tum toh chale pardes...kya tum pardesi ho gaye??? - Page 4

when i was like a couple of months old, my dad moved abroad because of his job and all, so my mom was solely responsible for our upbringing...so finally when i was 13, i moved to US as well and we started living like a family...it was hard to adjust with having a man around the house, but since he was our dad, it wasn't that bad... it was really the outside environment that really was the difficult part. But since i had my mom, dad, sisters and brother with me, it was still manageable...learned english quickly, learned almost everything soon enough just because i was school going age so i was exposed to different things outside so adapted rather quickly... 😆

But like in pakistan, we always visited our cousins, aunts and uncles, grandparents quite often...and they visited us as well...but while in US, there was NOTHING like that! we have no other family members here...in Pak, we used to celebrate Eid and other celebrations with the extended family and cousins, and it used to be super fun!!! but here, nothing is the same! NO FAMILY AT ALL besides parents...it can get sooo boring on those special occasions but i guess i've gotten used to it now...😳 so i've always lived with my parents and i love them...😳can't even think about staying away from them...but recently, a few years ago, i started taking part in summer programs and many of the programs were not in my city, so i had to go and live on my own...(not really my own but still away from parents and siblings)...

ok so the first time i stayed away from my parents was 2 years ago for 3 months...the place i went to was really a small city...i stayed in the university dorms and had to eat the food there...you can imagine how i must have felt after eating for a week...but i had to stay there for THREE MONTHS...i really got tired of eating the disgusting food!!! that was one thing that i was unable to handle while being away from my mommy!! never thought how much i took her and her cooking for granted!! i missed my biryani sooo much, you cannot even imagine!!!!! 😆and the worst thing was that in that small city there were NO indian or paki restaurants so couldn't satisfy myself with that either.😭...but other than food, since i stayed busy most of the time, coping with everything wasn't too bad... but then i came back home and realized how much i missed my family!! my dad was like now you are all grown up and can live on your own, and i literally started crying and i was like no i can't...i really can't stay away from all of you...that was an emotional day😭...haha but then again last summer, i stayed away from home for 3 months again...it was a better experience than the first summer...

and now that i had my nikkah and sooner or later will be having my wedding and of course will have to live with my hubby, i'm really dreading it... i mean here at my parents house, like everyone is saying, i'm too living like suhana...i spend excessively if not lavishly... 😆 but i know that after marriage i'm going to have to control at least for a first few years until we truly settle...we both are young and all so it will take time to find jobs, settle and all... 😆 but i think i am mentally prepared for it all...but what i'm not prepared for is handling the house responsilbilities and all without the help of my mommy!! like cooking, cleaning etc. i still can't cook...i CAN clean.. 🤣 my mom the other day was like, you are going to be like suhana and your poor hubby will have to eat burnt rotis and noodles too...i was like come on i can't be THAT dumb!! 😆 i'm hoping that when really it's the time for me to cook, im not like suhana 😆 so yeah i have mentally prepared myself for my life ahead unlike suhana...

p.s. sorry for SUCH a long post didn't realize that i wrote this much...not even sure if it pertains to the actual topic or not, but i really wrote my whole life history... 😆