Originally posted by: janavii
Why here nobody seems to blame IMV. He is the one who steered whole mess. After D rejecting to marry V, IMV is the one who created consequences for D to marry V,on firsthand IMV is the oine who made V accept for marriage with D, then why IMV is admired. I also said earlier the this is the woman( S) to whom V has been really close for the first time in life, then how can he forget in 2 months of time where as his father is not able to forget his love even after 22 or 32 years of his marriage. U can point out that even though IMV has not forgot his luv he has been a good husband and given Charu 3 children. That is what the marriage is. That what u want that V forget everything (Or act to forget) and give D 3 children and then have separate bedrooms like IMV and Charu and have "a Parada " in between. Do u want V & D become another IMV & Charu by staying faithful to their compro marriage?
Firstly IMV is a villainous anti hero kind of character , He will always do strange negative things that appear right to his POV .😆 He manipulates everything and everyone , he is the type who will even manipulate GOD .😆
Answering ur last underlined part :
No I do not want V's marraige to become an IMV Charu marraige . There was a scene in which Charu HERSELF old her son DO NOT turn ur marraige into OUR marraige .
She has seperate rooms AFTER 3 children and the business flourished ...she does have happy memories with him when they were not so rich , she keeps reminiscing those days .
But V has seperate Beds NOW itself .
So which marraige is bad ?
Why shud V allow his marraige to go his father's way NOW itself ? Better NOT to have a marraige rather than Have one and end it like his Father did right ? Isn't that what you are saying ?
When Charu showed him exactly this point that you have made today , why did V not THINK and come to conclusion
That What Mother says is right , I just dont feel attracted to this woman and after some children we may have seperate bedrooms like my parents ...so Better call this off NOW !
Why has not this realisation struck him ?
IMV did not forget his love of 32 years , true . But He had an arranged marraige , so Charu did NOT expect love etc . Arranged marraiges r deals for life in which primarily it is seen to that the girl gets a life in which she is provided for , has children , and lives comfortably . No woman expects love etc in an aranged marraige , its an understood fact that all such sentiments come by and by or sometimes r hardly there . It is generally expected in arranged marraige that love comes as years go with companionship .
And IMV did provide well , had children and a marital life . They have seperate bedrooms NOW , but their companionship exists . Charu thirsts for LOVE but she is practical enough to know that not all get it and hers was after all an arranged marraige !
Very practical woman . Not that IMV is right here , mind u .Am not justifying him . But this is what happened in THEIR marraige .
So she told her son ...Look , this happened in my marraige , you dont go on same path .
Son shud consider this na ? He shud decide that no way r we gonna land in seperate bedrooms later ...hell , we r in seperate beds NOW only ! So lets cut it HERE only , or it will lead to misery , Mom is warning me !
Why is he not doing that ?
Does he think Marraige is a siuation for ETERNAL DOSTII ?😆 Which film did he see ? Tht he has not even THOUGHT once that hell , one day I will have to consummate , think of kids ...will i EVER be able to do that ?
Neither has he thought nor D !
Both put a front in front of elders ...WHY ? Honesty is something to be proud of , isn't it ? The partition in IMV and Charu's room is open to the whole house , the full house knows they now sleep seperately , there is no FRONT !
But V and D r putting on a Front !
IMV had no illusions about what a marraige would entail . When he committed , he gave his wife all the practical things ...consummation , children , good proviision .
When they seperated , he did not HIDE . I see honesty there . IMV has not promised Charu LOVE , he gave a commitment , fulfilled it , when seperated , it was for all to see . He has not hidden anything from family . Charu HAD expected her arrange marraige wud one day find LOVE in companionship like most girls do , to date she has not got it , but she is so fulfilled in other ways ...lovely in laws , children etc , and moreover SHE has found love for her husband from HER end ...Thats enough for her to stay in the marraige and pull on ! She has taken a decision and frankly does not expect more !
It appears as if D is turning out like Charu . She has found love but she does not expect V to have it and if he cannot give it , is satisfied with his Dosti offer !
V is honest to D but HIDES from all . If his father slept seperately later , he is doing so NOW only ! And he gives no cause for hope to his young wife except ETERNAL DOSTI while he moons on his dates with Sabina !
Mooning over Chandraprabha in private moments did not stop IMV from being a responsible husband !
Neither did Charu , who was as practical as Devki , expect love etc from him , she accepted her husband as he was ! She had a life , in laws , children to look forward to !
But she warned her son and told him that there r moments of unhappiness in my picture perfect life ! U please AVOID going our way !
Has son done it ? Nope ! He is going a Far more worse way !
I too do not want him to end like IMV Charu . Thats why I say he shud break up with D . After observing his Parents marraige and dwelling on mom's warning if he still thinks its best to continue THIS way only ...God help him , he gets no sympathy from me at least .
Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 14 years ago
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