all innocent herself...what's up with her still staying in her maayka? And isn't her "high status" soceity gonna question her for always favouring Viren over Virat? Isn't that same soceity gonna question her about treating Viren as her own child and always putting Viren's actual mother on the back seat!? Sure, I understand that she raised Viren cuz Vanshika was mourning her husband's death at that time while also nursing Virat..fair enough...but all that means is that Viren and Vanshika should respect her all the more...that doesn't mean that they should bow down to her nonsense!
Honestly speaking, Virat is the only sensible one in their family...as much as I hate to admit...I sometimes have my doubts about Viren as well...but Virat can clearly differentiate between right and wrong. That's why he doesn't waste time hanging around his Dadaji or his Bua cuz he knows they'll just taunt him and spoil his mood...I think it's rather smart of him to remain isolated while also maintaining a close bond with his brother, his mom and his chachi...it's the best he can do for his sanity and the well being of the entire family.
And yeah...you're right...not like Manvi directly did something hurtful to the Vadheras...sure her plans have backfired...but they've always been under control by either Jeevika or Virat...so please tell me why she has an issue with Manvi...???!?! I think it reminds her of her past and how she was close with her brother...so maybe there is a past connection and Swamini's attitude is justified...but for the time being, Swamini needs to swallow her ego and move on!