Neither is V chicken nor r Charu and Devki spineless if they opt to remain in loveless marraiges .
All 3 r extremely strong , noble characters .
V can be described as young , inexperienced and someone who has not thought deeply about his compro marraige situation ...like most youths he lives in the present .
If D decides NOT to divorce V but continues living in that marraige , I can totally understand where she comes from . And I can totally understand Charu living in her marraige and not walking out either .
Love is not the only priority on which marraiges r based ...there r many many factors to be considered before breaking up that institution
There r children involved , family members inviolved , and decisions r taken keeping the whole picture in mind .
It takes strength to walk out and divorce . It takes greater strength to make a decision , put a lid on personal feelings and expectations and focus on the larger picture .
A divorce can often be the prioritisation of personal feeling and ego over all other factors ...even children . For instance I know women who have opted to divorce their spouses although they were excellent fathers and providers , as their egoistic tiffs were more important to them .
Then there r those who do away with personal expectations by evaluating the situation and focus on in laws , children , keeping family together .
I don't judge both . Both r facets of strength only . Its simply a matter of perspective , choice and personal priority .
Many often feel , is divorce worth giving up what we built together simply coz my husband had an affair and has still not got it out of his system ? Good Luck to him , but I won't let my children suffer emotional trauma by throwing tantrums or breaking their security cocoon . To hell with that woman , he is an excellent provider and really loves the children ...That woman is NOT my goal , my children r . I won't walk out , I will modify instead how I live in my marraige .
That too is not AT ALL wrong or spineless . Its VERY GUTSY .
I want D to know the TRUTH . But after knowing truth if she decides she still wants to stay in this marraige its her choice . I have full faith in the dignity of her decisions . And I simply ADMIRE Charu . I will never judge her decision ...All I want is for her to know the truth , thats all .