Kabhi Neem Neem- Kabi Shahad Shahad - Q&A

I was kind of pissed off big time with Jai's earlier rude and cold attitude towards Bani, but atleast he was not confusing at that time! But now a days, ever since the Goa Episode, Cuddles seems to be confusing both Bani and the viewers with his "aank micholi"!

Like yesterday, he supported Bani openly and deliberately called her a "Family Member" and Roshni an "Outsider" but at the same time, he agreed to what Roshni wanted, upsetting Bani! Though I agree that Bani has really no right to be upset because Jai has not made any promises to her...and she should really be grateful that he is not screaming and shouting on her as before.

Then the Bedroom scene, where Jai threatens Bani in the most vicious manner till date by saying, "Agar tum nein mere Ateet ko jaane ki koshish ki, toh mein tumhare bhavishya ko kahin ka nahin chodoonga..." Jai has never really rattled Bani in this manner, and she is chilled to her spine with fear!

The next day, huzoor lovingly tells Bani that he will take her to the Temple himself...and then when she comes with her Pooja Ki Thali to sit in the Car, that silly, ever grinning Roshni is sitting with Jai! And when Roshni sarcatically gives an explanation, Jai tells Roshni rather rudely that she has no need to give any explanations to Bani and tells his wife to sit in the back seat!

There is no doubt that Jai has had a complete change in attitude since Mausi and Roshni have dropped by...especially after Roshni came in! And he is surely falling in love with Bani but at the same time, his attitude towards her is very confusing.

Some questions on Jai's attitude towards Bani;

If Jai wants to divorce Bani and protect her from knowing the mysterious truth that Roshni wants to disclose, then why is he giving mixed signals to Bani? Why is Jai showing care and affection towards Bani when he already guess's very well what she feels for him and such gestures on his part will only deepen her emotions and cause her further pain later on?

Do you feel that the change in Jai's attitude towards Bani is due to Roshni's arrival or has the guilt of making Bani an unneccesary punching bag been lingering in his heart for a long time since their marriage? Or is it simply because he has fallen in love with her much against his wishes and just cannot carry on hurting her anymore?

Do you think that Jai is doing more harm to Bani than any good by being caring and kind towards her, incase he is planning to divorce her in a few days?

Do you think that whatever Jai is doing these days has more to do with his own conflicting emotions and feelings than anything planned towards Bani?

Is it jealousy that is bringing out the Hidden Love for Jai in Bani or is it the already existing Love for Jai in her Heart that is making Bani Jealous?

What do you make out of Jai's cold threat to Bani, "Agar tum nein mere ateet ke baare mein jaane ki koshish ki, toh mein tumhare bhavishya ko kahin ka nahin chodoonga?"

Will be awaiting your answers, my Old Faithfuls!😳

Lots of Love,

MT

Hi to you all,

Mistletoe you have a point there. I think our Jai is fighting hard not to fall in love with Bani and that is the reason he is harsh towards her. Jai knows that for sure that slowly Bani too is falling in love with him!!!!

The softnesss towards Bani is proof that our Cuddles in in love with his darling wife.

okay a quick response to what you wrote!!

Personally to me, Jai's attitude have changed drastically and it basically changed by the arrival of mausi and roshni. He's definitely not the jai is was after he got married to bani. I do feel that somewhere bani is also responsible to change jai for good. Roshni's arrival actually made somewhat positive coming out of jai's attitude. Now he certainly doesn't treat bani like he use to. If he took bani side, he also took roshni's side for the reason that he doesn't want to hurt bani, and he somewhat feels timidity around roshni.

A reason of guilt might be correct. The guilt of past and present traumatize him so much. Roshni is certainly here to get rid of her guilt of what happened in the past, but jai doesn't want this to be revealed. I think jai might be more responsible for what happened in the past than roshni, who just wants throw it out like anything.

Now what is the past, eh I'm not making no more prediction. I mean it can be anything. When we do make a prediction, next thing you know, the serial just takes twist and turns! but I'm quiet sure that it is certainly related to either kiran or bani, but the thing that is most bothering me is why jai is all gentle with bani now. I mean if this girl is going to be leaving soon, than why is he giving her high hopes. Maybe by jai's part, he still doesn't know that bani indeed likes him a lot, that's why he is just showing her some affection because she will be leaving soon, but this change is certainly caused by roshni's entry. Jigyasa ki chaal ulti perr gayee!

Sometimes i feel that roshni might be here for the good, but why most of the time she is always giving bani attitude and always talks to her sarcastically. I know she is not a negative character, but she doesn't look positive either; so i'm just not going to judge!

Knowing bani, she too has feelings for jai, but I don't think she grasp that either! Today's scene was genuinely agreeable when bani was feeling some heat after seeing roshni in the front seat. I feel that bani will find out the truth for sure, and this will happen in these ten days. I'm sure if she finds something fishy that is associated to her family, she will surely go to the bottom of this secret, but like I feel roshni wants to get over her culpability by revealing the secret, Jai should feel the same way. If bani does finds out and it's not by the confession of jai, then there will obviously be problems, especially if the secret is related to her or her mother. Last but not least, this preposterous thought just came to my mind about bani's mom kiran! I somewhat feel (I know this is ridiculous) that bani's mom might be alive! Lolzzz I know man this doesn't make sense, but just a absurd thought of mine!! Well this was just my opinion!!

Will answer your questions tomorrow MT!! right now I'm just hitting the bed!! Very tired!
Cheers girl
Love
Khoo

Hi MT!

The songs our Khadoos perfectly doesn't it? Sometimes I just give up understanding Jai and accept him the way he is… varna by the time I understand his contradicting nature I will be complete gone case. I have stopped thinking too much about jai, I only think when u r Questionnaire comes up. 😆

If Jai wants to divorce Bani and protect her from knowing the mysterious truth that Roshni wants to disclose, then why is he giving mixed signals to Bani? Why is Jai showing care and affection towards Bani when he already guess's very well what she feels for him and such gestures on his part will only deepen her emotions and cause her further pain later on?
U have a point there, very valid. But somehow I feel both of them have an instinctive feeling they are not going to drift apart😳. Esp Jai, the way he told Bani we will see what has to been done later, he sounded to me as if THAT DAY is not going to come and even Yday the way he told Bani it applies only to Family not guests suggested that now and forever Bani is Jai's family! Even Bani actions suggest the same, She asked Dadi what Roshini has to do with 'THEIR' family and Jai. Bani seemed to have a rude awakening when Jai reminded her she was here only for a few days… that hurt her more than anything else.
When u have such strong instincts it tends to show and overshadow any intension which is not supported by the heart. Same thing is happening with Jai… though he is very conscious not to show love and care for Bani, it automatically comes out at times. Bani's gestures overwhelm his emotions in such a way that he just has to show it, involuntarily. And when he knows he has done something pleasant and he can do something about it, he does. That is what he did with that White Shirt. I would say all his gestures are more of a reaction to Bani than his own actions. He cant do anything about it. Bechara!

Do you feel that the change in Jai's attitude towards Bani is due to Roshni's arrival or has the guilt of making Bani an unneccesary punching bag been lingering in his heart for a long time since their marriage? Or is it simply because he has fallen in love with her much against his wishes and just cannot carry on hurting her anymore?

He has fallen in love with her and nothing else. He couldn't continue hurting her coz he was the one who ended up being more hurt that her and more importantly she didn't deserve it. Massi's presence and her attitude towards Bani only made him realize what a gem he has in his life. He would have blissfully fallen in love with Bani if Roshini hadn't turned up. Roshini turning up just made him realize he might lose her and worse, hurt her. He is basically confused. He doesn't want to lose her but he is convinced if the truth will comes out, he will lose her for sure. But in all this he is sure that his 1st priority is to make sure Bani isnt hurt…. Even if that means he has to lose her😭.

If he wants he can hide it forever, but that would keep pricking his conscious… and more over he cant trust Roshini to keep her mouth shut for eternity. This turmoil he is going through is worse than what he went through at the time when Pia deserted him. Jai needs a jadu ki jappi and be told 'tension nahi lene ka' 😃

Do you think that Jai is doing more harm to Bani than any good by being caring and kind towards her, incase he is planning to divorce her in a few days?
No, as I said earlier both of them instinctively feel they are together for life now. So the word Divorce is nothing but a mere word or maximum a formality. That would in no way affect Jai-Bani's relationship. Even if they are separated they are not going to stop being caring about eachother. And anyway even if they stay apart, these moments will always keep them together and may even bring a smile on their faces not necessarily a tear in their eyes.
And moreover I don't think this is only a cause of concern for Bani… coz it is Bani who is much more caring, spoiling Jai right, left center. Imagine Jai's condition if Bani would have to leave him one fine day? He will be shattered the most, he misses her even for the slightest things😭. That shows Jai has given himself up to Bani. No worry these two aren't going anywhere. God seems to hate the possibility of sepearting these two👏. No wonder Bani showed up in Jai life when jai least expected despite Jai turning his back to Bani and her family coz of the 'Past'😆 Ab ke bhar Jai-Bani do something to go away from eachother…. God is going to batter them up… not to forget myself before that! 😡😆

Do you think that whatever Jai is doing these days has more to do with his own conflicting emotions and feelings than anything planned towards Bani?
I have never believed Jai does anything planned… whatever he does, it is simple, sometimes stupid, insensitive impulsive beahaviour from his side. Most often there is no justification, it is just a need to prove a point…however trivial it is. His behaviour these days are thanks to his conflicting emotions. It is a battle between what he wants and what he should do. I wish he finds out a way soon… I cant see him like this for long. He should make up his mind to fight for his love… atleast it is worth a try. I want him to try than assume things to be the worst and give up. Obviously he knows Bani loves him… so that wont mean he is forcing the marriage on her.

Is it jealousy that is bringing out the Hidden Love for Jai in Bani or is it the already existing Love for Jai in her Heart that is making Bani Jealous?
It is all the same, I feel. Love is Love.. hidden or out in open. Looking at Bani, I don't feel it is hidden love… it could be unrealized though. Whatever it is, it makes me feel good watching Bani scowling for a change. I am waiting for her to throw a tantrum and Jai stand absolutely dumb struck and confused.😆😉

What do you make out of Jai's cold threat to Bani, "Agar tum nein mere ateet ke baare mein jaane ki koshish ki, toh mein tumhare bhavishya ko kahin ka nahin chodoonga?"
The guy is very smart. He didn't mean a word of what he said… his intension was just to scare the wits of Bani so that she doesn't dare venture into the No–Entry zone. Having said that, he should be alert not to react in that manner. He is only making Bani more curious about his 'Past' especially when she has an idea that her family is connected in some way. Jai's threat will keep Bani away from that secret for another 2 days atleast… till Roshini does something stupid or Jai reacts in an impulse. 😕

That's it for now.
lots of Luv
Anu.

Great questions and equally great answers.
I will try to hurriedly answer some of them.
I feel that Jai is presently at the phase of falling in love with Bani, without his realising it either. That was the reason and probably Roshni's entry that made him decide to divorce Bani (although the axe had been hanging over her head from day one itself) and thus protecting her from further harm.
But, he definitely has not yet realised his feelings for Bani completely.
Bani is very much in love with him and is wearing her heart on her sleeves. I think Jai is not unaware of this and is trying to make her exit easy.
Though his waxing and waning behaviour with Bani will cause her more harm than anything else.

i agree MT 😊
it is tru tht jai's attitude toward bani changed but at the same time now it's so confusing as 1 day he is so nice n the next day he is rude.....

oh! i want him to change as to b only nice to bani.....n stay tht way permanently for ever...... 😳

Nice questions as usual MT... 👏

I think Jai being the older, most powerful and filled with revenge feels free to show both his gentler caring side and ruthless terror side to Bani whenever he feels fit to do.. I don't think he even blinks for a moment when he yells and screams at Bani cause Bani's desire to know his past does not warrant the threat he made to her about destroying her future..But he did that to show her how much he wants to protect her from the past by only way he has chosen to deal with her, yell at her... Man I think he needs to see a shrink asap as it does not take much to tick him off.. 😡 after all he has prblem with his BP... 😭

As for Bani being jealous of Roshni, like a traditional wife she can tolerate anything he throws at her except the Souten...No self respecting wife can accept another woman in her husband's life as long as she is married to him ,no matter how illtreating he is to her...

As for Jai , he has realized Bani is the most beautiful person inside out and she poses no threat to him and has started to respect and care for her... He knows eventualy it will turn to love but at this point he does not believe in love nor does he consider worthy of her love. He knows Bani will not leave the marriage and make it work as long as HE wants to but he is so confused with conflicting feelings about what he wants to do with her that he keeps going back and forth to being a caring husband and ruthless monster..

I like the way he apologises to Bani with his eyes when he realises his mistake after screaming at her like when she turned up in Goa...
I must say that he tries to be ever so gentle with her after his round of yelling.... 😃

[COLOR = BLUE]If Jai wants to divorce Bani and protect her from knowing the mysterious truth that Roshni wants to disclose, then why is he giving mixed signals to Bani? Why is Jai showing care and affection towards Bani when he already guess's very well what she feels for him and such gestures on his part will only deepen her emotions and cause her further pain later on?

In my humble opinion, Jai is going through a horrible time. First it was Pia, then the forced marriage with Bani, by the time he could recover, its the trauma of playa cting and lieing to Mausi, on top of that its Roshini. AND on top of that, fight as he might, he is not able to hate Bani.
Bani who just denies him any response to his jibes/taunts. It is impossible to hurt anyone who doesnt react and is willing to take all the crap.Know what I mean. In short, Jai isnt planning his reactions to Bani.

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Do you feel that the change in Jai's attitude towards Bani is due to Roshni's arrival or has the guilt of making Bani an unneccesary punching bag been lingering in his heart for a long time since their marriage? Or is it simply because he has fallen in love with her much against his wishes and just cannot carry on hurting her anymore?

I dont want to talk about Queen Style from Mumuland of the Planet of the Jerks...My BP will sky rocket....I cant stand her😡 Did you see the way she was lording over the front seat ??
A deep breathe ..I shall control my feelings and begin talking about her later

[COLOR = BLUE]Do you think that Jai is doing more harm to Bani than any good by being caring and kind towards her, incase he is planning to divorce her in a few days?

If caring for Bani is doing her harm, then Jai is harming himself Equally! You see, when you care about others even for a minute, you are bonded to them for that minute.You own them for that minute for yourself. When he lets Bani go, I am pretty sure, he will be hurt as well, ( even if there is no love). The difference between both their hurts is, Bani is 23 and cant handle losing such a love, Jai has been there and done that.

[COLOR = BLUE]Do you think that whatever Jai is doing these days has more to do with his own conflicting emotions and feelings than anything planned towards Bani? [/COLOR

As I already mentioned, he isnt planning his behavior at all. it's part character inconsistency by Balaji, part his conflicting emotions.

[COLOR = BLUE]Is it jealousy that is bringing out the Hidden Love for Jai in Bani or is it the already existing Love for Jai in her Heart that is making Bani Jealous?

Scandal and jealousy. Bani is Ms Goody Two Shoes..she is the Ekta Kapoor heroine, middle class, cultured and respects Indian values..First off, she cant stand The Queen of Style from Mumuland of the Planet of Jerks (QSMPJ), Second off, she cant respecgt someone who is 'immoral' enough to fling herself at a married man, and that too a man who treats her ( QSMPJ) like dirt.
What do you make out of Jai's cold threat to Bani, "Agar tum nein mere ateet ke baare mein jaane ki koshish ki, toh mein tumhare bhavishya ko kahin ka nahin chodoonga?" thirdly and lastly, its a pinch of possessiveness.

Hi MT

I agree with Anu. I only put on my thinking cap when I see your Questionaire😊. Otherwise trying to figure out Jai and his behaviour along with his Dark Past mystery drives me nuts. 😉

It is surprising to see you being pissed off at Mr. Cuddles 😉. But seriously his behaviour is very confusing these days. I was about to post my thoughts about it.

Coming to your answers

If Jai wants to divorce Bani and protect her from knowing the mysterious truth that Roshni wants to disclose, then why is he giving mixed signals to Bani? Why is Jai showing care and affection towards Bani when he already guess's very well what she feels for him and such gestures on his part will only deepen her emotions and cause her further pain later on?

Absolutely right. But I feel that 'going to divorce' in Jai-Bani's case is just a phrase. They both know in their hearts that they would never like to be seperated from each other now. Jai can very well see the love in Bani's eyes these days even though she may herself not realise it. Same is the case with Jai. But the only problem is bani is too scared of him as of now to really understand what he says and means are two different things. That is becoz she does not expect him to love her. Jai is trying hard not to fall for her but he is so overwhelmed with her dedication and her selfless gestures towards him as well as Mausi that he cannot stop himself from being gentle with her now. Especially after he has told her that he does not want to hurt her anymore. But when he realises that he was being nice and is in danger of showing his real emotions to Bani he clamps up and goes back to his rude behaviour. The shirt scene was the best example.

About Bani getting hurt, she is going to be hurt no matter what coz she is totally in love with him. But at the same time she is a practical girl and knows that basically Jai is a person with a good heart and his nice gestures towards her are just a part of his personality. I don't think she is assuming that Jai is doing all this becoz he likes her or loves her. You will be devastated only if you believe or assume that the person is in love with you and means and does everything out of love.

Do you feel that the change in Jai's attitude towards Bani is due to Roshni's arrival or has the guilt of making Bani an unneccesary punching bag been lingering in his heart for a long time since their marriage? Or is it simply because he has fallen in love with her much against his wishes and just cannot carry on hurting her anymore?

He has fallen in love with her no doubt about it but at the same time he is confused with his emotions and does not realise that its love as yet. I think he decided to let go of his anger towards Bani after seeing her dedication towards his family and to save his own sanity becoz he knows it not only hurts bani but himself as well. There is no other reason for his change of attitude towards Bani. He knew he is being unfair to her from the beginning but when Roshni came and he came to know her intentions about disclosing the so called raaz, he is now afraid that Bani is going to leave him. He in his heart knew that the marriage is for keeps but now with Roshni threating it, he is trying to prevent Bani from getting hurt and hence trying to hide it. What he does not understand is that trying to protect Bani from getting hurt is a very big sign of being in love. He does not want bani to read too much into his intentions and hence the rude behaviour.

Do you think that Jai is doing more harm to Bani than any good by being caring and kind towards her, incase he is planning to divorce her in a few days?

Like I said earlier, he is not planning on divorcing her at any point. In their case divorce is just a phrase which he keeps repeating like a mantra becoz that's what they had agreed on in the beginning. Jai does not want Bani to know that he has come to care for her.

Do you think that whatever Jai is doing these days has more to do with his own conflicting emotions and feelings than anything planned towards Bani?

Yup absolutely. Jai is on the verge of falling in love with Bani and hence the loving gestures and looks creep in from time to time. But at the same time he keeps reminding himself about not falling in the same trap once again and hence the repeated reference to the divorce and rude behaviour.

Is it jealousy that is bringing out the Hidden Love for Jai in Bani or is it the already existing Love for Jai in her Heart that is making Bani Jealous?

Its the Hidden love for jai that is creeping out and making Bani jealous. Till date she was doing everything for Jai thinking that its her duty as a wife and she never expected Jai to have any feelings for her. But when she sees Roshni and knows about a past shared relationship between them, she does not like it. She too has to first differentiate between what she has being doing for jai was duty or was it out of love.

What do you make out of Jai's cold threat to Bani, "Agar tum nein mere ateet ke baare mein jaane ki koshish ki, toh mein tumhare bhavishya ko kahin ka nahin chodoonga?"

that was just plain dhamki which he gave to put fear in her. He does not mean anything and nor is he going to do anything. He said that only because he does not want Bani to find out about the past secrets which might ruin her happiness and future as well. And also it was a partly because he knows when she finds out their current relationship will be affected and he has come to rely on her, got used to her. So he does not want her to go. That was his own way to preventing her from leaving.

But Mr. Cuddles does not know that when a husband tells a wife not to do anything that will only make them do it more. Cuddles ne apne haatho khud ke pair par kulhadi maar li he. Now Bani is definately going to find out about his raaz one way or the other. 😉