A, J, G and the 'True' love

Well, when SRK said those famous words in KKHH, i didnt get it.. 😆.. more so coz he was jst abt to "re-discover" or fall in love all over again, and get married the 2nd time...😆😆.. bt wat was depicted beautifully was the thin line betn attachment of f'ship and attachment of love betn a couple..😳.. and how a young boy perceives love today.. its physical attraction + desire + compatibility + emotion + fulfillment = love = marraige.. thrs no room for sacrifice, intensity, patience, tolerance, gratitude, morality, simplicity, or families' acceptance in love of this age.. its all about wat thy want, how thy want, and y thy want..

tho I wud like to defend J and his love for G.. coz for him G seemed to b ideal life partner.. the personality more suitable to wat he aspired to be.. a sophisticated successful doctor... G was was free spirited and lived life on her own terms.. voiced her opinion.. and had thinking and beliefs of her own.. unlike Anandi who was always under shackles and responsibilities and her free spirit was marred and progressive thinking was prohibited... she had never lived life for herself.. well tht was not her choice.. bt its not wat J wud understand.. and everytime J wanted to break free.. A pulled him back... she had to.. she was torn betn her duty as a bahu and her duty as a wife... wer as G wud fly along with him.. pretty much wat a young rich ambitious college lad wud want.. no shackles.. no responsibilities.. no need to be considerate for others.. tho he mite b a caring, sensitive, and good guy.. bt a pampered lot who hadnt thot beyond himself till now in his own life.. for him likeness = love.. he married J bcoz he wanted her.. she was his obsession... a life of freedom and he clinged to her... bt i really dont know wat G saw in J.. 😆.. bt she defo made a mistake by marrying in such a hurry..

G too clearly failed in her r'ship with J.. she jst cudnt think beyond herself, her pain, her suffering, her insult, her loss, her jealousy, her insecurities, her rights, her self-respect... she was so engrossed in herself, tht she failed to see wat her husband did behind her back.. how her husband lied to save himself, his cowardness, his dependency, his inabilities.. and most importantly his loose morals.. she always told J to understand her state of mind.. her feelings.. wen she tried to compel everything on him.. acceptance of her love, quick mrg, going to haveli.. how i wished instead she once tried to understand J and question his feelings for his family members, for A, and thot abt his secretive attitude in haveli..how he intended to get the money they needed.. how to support him wen his family is shunning him away.. how everybody was insulting her husband...

its said one's true character is revealed in times of greatest adversity.. wen one's support system is lost, how a person helds on his beliefs and decisions.. and the will power.. J is jst gonna live it!😆

J mite b a caring and sensitive person bt he is opportunistic and self-centered as well.. he loves shortcuts, easy money, easy life, his ambitions, his ego.. now comes the true test of all his claims.. with the support system gone, lets c if he gets equally irritated with J as he was with A wen things dint go as he wished..😆

For A, her love was her beend.. thts wat she was tot and thts how she percieved love.. and she did everything possible to make it realize and work.. she was a perfect wife and lover.. except tht she failed to gauge changes in J and forsee its repurcussions on her mrg.. no dbt her family was conservative, bt had she not be utterly dejected by J's rejection, disapproval, and continuous fault-finding in her.. she wud've gathered enuf will power and took some steps to firefight on time..

at this juncture in thr life, all 3 claim thr love to be "true".. bt my verdict is wer J's and G's love r yet to be tested.. A's already tested and proved.. J mite not b worthy of it.. or he fails to see its worth.. bt its not the rite time or measure to compare thr loves..

I dont agree tht man cannot fall in love twice.. bt yes he cannot love a person with the same intensity same passion.. thr has to b a difference.. thr has to be some compromise.. and somebody's love has to be "trurer" than others..

bt r'ships dont work this way.. r'ships dont work on "trueness" of love.. r'ships r to be made to work.. thy work on adjustments, gratitudes, and trust.. and true love is cherry on topping.. bt the love tht once blossomed has to "stay".. the romance has to be rekindled time and again to keep the flame of love burning.. and wen destiny tries to test it, it has to stand tall and dignified agains all the odds.. 😳 For A it was not enuf..

its sad that inspite of everything A's love didnt work.. her love was true but yet it didnt work.. so she has to move on.. the next person she meets, she mite not love him like J.. bt she wud held him way above J.. look at him with much of respect.. a failed love can teach u to make ur life way better, change ur thinking, and u learn to make things work for good.. for the happiness.. happiness is always subjective and relative and can always b achieved by living in present and cherishing wat u've got in hand right now...

as for G-J's fate, i m sure they wud try to make thr love happen.. bt it seems thy wont stand tests of time.. it wudnt b long enuf b4 thy will realize tht thy have loads of expectations from each other.. tht thy cannot meet.. and the past named A is always going to haunt thm.. and wud take a toll on thr r'ship...

He'll realise what a shit place he was living in...a sanskari nagging wife who is always dressed in saari suits...kunda tai always feeding him boring kanda poha...

he wld prefer burgers and cokes to tht.

So he'll free himself from the shackles of marriage.

He'll realise tht was just infatuation not true love..true love is this...Hot firangi girl..with much more modern outlook.

He'll repeat his old dialog again "mumbai muje apna lo"..(this time in english)" "New York please accept me"...and the story repeats...

ppl like Jagya dont know what is true love...they know upgrading wives.